為什麽在中國而不是美國撫養孩子

為什麽我要在中國而不是美國撫養孩子 | 這些原因會讓你震驚

Why I am Raising my Kids in China and NOT the USA | The Reasons Will Shock You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRZou7_jh9U

YouTube 2024年9月16日

和我一起討論我在中國而不是美國撫養孩子的原因。我會留在中國還是回到美國。這個決定可能會讓你震驚，但這對我的家人來說是最好的。

嘿，我是 Chris，今天大家好嗎？請和我一起觀看這段視頻，我將深入探討在中國和美國撫養孩子的挑戰，我將在這段視頻中揭示我做出這一決定背後的令人驚訝的原因。我們將討論在中國和美國撫養孩子的問題，這兩個國家截然不同，有著不同的文化價值觀，作為一個經曆過這兩個國家的人，我有一個獨特的視角可以分享。看完這段視頻後，你會確切地知道我更喜歡在哪個國家撫養我的孩子，也可能你會知道你更喜歡在哪個國家撫養你的孩子。我在我的地區旅行時注意到的一件事是，在一些牆壁或建築物上，人們在建築物上畫了壁畫，引人注目的是，沒有人來給它們貼標簽，在上麵塗鴉，所以這段視頻的主題是關於尊重這裏的孩子，他們尊重別人的財產，他們不會給它們貼標簽，噴漆，在上麵做記號，在上麵塗鴉，我尊重這些壁畫，它們都是關於家庭的，看起來像家庭價值觀，這也是這段視頻的主題，沒有塗鴉，沒有任何東西被標記這真是太神奇了，沒有噴漆，沒有標記，牆上隻有畫，但沒有塗鴉，沒有人過來噴漆，用他們的名字、幫派的文字或他們在洛杉磯噴漆的任何東西來表示對它的不尊重，看看這個，沒有人過來做標記，沒有不尊重，這不是你的財產，別管它，這些實際上是漂亮的畫，有人在牆上畫了壁畫，牆上還有另一幅壁畫，沒有人過來噴漆他們的名字，像在洛杉磯那樣不尊重它，什麽都沒有，隻是幹淨，這就是我喜歡中國的原因，尊重別人的財產，它不是你的，你不擁有它，別管它，如果這是洛杉磯，這麵牆就會一團糟，到處都是噴漆標簽塗鴉，有人在這裏畫的壁畫，在世界之巔，最後隻是四處走走，看看發生了什麽，孩子們在這裏玩得很開心，家人享受著美妙的景色，深圳的平安大廈，看看我們能不能從這個窗戶拿出一些東西，再看一眼這個美麗的地方我很感激
每個人都在看這個，留下美好回憶，每個人都很開心，玩得很開心，孩子們玩得很開心，家人隻是留下美好回憶，這就是愛的意義，嗯，一點點愛，作為父母，你可能對養育快樂、健康和成功的孩子的壓力並不陌生，但我們這樣做的方式可能因地而異，無論是在中國還是在美國，父母都麵臨著一些共同的挑戰，比如讓孩子在學業上表現出色，對紀律和禮儀有良好的社會期望，然後就是工作、家庭生活和玩樂之間的平衡，在中國，例如，管孩子的概念是父母高度參與孩子的教育和成長的重要組成部分，經常犧牲自己的個人自由，但為了孩子的利益而犧牲是值得的，看到你的孩子成長為好人，你會感到很高興，在中國，大學考試的競爭非常激烈，這就是為什麽孩子們在很小的時候就那麽努力學習，這些考試可能會成就或毀掉一個孩子的未來，相比之下，我們在教育方麵更注重個性和個人自由，這當然會導致育兒方式更加寬鬆，是的，中國的教育時間很長，家庭作業也很多，我親眼看到孩子們在很小的時候就麵臨學業挑戰，我注意到，中國的老師真的很親力親為，孩子們的家庭作業也有缺點，那就是我的參與，這是有限的，因為很多都是中文的，我在這方麵有限，所以我在育兒方麵，這是一種動力，讓我完成工作，讓工作實現，我隻是把他們推向正確的方向，但歸根結底，在教育方麵，我們希望給孩子最好的，不管你在世界的哪個地方，我們都希望給孩子最好的，這對父母來說是一個沉重的負擔，尤其是對於一個外國人來說，在一個他沒有長大的國家，繼續學習文化和我在中國從事教育工作，但我通過朋友和同事親眼目睹了他們如何處理情況，以及他們在中國如何做父母，我注意到的一件事是，他們把孩子放在第一位，這對我而言是一個改變,e 