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在上這個secret recipe之前，俺告訴老公，他直撇嘴：”你們這些長舌婦！要置我們這些可憐男人於死地而後快吧？可是我們還沒活夠，也太殘酷了，跟活埋還非留口氣兒一樣，I bet every husband with a wife on that website will feel they live a really, really long life, well, seems longer than others” blah blah blah…
先聲明，這個調料對那些在家非要當公主的作女或王後的control freak不適用, 對於苦大仇深的怨婦和一身正氣木啥油墨氣泡的正經人家兒的女兒和自認良家婦女也不適用！Definitely not for unmarried couples.
適應症：老夫老妻, bonded soul-mates; Both of you feel you are meant for each other and always enjoy each other’s company; You are building a very good relationship and happy life together; You two have similar tastes and basic core values, especially about people; Both of you are fun and have good sense of humor(eg. you fight, but half of your fights end up with a joke or laughers). You are very open to each other and you talk to each other almost every day about anything and everything--you don’t keep secrets from each other…缺一不可，不然不好使：）
大家肯定罵俺賣乖呢，俺知道。不過大實話：這樣的婚姻是不是多數人想要的？
說正經的，其實男人女人，對婚姻以外的異性都有好奇獵奇心理，隻是有的人停留在飯太稀就止步，有的要試著把飯煮稠些，有人非要吃了稀飯不可，什麽樣人作什麽樣事兒，是性格人品成長環境自己能力等內力決定的，當然也有家庭外界誘惑社會輿論等的外力的推動。要忠誠麽，就要釋放內部能量，緩解外部引力。
釋放內部的，嘿嘿，大家都知道也聽ＪＭｓ說過很多，（對了，俺的交流貼是最基礎的起點哈，就像relationship 101嗬嗬）比如理解體貼溫柔支持――即所說的上得廳堂，１０２級的就是下得廚房，這都要向咱的貓班看齊 ：）２０１級的自然是馳騁臥房（這個咱可以向正ｄａｔｉｎｇ的ＭＭ取經，人家新一代尤其八十後見多識廣 ：））
化解外力的，就要３０１級廖，能做到心靈趣味融合溝通，共同抵禦外敵，精神的物質的，其中的一項３０８就是歪門邪道。（正道的，此處省略２００字：）就說這個旁門左道，也是好多ＪＭｓ提到的用到的。
他不是喜歡美女麽？不是時不時調情？或者被人挑逗？你不也稀飯帥哥麽？也偶爾心跳吧？冷不丁辦公室曖昧也躍躍欲試麽？這樣的貼咱不天天有，也周周都竄上來，所以真別端出一幅正人君子刀槍不入的架勢，上來就罵男人不忠不可靠。女人好，怎麽都昏了，辦公室一有人送菠菜就要上網confirm？恬恬媽提到的那位更惡心，孕著還做三隻手呢！
公平點，有男的要WS去flirt，是因為有賤女要flirt back，公母共處的規律，This human nature, for whatever reason, uncontrollably and undeniably exits, either for our ego or self-esteem and sexual appeal. What we can control is ourselves and maybe our own partner, by mutual efforts and fun.
怎麽辦，下麵的原本要隻給恬恬媽，直白詳細地漢語喊話，但剛才姐妹們起哄，俺就不好意思草率，老公也在旁邊念秧兒，俺就太潑了，還是淑女些，含蓄些，別原形畢露了，所以改成英語格式，哈哈
There are a few steps at different fun level you can take:
1.Talk and make fun of other males and females you see together in public (in the street, in the mall): about their looks, their behavior, their “potentials”
2.Joke about stars/celebrities and fantasies of each other, and act on some of the practical fantasies
3.Joke/Discuss about some specific people you know or you meet and predict their personalities and their behaviors
4.Tell /Joke/Analysis the people who flirt with you/him or you/he flirt with to make a bet what the next step they may take and what you/he may react, sometimes it can be a testing opportunity for both of you。
Nobody can stop every flirtation or have never received any flirt signals, unless you are lying or too ugly or claim you are a saint. Important part is how to act /react on it and how to solve the problems. You can do it with your spouse to spice up your relationship so as to further bond your relationship, or you deal with the tricky situation on your own and single-handedly battle the flirty incidents and further affairs.
Of course, how to communicate the above 1-4 depends on a woman’s intelligence and lead. Attention, if you do this, you need to set up a “state of play”: you have to be absolutely sure that you have the talent, the brains and heart to take all the controls, of yourself and your admirers, and your husband and his potential admirers.
