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生日之旅

(2008-09-02 20:38:57) 下一個

明天是自己的生日了,每年這個季節,總是帶著希望,新的學期,新的輪轉,炎炎的夏天將要過去,豐富多彩的秋天就要來臨。

深夜回家,匆匆打完包袱,明天就要登上飛機飛往阿爾貝斯山腳下的那個小城。買了關於德國的書,卻還沒有看過,隻能在飛機上臨時補習了。睡覺前,強忍住自己的衝動不去登陸醫院的網站,查看病人的情況,今天是change over,他們不再是我的病人了,希望他們逐漸康複,但是我知道他們中有些不會。

下午和我的mentor, M醫生長談了一次,把自己的困擾,憂傷和壓力一一訴說出來。M醫生說,你走的每一步,承受的每一次痛苦,我都經曆過,我隻有一句話給你,就是it will pass。不要被這些拖垮,慢慢地你會變得越來越堅強,雖然還是會有悲傷和低落的時候,但是成熟的職業經驗會幫助你更好地度過。

他說他做完住院醫生以後剛開業的時候,曾經漏診了一個病人的癌症,症狀很不典型,他也缺乏經驗。等到病人症狀明顯的時候,已經發現了轉移。他說那是很多年前了,但是他至今記得那天下午,放射科醫生打電話告訴他這個結果時候,他的心情幾乎崩潰。但是他還有十幾個病人在門診等著他去看。後來病人經過了痛苦的放療化療最後還是去世了,M醫生說,那段時間,是他人生最低穀的時候,幾乎是不堪回首,但是他還是挺了過來。對自己的懷疑和自責,對病人無法言喻的愧疚,那種無可換回的遺憾,他在告訴我這個故事時候,灰色的瞳仁裏,依舊充滿了悲傷。

他說我知道那個骨折老人在一開始發作心衰的時候就很可能去世,隻有你不願意放棄。如果我是那個老人,我會希望你是我的醫生,伴我走過這最後的人生。堅持下去,把這段低穀走過去,以後你會變得越來越堅強的。醫學不僅僅是技術的治療,還有人文的關懷,你隻是需要時間去學會把握自己的感情,而不是徹底dissociate。

談話以後,似乎心情輕鬆了一些,但是還是無法真正釋懷,這個vacation來的真是時候,我真得很需要。希望德國小城寧靜濕潤的氣氛,能夠平緩我的心情,讓我重新找到自己。

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落花飄零 回複 悄悄話 謝謝大家的祝福,真得很感動,希望大家都幸福。
linda_tan 回複 悄悄話 雖然很遲了,但是還想來給落花JJ說聲“生日快樂” :)
貼心寶貝 回複 悄悄話 死亡我們永遠也無法習慣,可卻是完整生命的一部分。你很善良,凡是盡力了就好!老人在天堂裏也會感謝你的。生日快樂!
hawaiibluedream 回複 悄悄話 補一個生日快樂!
為了支持落花才注冊的文學城筆名.
RUHvgFun 回複 悄悄話 Happy Belated Birthday! 我想你已經到達那個小鎮了. 好好的享受那份難得的寧靜. 從沒單獨出門旅行的我也有點心癢了...

祝旅途愉快!
warmginger 回複 悄悄話 生日快樂!
旅途愉快!
Ycart 回複 悄悄話 Happy Birthday!!
一朵小樺 回複 悄悄話 Happy Birthday!落花,很佩服你的堅持真情的勇敢。很多人在日複一日的重複中就失去了敏感的心,堅持真情的勇氣,我希望你永遠是一個感性的醫生,而不是一個冷漠的醫生。醫者父母心,應當慶幸你有這樣的心情,換了是我在你的位置上,隻怕想都沒往那上麵想過,我不是沒有同情心哦,別BS我。所以你不要懷疑自己,加油。
drain 回複 悄悄話 You are a good doctor. I'd say the same thing "如果我是那個老人,我會希望你是我的醫生,伴我走過這最後的人生。" Go girl!
damaof 回複 悄悄話 花:生日快樂!旅行愉快!聽過旅行的意義嗎?
你看過了許多美景/
你看過了許多美女/
你迷失在地圖上每一道短暫的光陰/
你品嚐了夜的巴黎/
你踏過下雪的北京。。。。。。。

縱然平行,我也是在紐約的業內人士,我們NETWORKING一下吧。
windblows 回複 悄悄話 生日快樂,落花。一直關注著你,陪你走過起起落落。Enjoy your trip!
縱然平行 回複 悄悄話 First things first, Happy birthday, wish you have a wonderful one this year.

