今天被氣到了
(2009-01-06 20:57:01)
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到了俺老人家這把年紀,說實話已經不想帶candidate出去吃飯了,跟我都沒什麽關係了阿,嗬嗬,但是主治醫生發話,還是要帶。
帶就帶吧,今天兩個candidate,男的有點小帥,過於流氣,女的豐滿,過於風流,兩個人坐上我的車,跟我打了招呼,寒暄幾句,然後開始互相聊天,後來竟然當我是透明,在後座上公然打情罵俏...我PGY3年來,這可是頭一回看見阿。
吃飯的時候,男生給我的印象極不好,說話不禮貌,自我感覺不知道為什麽很好,對女生說話用詞分寸很不注意。突然他問我我們醫院支持不支持H1visa,我說有。我還納悶他一個美國人問這個幹嗎,男candidate竟然說,這就好,我prefer醫院不支持H visa,這樣我們就不用跟那些外國人競爭了,他們都考99分,也不知
道怎麽考出來的,然後那個豐滿女生說,印度的聽說跟GRE一樣,都有作弊的。。。
我當時真的被氣到了,但是不想當場翻臉。一吃完就結帳走人。回來的車上,男的還不shut up,問我你為什麽選擇這個醫院,你有什麽後悔麽,我說,I got everything I wanted here, but everybody comes here for different things, if you don't know what you are, what you look for, i am not sure here will be a right place for you.
兩個人都不知道說什麽了。我把他們放在hotel,就離開了。明天肯定要跟主治醫生說一下的,從他們跨入我的車打情罵俏開始,他們的interview就結束了。
我覺得照片沒有實物好。上海灘的衣料是很好的,照片上看不出來。另外,價格在香港比較便宜,特別是減價時。根據我的觀察,你比較喜歡素色的classic的,可能你會喜歡它的羊毛羊絨開衫。中國的東西一向以廉價著名。上海灘是個例外,設計,衣料都好,又沒有傳統名牌那樣彈眼落睛,還是國貨,我真的很喜歡,不好意思說了這麽多。
不管從哪國人的角度來看,那兩個人實在是很沒有教養。有時候,教養和受教育程度是不成正比的。
Sorry that you had such an unpleasant experience.
The behavior of the two candidates is very unprofessional and completely unacceptable. The way the male candidate asked the question only showed he lacked confidence of competing with his peers. With his attitude, there's no way he can face the challenge from thousands of very talented people from all over the world. Another important quality they lack is respect. If they don't understand that all relationships are based on mutual respect, they wouldn't be successful, no matter which profession they will choose.
Again, this has nothing to do with 城裏人 or 鄉下人, 純粹是個人素質和修養的問題。LuoHua, you did the absolutely right thing to report it to your supervisor. We're with you.
謝謝eric地提醒。我今天跟主治醫生說的時候,也問他是不是自己的overreacting了,我知道我們作為外國人,比較容易太過敏感。我把他說得原話告訴主治醫生,他同意這樣的candidate他們絕對是不會考慮的。
我工作到現在,從來沒有聽到過其他美國醫生說過類似的話,類似的表現,醫院第一講究的就是professionalism,你心裏想什麽我沒辦法控製,但是你在這樣嚴肅的場合不負責任地發表這種言論,我覺得絕對不能以“美國文化”來寬容。
至於你的城裏人鄉下人的理論,根本就是錯的,狹隘而沒有文化的表現。我在上海的時候從來不這樣跟其他城市的學生說話。
如果你是美國長大的,可能會用不同的視角來看這件事。
bali,我們這裏鄉下,肯定不會有的,我其實平時也不太穿中國特色的衣服,隻是非常喜歡這條旗袍的顏色,所以拿出來自己臭美一下。上海灘的那個衣服,網站上會有照片麽?
落花,謝謝分享照片。不錯嘛,腿很長腰很細嘛:-) 不過,我老覺得旗袍過於隆重。改良的旗袍或者帶點旗袍意思的設計很容易穿。我喜歡“上海灘”的設計,有中國特色,時髦又不過於花哨。不知道你那兒有沒有這個牌子?
I totally sympathize with you. I had a similar experience a couple of years ago when I had to take two exchange student out. They were both extremely rude. The first question the male student asked me when I greeted him was he wanted to know how old I was. And when I told him my age, both him and the female student gasped in disbelief, they both told me they can't believe how old I was. And they flirted with each other while in my car. The male student keep complaining about the route I was taking. And the perfume the female student is wearing is so strong that I had to open all four windows. An unpleasant experience indeed.
妹妹你罵的好,是該好好教訓一下這些不知天高地厚的小毛孩。
明天一定跟主治匯報這件事。
支持你!!!