我這一生都是一個獨立的個體，現在我把別人放在了克裏斯之前，那就是我的孩子，這讓我內心感到很開心。我的生活發生了很多變化，都是為了家庭和孩子。在中國，很多人告訴我，為了讓孩子們成功，他們犧牲了自己的幸福，讓孩子們在美國有一個平衡的成長過程。坦白說，這需要很大的個人因素，這可能會導致孩子走上錯誤的道路。坦白說，在生活中過早地給予太多的自由，可能會導致孩子做出錯誤的選擇，非常糟糕的選擇。作為一個經曆過兩個係統的人，我可以告訴你，要知道正確的道路並不容易，但有一點是肯定的，我們的經曆塑造了我們，我們一路上學到的經驗教訓將對我們的養育選擇產生深遠的影響。有一天，當我出去散步的時候，我意識到，合適的環境會幫助我做出正確的選擇，決定我想在哪裏撫養我的孩子，所以我列出了好事和壞事的清單，壞事太多了，讓人應接不暇。我稍後會談到，在中國和美國撫養孩子，並不是方法好壞的問題，而是對獨特價值觀和文化的理解，你認為這些價值觀和文化最適合你的養育方式，在你應對養育孩子的挑戰和成功時，對成長和變化持開放態度，這將幫助你在這一過程中做出正確的選擇，當我拋開自私的理由，意識到在美國和中國撫養孩子有太多的負麵影響時，我開始與世界各地的家人和朋友交談，閱讀文章，看新聞，做自己的研究，總是跳出來的是安全問題，美國根本不安全，安全安全，美國在這方麵失敗了，盜竊、搶劫、入室盜竊、仇恨犯罪、汽車盜竊和最嚴重的槍支暴力太多了，不幸的是，其中包括我們在新聞中看到的大規模槍擊事件，當這些大規模槍擊事件影響到包括我們的孩子在內的公眾時，這令人心碎，更不用說美國失敗的基礎設施、無處不在的毒品、種族主義、對兒童的欺淩、剛剛倒塌的學校、美國的經濟適用房美國不存在，而且總體上負擔能力在中國，我剛才列出的所有問題都不存在，基本上沒有犯罪，你永遠不會感到威脅，你的車不會被闖入或偷走，你的家不會被闖入，很安全，你可以在白天或晚上的任何時候走在街上，而且很安全，基本上沒有犯罪，是一個無毒品的社會，孩子們不會被同齡人欺負，最重要的是，沒有槍支，沒有槍支意味著什麽，沒有槍支暴力，沒有大規模槍擊事件，我不知道各位家長，或者隻是你們在看這個視頻，對安全有何感想，但對於我們的孩子來說，這是最重要的安全，還有一些其他原因，我個人傾向於留在中國撫養我的孩子，沒有特別的順序，在中國境內旅行很方便，更不用說去其他亞洲國家旅行很方便，讓孩子們在中國境內外再次體驗這個世界的文化，中國很幹淨，中國很安全，中國擁有世界上最便捷的交通基礎設施之一，有高速列車、通勤列車、地鐵、新道路、新高速公路、公交車，就像我之前說過，出於這些原因和其他一些個人原因，隨時隨地走動都是安全的，這就是為什麽我決定在中國而不是美國撫養我可愛的孩子，謝謝你觀看這個視頻，我真的很感激，無論你是否為人父母，我都很樂意看到並閱讀下麵的一些評論，讓我們就我在這個視頻中提出的問題進行一些對話，如果你是新來的，請考慮訂閱，我會很感激的，不要忘記點讚和分享，就像我在過去的視頻中說過的，每個人都有發言權，我會一直尊重你的意見，不管我是否同意，