If you are not prepared to control the situation and set aside some of your petty jealousy, then this is a game that will have at least two losers.
先聲明，這個調料對那些在家非要當公主的作女或王後的control freak不適用, 對於苦大仇深的怨婦和一身正氣木啥油墨氣泡的正經人家兒的女兒和自認良家婦女也不適用！Definitely not for unmarried couples.
適應症：老夫老妻, bonded soul-mates; Both of you feel you are meant for each other and always enjoy each other’s company; You are building a very good relationship and happy life together; You two have similar tastes and basic core values, especially about people; Both of you are fun and have good sense of humor(eg. you fight, but half of your fights end up with a joke or laughers). You are very open to each other and you talk to each other almost every day about anything and everything--you don’t keep secrets from each other…缺一不可，不然不好使：）
大家肯定罵俺賣乖呢，俺知道。不過大實話：這樣的婚姻是不是多數人想要的？
說正經的，其實男人女人，對婚姻以外的異性都有好奇獵奇心理，隻是有的人停留在飯太稀就止步，有的要試著把飯煮稠些，有人非要吃了稀飯不可，什麽樣人作什麽樣事兒，是性格人品成長環境自己能力等內力決定的，當然也有家庭外界誘惑社會輿論等的外力的推動。要忠誠麽，就要釋放內部能量，緩解外部引力。
釋放內部的，嘿嘿，大家都知道也聽ＪＭｓ說過很多，（對了，俺的交流貼是最基礎的起點哈，就像relationship 101嗬嗬）比如理解體貼溫柔支持――即所說的上得廳堂，１０２級的就是下得廚房，這都要向咱的貓班看齊 ：）２０１級的自然是馳騁臥房（這個咱可以向正ｄａｔｉｎｇ的ＭＭ取經，人家新一代尤其八十後見多識廣 ：））
化解外力的，就要３０１級廖，能做到心靈趣味融合溝通，共同抵禦外敵，精神的物質的，其中的一項３０８就是歪門邪道。（正道的，此處省略２００字：）就說這個旁門左道，也是好多ＪＭｓ提到的用到的。
他不是喜歡美女麽？不是時不時調情？或者被人挑逗？你不也稀飯帥哥麽？也偶爾心跳吧？冷不丁辦公室曖昧也躍躍欲試麽？這樣的貼咱不天天有，也周周都竄上來，所以真別端出一幅正人君子刀槍不入的架勢，上來就罵男人不忠不可靠。女人好，怎麽都昏了，辦公室一有人送菠菜就要上網confirm？恬恬媽提到的那位更惡心，孕著還做三隻手呢！
公平點，有男的要WS去flirt，是因為有賤女要flirt back，公母共處的規律，This human nature, for whatever reason, uncontrollably and undeniably exits, either for our ego or self-esteem and sexual appeal. What we can control is ourselves and maybe our own partner, by mutual efforts and fun.
怎麽辦，下麵的原本要隻給恬恬媽，直白詳細地漢語喊話，但剛才姐妹們起哄，俺就不好意思草率，老公也在旁邊念秧兒，俺就太潑了，還是淑女些，含蓄些，別原形畢露了，所以改成英語格式，哈哈
There are a few steps at different fun level you can take:
1.Talk and make fun of other males and females you see together in public (in the street, in the mall): about their looks, their behavior, their “potentials”
2.Joke about stars/celebrities and fantasies of each other, and act on some of the practical fantasies
3.Joke/Discuss about some specific people you know or you meet and predict their personalities and their behaviors
4.Tell /Joke/Analysis the people who flirt with you/him or you/he flirt with to make a bet what the next step they may take and what you/he may react, sometimes it can be a testing opportunity for both of you。
Nobody can stop every flirtation or have never received any flirt signals, unless you are lying or too ugly or claim you are a saint. Important part is how to act /react on it and how to solve the problems. You can do it with your spouse to spice up your relationship so as to further bond your relationship, or you deal with the tricky situation on your own and single-handedly battle the flirty incidents and further affairs.
Of course, how to communicate the above 1-4 depends on a woman’s intelligence and lead. Attention, if you do this, you need to set up a “state of play”: you have to be absolutely sure that you have the talent, the brains and heart to take all the controls, of yourself and your admirers, and your husband and his potential admirers.
If you are not prepared to control the situation and set aside some of your petty jealousy, then this is a game that will have at least two losers.
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