Hoping that the breath-taking of sceneries of rolling hills of Alps and dazzling baroque architectures dotted along River Lech would give you a break, and hopefully, you’d loose yourself to some degree, feeling something that you have never felt before.

Understood that you’d like to be “stationed” in Fuessen primarily to enjoy some long neglected relaxation, and even do some “soul-searching ” in the meantime. However, a word of suggestion, if I may. Without brushing aside your main purpose, you could do some excursions off the predefined perimeter by touring some interesting attractions to have some exciting adventures in surrounding areas. Besides the famous castles - Neuschwanstein and Hohenschwangau in the town , you may also stop by Linderhof Palace that also bears the name of King Ludwig II as previous two, but Linderhof is bit intriguing. Although it is smaller comparing with other five associated with Ludwig family, the noticeable French influence ,in terms of deco, is fascinating. Last July when I did my European trip I stumbled upon this one, and I liked it. There are couple more places you may give a try in case you are bored with Fuessen which I am reluctantly to characterize it as a small charming town over-packed with foreign tourists.

First of all, Lake Konigssee, this lake is situated at the southeastern side of Munich close to Austrian border not too far from where you lodge. Konigssee is well known for its depth and cleanness. The view and reflection from Alpine Mountain when you are out on the boat gliding over the lake is just particular and tranquil. Secondly, The Zugspitze, this would be another fun place to be considered. The mountain summit is believed by German to be tallest point in Germany, The maintain itself is part of Alpine ridge. It would be thrill to standing at snow covered peak, looking at Germany and Austria from birdsight. Last but not least, I guess that you could spend some time in Munich , too. If you do so, you may stop by Herrenchiemsee, Nymphenburg, Deutsches Museum (the biggest science museum in the world), Hofbrauhaus Beer Hall and Englischer Garten (a park larger than the Central Park of Manhattan). BTW, Austria is just few miles away from Fuessen, you simply can rent a car or hop on the train for a quick day trip down to the south. A caution though, for some reason, Austrian goods and services generally cost more than that in Germany which is technically in a mild recession since its economy contracted in two quarters, back to back. Speaking of recession, there are some good news for you, the Euro is at eight month low vs. US dollar, so your purchase power is being strengthened by over 10% than July, this year.

Overall, German people are very friendly and many folks there can speak decent English. So don‘t worry, you should do alright on the trip. Just let romantic scenes, local wine, fine chocolate, and mineral bath at the spa do the wonder to give yourself a treat. Arguably, it might be a treatment for “neurosis” as a bonus -:)).

Enjoy your vaca.
Amy熱愛生活 回複 悄悄話 Have a good trip.
dadaland 回複 悄悄話 Happy birthday!!!Everything will pass!
shuimaomao 回複 悄悄話 Happy Birthday and have a good trip!
覺得我的心太軟弱,不能承受那種壓力 (zt) - me too. I know it and I didn't choose to be a doctor. So you are a bravo.
隨意簡單 回複 悄悄話 Happy birthday, and happy vocation.
aaalbert 回複 悄悄話 Happy happy birthday.
undemi 回複 悄悄話 死亡並非最可怕的事情. 人生中痛不欲生的情景更加慘烈.

在德國你也會看到, 青年男女很多喜歡在墓園談情說愛. 醫生就算能挽回一個軀體, 還能讓人快樂不成?

路途愉快, 我沒有去過你的目的地, 但去過黑森林的很多小城鎮..很喜歡的...
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