我都會尊重你的意見，所以大家保重，祝大家有個安全美好的一天，我的意思是，那個美好的一天，看看這個，看看這裏有多幹淨，如果這是美國的地區，我不會指名道姓，你知道它會是什麽樣子，你不會舒服，你不會感到安全，但在中國，完全安全第一，非常幹淨，牆上沒有刮痕，沒有塗鴉，什麽都沒有，我甚至在地上找不到一塊垃圾，我不會指名道姓地回到美國但你知道你會看到什麽嗎你不會看到這麽幹淨玻璃上甚至沒有汙跡沒有文字沒有塗鴉沒有什麽令人印象深刻的你得親自來中國乘坐火車係統看看它離開火車出口讓我們看看我們這裏有什麽驚喜不會編輯任何東西看看這個沒有垃圾再次清潔沒有驚喜沒有任何驚喜沒有無家可歸的人沒有塗鴉隻是幹淨你能說什麽據我所知這遍布中國這是一個小站但所有中國的車站都這麽幹淨，沒有塗鴉，火車係統內沒有無家可歸的人，好吧，去地鐵站，坐地鐵，讓我們看看這裏是什麽樣的，看看這個又這麽幹淨，我一直在重複，但這是事實，所以幫我一個忙，在下麵評論一下你的地鐵係統怎麽樣，因為這裏肯定很幹淨，真的很好，拿到我的票，讓我們通過這裏的安檢，好吧，這是一個小小的等候區，在我下樓之前，他們有這些地鐵站，如果還沒有建成的話，中國幾乎到處都有，為中國人民提供便利，看看這個，一塵不染，幹淨，幹淨，太好了，嘿，大門打開了，去地鐵站，地鐵在這裏，讓我們看看我們有什麽，看看這個這麽幹淨，沒有垃圾，看看這個人在清理那裏的垃圾，隻是把它扔掉，看看這個又這麽幹淨，沒有塗鴉，沒有用鑰匙在窗戶上刮擦，就像你在美國某些地方看到的那樣人們在牆上寫上他們的姓名首字母或塗鴉，這裏沒有，隻是幹淨美麗，這裏有一個主題，關於中國地鐵係統的清潔程度，絕對美麗，你親眼看到的，它很幹淨，真的很幹淨，看看這個，另一扇窗戶，沒有劃痕，沒有鑰匙痕跡，牆上沒有字跡，想知道為什麽中國人尊重這個國家的建設，他們不會在牆上騎車，刮掉窗戶，在窗戶上寫上他們的姓名首字母和鑰匙，不，這一切都是為了尊重，我尊重它，他們在這裏的係統還有另一件偉大的事情，他們有誌願者來幫助人們，所以這些誌願者會幫助老年人，他們會確保你被指向正確的方向，準時離開，不會早一分鍾，也不會晚一分鍾，真是太棒了，絕對太棒了，再看看這個，另一列幹淨的火車，再次一塵不染，我想指出一點，沒有用你的鑰匙刮掉的姓名首字母，沒有字跡，沒有塗鴉，隻是幹淨的，出發，讓我們看看我們有什麽在這裏有任何驚喜嗎幹淨真的很幹淨看看這個感覺安全你能在下麵的評論中告訴我如果這是美國的火車站外麵會是什麽樣子會是什麽樣子沒有無家可歸的人你覺得這裏很安全沒有垃圾沒有人們隻是閑逛所以如果這是美國你會在火車站看到什麽在下麵留言讓我知道因為這是我在中國看到的幹淨[音樂]

Why I am Raising my Kids in China and NOT the USA | The Reasons Will Shock You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRZou7_jh9U
YouTube 
YouTube 2024年9月16日

Join me as I discuss the reasons why I am raising my kids in China instead of the USA. Will I stay in China or go back to the US. The decision may shock you, but it's what's best for my family.

