Sorry I can't type chinese at work.
My relationship with my hu*****and has not been good, and recently it has been getting even worse. My mother in law has been trying to cause more trouble and encouraging my hu*****and to divorce me. (My hu*****and is almost an ABC-america born chinese, and we had been living with my mother in law for 5 years, and we paid everthing including mortgage. We moved out 4 months ago because my mother in law was so mean to me recently , yell at me, and curse me.)
I thought my hu*****and took my side since he moved out with me. But a lot of time, he is not a reasonable person, just like his mother. He insisted to take our daughter to visit his mother once a week. His mom doesn't want me be there, my hu*****and doesn't want me to be there either. If my hu*****and goes there by himself, I have absolutely no problem. But he insisted to go with my daughter (she is 6 months old.) The only reason I want to go with them is to protect my daughter. Because they don't take good care of baby. They consider baby as a "toy" or "doll" to make them happy. For example, last week, my hu*****and told his mom that my daughter can crawl very well. Our current apartment is on the 6th floor, so the floor with carpet on it is nice and warm. But my mother in law's house is single family house, the floor is very cold. I said "this floor is too cold for baby." My hu*****and insisted that it is ok, and he left baby on the floor for 1 minute. Since I insisted it is cold (I asked my hu*****and in a nice way, I didn't yell or anything crazy), my hu*****and agreed to stop this crawlling. My mother in law gave me a mean face and walked away. And my hu*****and said " you intentionaly to fight with my mom" on our way home.
After a lot of similar things and much worse things, I knew my mother in law is such ass, but I have to say my hu*****and is also an ass. If it is mainly the problem between me and in law, it won't bother me. But I have to face the fact that my hu*****and is just as unreasonable as his mom.
My hu*****and mentioned divorce a couple times so far to "scare me", He thinks that if I bear his mom and such it up, then there won't be argument. Now I am seriously thinking divorce. I have a job, so my financial situation should be ok. I was trying to improve our relationship to give my daughter a happy family, but now I think ending a bad marriage is good for myself and my daughter.
I have one concern. I will try to get my daughter's custody (it is the right word?), but I guess my hu*****and will still get some visting time with my daughter, right? What if they do those thing to my daughter (letting baby cry for a long time, letting baby crawlling on the cold floor, letting loud TV on in baby's room all night long, etc.) How can I protect my daughter? (Now because I am around, so I can stop those things.)
I feel very sorry for my daughter. I knew my marriage has problems, but I still get myself pregant. I really regret for this.
