We all have such a dream, yet may have chosen to settle down because of the fear for loneliness... Thank you so much for sharing this story and the beautiful music. I have just written down the note and will practise.
以艾森這樣暗藏的豪氣,算得上個情感超人了。尋常人家的孩子,情況總或有不同,就譬如年輕時走進relationship,也未必匆匆,也曾說服自己是真愛,隻是年少無知而不自知;但是成年後,卻漸漸明白,究竟什麽才是自己真愛的長長的list,這時候倘若又碰到符合真愛list的伊芙,那麽回思眼前已曆多年的relationship,驀然體會到的孤獨,才最是直刺心底的。而這時候 move on 一步的艱難,恐怕更難於54年孤獨的自守。當然,個中的艱難,難相比;艾森的勇氣,卻可鑒;得到真愛需付出代價,皆難免,隻是這代價的內容,太不同。結果如何,歸根結底,還是取決於這份真愛深到何等程度,取決於追求真愛者是何等人格。
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Luo Hua,
Here is something I wrote probably 1 year ago. We are probably not that different in this issue.
Believe in love.
Maybe it is not practical to believe in love. Anyway, nowadays we do know a lot about the biological, evolutionary, and neural nature of love. We know that love is an illusion of nature so that we become eager to pass on our genes. We know some chemicals can make us fall in love with someone or something, or vice versa. We know that there are mathematical and economic research about love and marriage and romance. Psychologists offer suggestions on how to love and to be loved, in a manner that love is analytical and operational, and everyone follows the recipe should be an expert in love.
But love is about the passion, the feeling, the moment, that is unexplained, untold, non-repeatable, and non-understandable. Love gives the spirit, the meaning to life, the strength for us to endure the everyday boredom. Love let us enjoy today and expect tomorrow. With love, we are not the mere host of our genes, but persons completing each other, with our own wills and emotions.
How old is he when he passed away? How many years did they have together?
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This is another sad story of being perfectionistic. It scares me away. It is so dangerous to be perfectionistic: the story may read like a poem, the life must be a lonely, unhappy one. I don't know whether it is true: either Eva is the perfect match for Ethan, which I doubt, or Ethan changed his opinion over time, which he might not even realize. I also don't know if the final years with Eva were able to compensate for the loneliness Ethan had suffered for many years. But it seems that Ethan was happy, finally, and it is probably our nature to selectively forget the pains and unhappiness in the past to savor the happiness better. We live in our own world, we defend for everything we do, and we are responsible for all the consequences of our actions.