Hey Chris here today how's everybody doing join me as I dive into the challenges of raising kids in China versus the US in this video and I'll reveal surprising reasons behind my decision in this video we will discuss raising kids in China versus the USA
which are two vastly different countries with distinct cultural values and as someone who's experienced both I've got a unique perspective to share
by the end of this video you will know
exactly which country I prefer to raise
my children in and possibly what country
you prefer you would raise your children
in let's go one thing I've noticed when
I travel in my area is that on some
walls or buildings there are paintings murals that people
have painted on their buildings and what
jumps out is that nobody has come along
and tagged them put graffiti on them so
it goes in with a little bit of theme
about this video about respect the kids
over here they have respect for other
people's property they don't tag them
spray paint them mark them up put graffiti
and I respect that these murals are all
about family looks like family values
again the theme of this video and no
graffiti nothing is tagged it's actually
amazing no spray paint no markings nothing more paintings on the
wall but no graffiti nobody's come along and spray
painted this dis respected it with their
names gang writings or whatever they
spray paint there in Los Angeles on the
walls look at this nobody's come along
and marked this up at all no disrespect
it's not your property leave it alone
these are actually nice paintings murals
that somebody put on these walls another
mural on the wall nobody's come along
and spray painted their name disrespected it like they would do Los
Angeles nothing just clean that's what I
love about China respect other people's
property it's not yours you don't own it
leave it alone if this was Los Angeles
this wall would be a mess there'd be
spray paint tags graffiti all over this
mural that somebody painted here on top of the world and end just walk around a little bit see what's going on kids having a great time here
families enjoying just a wonderful view Ping On Building in shenzen,see if we can just get something out this window for a second look at this beautiful so again I appreciate
everybody look at this making memories everybody's happy having a good
time the kids just having a good time family just making memories this is what it's
about little bit of love huh little bit of love,as a parent you're likely no stranger to
the pressure to get it right to raise happy healthy and successful kids but the way we go about doing that can vary from where you're at in the world in both China and the USA there are some common challenges that face parents like the pressure to have their
kids perform academically have good social expectations around things like
discipline and manners and then there's the balance of work family life and
having some fun in China for example the concept of Guan or governing children is a huge
part of parents to be highly involved in the kids education and upbringing and
often sacrificing their own personal freedoms but sacrificing for the better
of your children it's worth it there's just something about the joy to see your
children develop into good people in in China it's notorious and competitive for the college exams and that's why children study so hard at early ages these exams could make or break a child's future in contrast us tends to focus more on individuality and personal freedoms when it comes to education which of course leads to a more relaxed approach for parenting and yes education in China has long hours and a lot of homework I see it firsthand kids are academically challenged at Young ages one thing I've noticed that the teachers in China are truly hands on there is a downside to the kids homework and that's my particip it's limited due to the fact that a lot of it is in Chinese and I'm limited in that area so where I do my parenting it's motivation getting the jobs done making it happen and I just push them in the right direction but at the end of the day
education wise we want what's best for our kids no matter where you're at in
the world we all want what's best for our children and that can be a heavy burden
to carry on parents especially for a foreigner in a country where he was not
raised and continues to learn the cultures and the education system which
I'm doing in China but I've seen it firsthand through friends and colleagues
on how they do deal with situations and how they're being parents in China and
the one thing I've noticed they put their kids first and that's been a
change for me I've been an individual person my whole entire life and now I am
putting somebody ahead of Chris and that's my children and it truly makes me
feel good inside I've done a lot of changes in my life a lot and it's all for family and
the children I've had a lot of people tell me in China they've sacrificed a lot of their own happiness to make the kids succeed to make the kids have a well balanced process in growing up in the US let's be honest it's a lot of individuality and this could lead kids
down down the wrong path let's be honest given too much Freedom too soon in life can lead to kids making bad choices very bad choices as someone who has navigated through both systems I can tell you always it's not easy to know the right way but one thing
for sure our experiences shape us and the lessons we learn along the way will
have a profound impact on our parenting choices I realized one day when I was
out for a walk that the right environment would help me make the right
choice on where I wanted to raise my children so I made a list of good things
and bad things and the bad things were overwhelming which I'll touch on
later in the end raising the kids in China versus the USA is not about the
approach of better or worse it's about the understanding of the unique values
and cultures that you decide is best for your parenting and being open to growth and
change as you navigate through your challenges and triumphs on raising your
