90/10定律

台灣的朋友NNWU曾經給我轉發過80/20定律，覺得蠻有意思，可以對浮躁的心態有很好的降溫作用。後來在網上也見過相關內容。今天又看到他發過來的90/10定律，更細致地講述了如何用積極的方法實現作者所倡導的道德人生和幸福人生。轉發至此，與君共享。我提供中文譯文，中英文對照，可以練習練習翻譯哦：）

 

作者是著名的管理學大師Stephen Covey，曾被《時代》周刊列為25位最有影響力的美國人之一。

 

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations.

90/10 定律將會改變你的生活（至少會改變你對不同問題的處理方法）。

 

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

什麽是90/10 定律？90/10定律說的是——生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成，餘下的90% 則取決於你的反應。

 

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.

這意味著什麽？這意味著我們無法掌握那 10% 的際遇——無法讓已經拋錨的汽車再次啟動，不得不因為航班誤點而重新安排日程，甚至在堵塞的車流中不得不任由司機擺布。

 

We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

我們無法控製這10% 的際遇，但你可以控製剩下的 90% 。

 

How? By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light.But you can control your reaction.Don't let people fool you;YOU can control how you react.

90%取決於你的反應。怎麽樣？

你不能控製交通燈轉紅還是變綠，但你能夠控製你自己隨時觀察交通燈的變化。別傻乎乎地說你不行。

 

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family.Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.

比如說，你與家人一起吃早飯。你女兒不小心將咖啡灑在你的衣服上——這是你無法控製的情況。

 

What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.She breaks down in tears.After scolding her,you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.A short verbal battle follows.You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs,you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.She misses the bus.

下一步將如何則根據你的反應而定。

你會責怪她，責備她碰倒杯子，把咖啡灑得到處都是。女兒無法繼續吃下去，哭了起來。責怪完女兒，你又責怪太太不該把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的便是三個人的互相責怪與埋怨。你衝到樓上去換衣服，下樓時發現女兒由於剛才的插曲哭著吃完早飯去學校上課，但學校班車已經開走了。

 

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

太太要趕時間上班，你隻好急忙開車送女兒上學。由於時間已晚，你不得不在一條限速30英里的道路上將車子開到40邁，並因為超速被罰款60元。好不容易趕到學校時，已經上課15分鍾了，女兒連再見都沒說便急忙忙地跑進了教室。而當你到公司時，其他同事已經開始工作二十分鍾。而這時，你才發覺你根本就沒有帶公文包！你的一天就這樣糟糕地開始了，而且感覺每況愈下，什麽事都不如意。於是，你又想盡快回家。

 

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. 

Why? ….

Because of how you reacted in the morning. 

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

下班回家後，你發現你已於太太和女兒已不似以往融洽。

為什麽會這樣？因為這一切皆因你早晨的反應而引起。

為何會有如此糟糕的一天？ ？

Ａ）是那杯灑在你身上的咖啡造成的？ 

Ｂ）是你的女兒粗心大意導致的？

Ｃ）是警察的罰款？

Ｄ）是你自作自受？

The answer is “D". 

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

答案是Ｄ。

你無法控製女兒將咖啡碰倒這一事實，但你在接下來5秒鍾之內的反應是導致你厄運連生的原因。

 

Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you.Your daughter is about to cry.You gently say, "Its ok,honey.you just need to be more careful next time".Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase,you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.She turns and waves.You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

不妨嚐試另外一種做法：

咖啡潑到你的身上，你女兒因自己的大意內疚得快哭了。但你卻溫柔地說：“寶貝兒，下次要小心哦。”

你一邊拿毛巾擦拭衣服一邊飛跑到樓上換衣服，同時把公文包也拿下來。下樓時隔窗而望，女兒正在上巴士，一邊回頭來向你揮手道別。你還比平時早5分鍾到了公司，心情很好地與同事互道早安，並因為表現良好受到老板鼓勵。

 

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.

Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

看到兩者的區別了嗎？這兩個不同的場景，都是由於一個同樣的事端引發的，但結局卻大相徑庭。

為什麽？

 

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

皆因你的反應不同而致。

你或許的確無法控製那10%的際遇，但剩下的90%則取決於你的反應。

 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.If someone says something negative about you,don't be a sponge.Let the attack roll off like water on glass.You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!

React properly and it will not ruin your day.A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

在生活當中，很多方麵都會用到這個定律。

假如有人對你指指點點，千萬別當自己是塊什麽都吸收的“海綿”。讓那些非議像水在玻璃上流走一樣，別讓那些流言蜚語影響你！

雖然適當的回應能使你的生活免受破壞，但一個錯誤的反應也許會讓你失去朋友、心情抑鬱、壓力加大而導致精神崩潰。

 

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel?A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!

Do you curse?Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?Who cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work?Why let the cars ruin your dirve?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. 

如果遭遇塞車你會怎麽辦？發脾氣？猛敲方向盤？我的一個朋友就曾經把方向盤揪了下來！

破口大罵？血壓上竄？還是衝出去對堵塞的車輛踹上幾腳？實際上，上班遲到10秒又如何？為何要讓這種無法避免的塞車影響自己的駕程呢？

記住 90/10 定律，你就不會著急。

 

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.  The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.

你被告知飯碗不保，於是你便大受刺激無法入眠。可是事情已經發生了，還不如以此精力另尋謀生之道。既然航班已誤，日程安排肯定會受到影響，何必要把餘怨發泄到空姐身上呢？她也是回天無力的。

 

Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

還不如利用誤點的時間學點什麽，或者嚐試結識身邊的乘客。大發雷霆隻能讓事情更糟。

 

Now you know the 90-10 principle.Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.You will lose nothing if you try it.

既然懂得了 90/10 定律，就去在實踐中應用它，你會發現它的驚人效果而對自己毫發無損。

 

The 90-10 principle is incredible.Very few know and apply this principle. The result？Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!

Enjoy...

90/10 定律非常神奇，但隻有極少數的人知道如何運用。結果便是成千上萬的人依然在承受無意義的痛苦之中，因皮毛瑣事而困擾，因生活變異而手足無措，因情感失落而捶胸頓足。

我們必須要了解90/10 定律，因為它會改變你的生活！

共勉。