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不甘心的挫敗

(2014-06-02 13:02:34) 下一個
從來沒想到,跳舞跳著玩,竟然把這個玩兒的事跳認真了。

跳舞就跳吧,出去表演就表演吧。跳錯了節拍就跳錯了吧。不是用來糊口的工作,就是一個個人愛好,表演出錯了應該一笑而過吧?沒想到,自己現在還為這個錯拍的事耿耿於懷。

事情的緣由是這樣的。本來周末要參加一個表演。從服裝準備,化妝,到開到目的地,心情已經緊張起來了。半路上就擔心自己記錯了地址和時間,錯過了時辰。到了地方,老師說還有足夠的時間準備,才稍微放鬆一下。換好了衣服,又在外場排演了幾遍。心裏雖然打鼓,但是安慰自己說,反正練過不少次了,應該沒有問題。自己什麽場麵沒見過,這點壓力應該不會影響自己的表現。以前參加跑步比賽,上台做講座,要說那時候的壓力也不小。

到了我的時間,走進比賽廳。站位,音樂響起,好響啊。我和舞伴是背靠背,往相反方向走。亮相幾步以後,一起轉身往回走。我轉身以後,應該看到同伴也正好轉身。可是我看到的是他的背。我站在那邊等著的時候,感覺是最長的等待。可是看到他轉身以後,又忘了開始走。哎呀呀!後來隻好盡快趕上他的步伐。雖然動作已經爛熟於心了,可是我發現自己的韻律和同伴的完全不搭。慢快快,慢快快,我根本無法計數。也怕自己計數,更錯。以後的舞蹈進行得非常快。我看到觀眾席裏鼓勵的笑容,感到很溫暖。心裏已經覺得失誤不計其數了,根本沒有辦法補救。隻是盡力把舞蹈跳好,麵帶微笑,心裏多些自嘲罷了。

結束的時候,同伴的安慰鼓勵絲毫不能讓我心裏放鬆。感到最多的是失望和後悔。不過,這有什麽用呢?我不斷地提醒自己,過去的已經過去了,高高興興地珍惜出來玩的機會才對。但是,心裏總是覺得有點堵。

我想起以前跑步和做講座的時候,也有大意失荊州的幾次。大多屬於準備不充分吧。想我第一次出去比賽跑步,跟著別人的速度跑,用力過猛,後麵沒有力氣衝刺。但是再以後的十年裏,我堅持跑步,參加比賽。雖然不是體育健將,但是比一般人是快些的。到了美國十多年,跑步的習慣丟失了,隻到最近兩年才從新撿起這個鍛煉的習慣。我沒有減肥之前,總是這麽說,我一定會減掉自己的體重的。因為我深信,隻要我願意,隨時都會重新跑起來。

失敗和挫折告訴我什麽?挫敗以後的鬱悶教會我什麽了?是重新回到戰場的勇氣。隻有不斷地去挑戰自己,才有可能成功的一天。最終,你會愛上挑戰的。

當我坐在那裏看其他人翩翩起舞的時候,我突然意識到這些舞者的付出。每個人都克服了重重困難才來到這裏。從他們輕盈的舞姿和靈巧的手勢中,你看不到幕後的鍛煉和重複練習。從他們戲謔的態度,或是不可小窺的氣勢中,你看不到他們的謙恭和麵對問題時的氣餒。隻有你自己努力去做,卻做不到的時候,你才能體會到,每一個人的努力和艱辛。跳舞,絕對不象看起來那麽簡單。

周末過後,我心裏的懊惱還在。盡管我知道以後想起這段,可能會感謝這一次挫敗的經曆,會坦然一笑。但是挫敗感隻能用成功的喜悅來祛除。當我再次起舞的時候,我將更加熱愛這項運動。讓新的挑戰盡早開始吧。。。


I never thought that I would get upset by a dance show. I never thought that I would get so seriously about a hobby. It happened like this:
Last weekend, I had a dance show to attend. The night before, I stayed late to get my dresses, shoes, and make-up kits ready. In the morning, I put on make-up, false eye lashes, the whole nine yard. Before heading to the high way, I also checked the dance gears twice to make sure I got everything I need, plus back-up dance gears. When I arrived the place, I was told that I still got plenty of time to prepare. After I changed into my dress, I practiced my routine several times. I got butterfly in my tummy. It reminded the old time when I entered the race back in the middle school, the high school and the college. I was nervous. 

I told myself, relax. It is just a leisure hobby. I was in long-distance race, I gave presentation on the stage. I practiced this routine many times. I got this. 

When it is the time, we entered the show-room. When the music started, it was loud. But I danced. I and my partern were back-to-back, walking away. Then I turned around. I was supposed to see him just turn around, and then we were supposed to walk towards each other. In stead, I saw his back!!! I waited... When he finanlly turned, I forgot to move. What happened next was fast. I tried to catch up with him. I cannot hear the beat, and I felt he was moving at the different tempo from mine. I saw audiance with encouraging smiles. They made me feel comfortable. I just managed to keep calm and smiling and finished the dance. It was so messed-up, that I thought all I can do is to show my best.

It was definitely a set-back. When my friends were comforting me, I cannot be cheered up. I kept telling myself that it is OK, and I am enoying the other fun stuff at the show. But deep inside, I was disappointed. It does not matter what other say and how possitive you are, it sucks.

I remembered the first time I was in a race. I did terribly. I pushed myself too fast in the beginning, so at the end I could not keep it up. It ended worse than I expected. But I went on and practice more running. I kept that habit for 10 years. And I pick up running as an excercise rountine after 10 years without doing it. Running has become a source of my happiness and confidence. I know whenever I want it, I would always be able to enjoy it. What failures, mistakes and associated pain can teach you? Courage. The self-motivation that keeps you coming back to the things you love.

When I sat there, admiring others' performance, I realized how difficult it is for them to be there, how much hard work and dedication they put into it. You don't see it when you see the graceful movements floating through the dance floor. You don't see it when you are pumped up by the powerful steps and funky attitute. You feel it when you tried and you could not do it. It is not as easy as it seems. 

Well, still disappointed, I am making peace with myself. Next time, there is always hope. Until next time, my friend....  
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天邊的薔薇 回複 悄悄話 每個美麗的舞者背後都有著辛勤的汗水和努力,深深知道“台上一分鍾,台下十年功”的含義。祝你越跳越好!
40er 回複 悄悄話 Thanks a lot for your encouragement. When I first started this, I thought most of the students just think it as a leisure hobby. One of the dance teacher told me, "You open a door to a wonderful world." Now, I understand what he meant. I meet quiet a handful of students stayed in the program for years. Off the dance floor, they are the most common, even a little bit quite people. Dance is the way they express themselves and they really love dancing.
Once my teacher wanna comfort me because I am about to see a video of my dance. "Don't feel bad if the video does not look good. Everyone always say, I should have put my feet the other way, " he said. I told him, "I will not feel bad, because I can always look at my previous video. It will make this look better." No one and nothing can take away my joy and pride in dancing, because I put my heart into it. I owe myself happiness.
Know what you love and keep doing it! My friend.
greenlawn 回複 悄悄話 確實是這樣,需要往前看,需要好多好多新的嚐試和挑戰。隻要你真地動了腦筋思考了對策,真地認真準備了,臨場發揮的技能會隨著比賽次數的增加和你對舞步的熟練而自己增加的,隻要你真地努力在成為強者,並為止咬牙,為之奮鬥,不管最後拿不拿獎,你都會贏得喝彩。人的強大的精神是最感染人鼓勵人的。

為你能夠把舞蹈堅持到最後而喝彩!你一定會越來越強大。
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