kids will help you choose the right choices along the way when I put my
selfish reasons aside and realize there were too many negatives with raising the
kids in the US versus China I startedstarted talking to family and friends
worldwide reading articles watching news
and doing my own research and what was always jumping out
was safety the US is simply not safe
safety safety safety the US fails in
this area with too much theft robberies
home break-ins hate crimes car theft and
the worst gun violence which
unfortunately includes mass shootings
that we all see in the news and when those mass shootings impact the public which includes our children it's heart-wrenching not to mention the
failing infrastructure in the US drugs
everywhere racism The Bullying of
children schools that are just Fallen
apart affordable housing in the US
doesn't exist and affordability in
general well in China all of those problems I just
listed doesn't exist there's basically
no crime you never feel threatened your
car is not broken into or stolen your
home is not broken into it's just safe you can walk down the street at any
given time of the day or night and it's
safe it's basically crimeless it's a drug free Society
children are not bullied by their
peers and most importantly there's no
guns and what does no guns mean no gun
violence no mass shootings you know I don't know about you parents or just you watching this video on how you feel about safety but that's number one safety for our children some other reasons I personally lean towards staying in China to raise my children in no particular order easy travel within China not to mention easy travel to other Asian
countries to let the children experience the cultures of this world
inside of China and out side of China again China is clean China is safe China
has one of the most convenient infrastructures for traveling in the
world with their high-speed trains commuter trains subways New Roads new
highways buses and like I said earlier it's safe
to walk around anytime anywhere for these reasons and some
other personal reasons this is why I decided to raise my beautiful children in China instead of the US hey thanks for watching this video I
really appreciate it and if you're a
parent or not I'd love to see and read
some comments below let's get some
dialogue going on what I brought up in
this video if you're new here consider
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I've said in past videos everybody has a
voice here I'll always respect your
opinion whether I agree or not it'll be respected so take care everybody have a
safe and great day and I mean that good day look at this look how clean this is if
this was areas in the United States I
won't name names you know how it would
look you wouldn't be comfortable you
wouldn't feel safe but in China just
Total Safety First and so clean no scrapings on the wall no
graffiti nothing I can't even find a
piece of trash on the ground I'm not
naming names back in the US but you know
what you would see you wouldn't see this
so clean there's not even smudge marks
on the glass no writing no graffiti
nothing impressive you got to come to
China and ride the train system yourself
and see it leaving the train exit let's
see what we have up here any surprises
not going to edit anything look at this no trash
clean again no surprises no surprises at
all no homeless people no graffiti just
clean what can you say and from my
understanding this is throughout China
and this is a small station but all of
the stations are like this clean no
graffiti no homeless people within the
train system in China okay heading down
to a Metro up on the subway let's see
what it's like down here look at this so
clean again I keep repeating myself but
it's the truth so do me a favor comment
below on how your Metro system is cuz
it's sure clean here really nice Got My
Ticket let's go through security here
okay this is a small waiting area before
I go downstairs and they have these
Metro stations popping up if not already
completed pretty much everywhere in
China to make it convenient for the people of
China look at this just Immaculate just
clean so clean so nice hey the gate
opened heading down to the Metro the
subway here let's see what we have
look at this just so clean no
trash look at this person cleaning up
what little Trash there is just getting
rid of it look at this just so clean again no
graffiti nothing no scratching on the
windows with keys like you would see in
certain parts of the US people SC rpe
their initials right on the walls or
graffiti not here just clean beautiful
there's a theme here about how
clean the train systems are within China
in the Metros just absolutely
beautiful you're seeing it with your own
eyes it's clean really clean look at
this another window no scratches no key
marks no writings on the wall want to
know why people of China respect what
the country is built they're not going
to ride on the walls scrape up the
windows put their initials with their
keys on the window no it's all about
respect and I respect it another great
thing they have in the systems here
they've got volunteers to help people
out so these volunteers will help the
elderly they will make sure you're
pointed in the right direction to exit
right on schedule not a minute early or
a minute late just amazing absolutely
amazing look at this again another clean
train Immaculate again I want to point
something out no initials scraped with
your keys no writing no graffiti just clean heading
out let's see what we have out here any
surprises clean really clean look at
this feel safe can you tell me in the
comments below if this was a train
station in the US what would it look like outside what
would it look like there's no homeless
you feel safe here there's no trash no
people just loitering roaming around so
if this was the US what would you see at your train
station leave a comment below let me know cuz
this is what I see in China clean
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