亮媽小語：子女壇回帖集錦（四）

回答: 我有些絕望 由 想當個好媽媽 於 2004-03-28 19:46:22

You can play with him first to build the trust. Once you tell him what he needs to do, stay firm with it. Sometimes you need to tell him a reason, but sometimes just tell him he has to follow the direction. Give the warning first when he doesn't do it. If you tell him the second time and he fails to do so, take one of his favorite things away or not allow him to play with it...then he will gradually understand the consequences of not following the order. Good luck.

 

回答: very good experience! 由 krmm 於 2004-05-11 07:19:26

Thank you. Glad to know it is a bit help.

I just read the article "將美國的雙語教學丟進垃圾箱" to Liang Liang. When
he heard about "想讓孩子能說最出色英文的中國家長們，最重要的是首先讓孩子
學會最出色的中文。", he agrees. He is glad that we did not teach him English,
but Chinese so he can learn standard English from his teachers and native
speakers.

 

回答: 兒子學習開車 (圖) 由 單身母親 於 2005-07-10 20:30:45

和你有同感這些日子每次出門兒子都是要開車。新手上路，做媽的總是免不了在一旁提醒兩聲。“踩閘”， “減速”是常用的詞兒。 一天晚上買東西回來，我為了快點回家就坐在司機的位子上， 兒子坐在一旁。正開著，聽兒子突然一聲“踩閘”，馬上下意識
的把腳放到了閘上，以為沒看到STOP SIGN ，嚇了我一跳。沒想到他自己先笑了，
說“您能知道我開車時您喊我是什麽感覺了吧” 哈，他小子在教育我呢。現在他
開車，我索性坐到後邊去了。

 

You have to teach them that they are in charge of their intelle

This is a key point from yesterday's Time Magazine. November 14, 2005. The cover page is The secrets of ambition.
Liang came back home and started to read it. He shared what he got from two articles about this issue. He said the main point of what parents can do is to
"set up tough and reasonable goals for their children
applaud for their success
take their failure easily"
There are more important points. But I got to go. I may post it later.

 

回答: 我想問問：小孩子幫我幹活，是給錢好還是告訴他是幫媽媽？ 由 北雁南飛 於 2005-11-29 00:33:20

亮亮從4年級開始就開始幫我洗碗，他為此還在6年級時做了一個SCIENCE 小實驗比較
4種洗碗劑的去汙效果。最後獲州裏SCIENCE FAIR的3等獎。現在我用的洗碗劑還是
他實驗中發現的最好的牌子。他在幫我洗碗時我不給他錢。但我有時給他記點數，
如洗碗$5，鋤草$20等。然後告訴他在他的帳戶上有多少錢可以付他的CELLO LESSON
AND TENNIS LESSON。當然以前大多還是我付的比他賺的多。現在他可以為WEDDING
OR PARTY拉琴賺錢付他上課的錢，但洗碗的時間就少了。你們家的孩子真可愛， 這
麽小就可以幫你，羨慕。

 

回答: 我這個孩子怎麽管？ 由 穀米 於 2005-12-05 18:16:02

2歲可以讓她去體操房去玩。美國的體操課在她的這個年齡階段主要是讓孩子通過各
種身體活動了解WHAT MY BODY CAN DO， HOW MY BODY CAN DO AND WHERE MY BODY
CAN GO。孩子可以建立良好的身體平衡的能力，空間知覺，基本的動作能力，如走，
跑，跳，等。她通過上課還可以學習HOW TO FOLLOW THE DIRECTIONS， AND HOW TO
INTERACT WITH OTHER KIDS。 另外還可以通過活動使她的能量得以釋放是一舉幾得
的好方法。

 

回答: 像你家亮亮那樣乖的孩子不多。 由 我是guihua 於 2005-12-14 07:19:38

我覺得還是看家長在關鍵的時候有沒有決心。記得他2歲多的時候他想買書。我覺得
家裏的書已經夠了，就說不買。他一直邊走邊哭，直到和我走回家。這時如果心軟，
和他妥協，他會知道將來會用什麽樣的方法來得到他想要的東西。我不會打他，也
不會著急，但我會告訴他今天他不會得到他想要的。所以他從小就知道和媽媽軟磨
硬泡沒有用。但我會想到他的需要，主動問他，或給他買他喜歡的。 一點心得，每
個孩子的情況不一樣。我也許是LUCKY。總的來說他是屬於能聽的進去的。