I heard a YouTuber say that most people carry a bag of regret and shame from their past. He suggested: look at your past like a fun game — nothing more, nothing less. What happened in the past is almost hilarious. The idea is to try to free ourselves from the past.
My husband and I watch Netflix almost every night, so naturally we watch a lot of life stories. Sometimes while watching, I think, “These people are so foolish. Why are they making such bad decisions?” But then another thought comes to me: without mistakes, there would be no story.
A perfect person making perfect decisions would actually be very boring to watch.
When I look at my past now, I have 20/20 vision. I can clearly see the red flags, the bad relationships, and the terrible decisions. But when I was young and foolish, I didn’t have that knowledge. That’s why I did what I did.
When I look at my past now, I no longer see one fixed story. The events themselves don’t change, but their meaning changes depending on how and when I look at them.
I’ve also noticed something about myself over the years. Every time I went through some adversity, I ended up thinking more deeply. And somehow, after the pain, I usually grew a little.
Then one day I asked myself: why do I have to wait for suffering to grow? Why can’t I grow during peaceful and happy times too?
That question changed something in me. It made me realize that growth is not only produced by pain. Sometimes growth can come simply from paying attention — from observing ourselves honestly.
How do you look at your past?
Lily2005 (2026-05-10 11:25:11) 評論 (0)I heard a YouTuber say that most people carry a bag of regret and shame from their past. He suggested: look at your past like a fun game — nothing more, nothing less. What happened in the past is almost hilarious. The idea is to try to free ourselves from the past.
My husband and I watch Netflix almost every night, so naturally we watch a lot of life stories. Sometimes while watching, I think, “These people are so foolish. Why are they making such bad decisions?” But then another thought comes to me: without mistakes, there would be no story.
A perfect person making perfect decisions would actually be very boring to watch.
When I look at my past now, I have 20/20 vision. I can clearly see the red flags, the bad relationships, and the terrible decisions. But when I was young and foolish, I didn’t have that knowledge. That’s why I did what I did.
When I look at my past now, I no longer see one fixed story. The events themselves don’t change, but their meaning changes depending on how and when I look at them.
I’ve also noticed something about myself over the years. Every time I went through some adversity, I ended up thinking more deeply. And somehow, after the pain, I usually grew a little.
Then one day I asked myself: why do I have to wait for suffering to grow? Why can’t I grow during peaceful and happy times too?
That question changed something in me. It made me realize that growth is not only produced by pain. Sometimes growth can come simply from paying attention — from observing ourselves honestly.