浮生飄絮 298 ：湖邊拾景

  （山靜） 

--The process of modernization and family disintegration seem to go hand-in-hand 。 In the Unite States ，“ the likelihood of a marriage would end in divorce in the late 19^th century was 8%, now this figure has risen to around 50% （ Sullivan ，2009 ） .”

個人，家庭，與社會三者之間的關係密不可分。社會大環境的變化必然帶來家庭結構及關係的變化。現代社會的富裕開放對傳統家庭的影響體現在快速上升的離婚率上。例如：

"In 1979, divorce rates in China was 0.7 per 1000 people, increasing to 1.8 in 1995; within-the-year ratio of divorced couples vs. marriages was 4.7% in 1979, climbed to 11.3% in 1995 (Liu, 2002). National average ratio of divorce/marriage reached 13% in 1997, and in large cities the ratio tends to be much higher. More recent statistics sug gest that divorce rate has been on a continuous rise; Bejing and Shanghai have the highest divorce rate in the country, about one-third of the couples in the maga cities end up in divorce, according to the Chinese Youth Development Report of the New Century (2000-2010). In addition to soaring divorce rates, the spillover effects on male/female relationships and the Chinese family abetted a growing sexual revolution, breaking apart the traditional three-in-one unity: marriage-sex-family (Pan, 2001, 2006; Jeffreys, 2006). Alternative lifestyles such as serial monogamy, open/underground polygamy, cohabitation, one-night stand, flesh-trade...are increasing."

這些變化既反映了個人自由的生活方式，同時也與不少社會問題相關：老人的撫養，孩子的教育，“閃族，”“玩族，”“啃老族，”外在壓力過度導致的內心異化，等等。。。如何看待這些現象，因人而異。

     湖邊拾景

一個好奇的小孩
抄著兩手，“富貴閑人”一樣
在湖邊遊蕩

看見一顆
光溜圓平的扁石
便彎腰拾起
對好角度
斜拋出去

石子飛行的軌跡
濺起一串連環水花
小孩高興得手舞足蹈
象水花一樣閃躍

毫不顧忌在湖邊散步的人們
也不管是否打擾亂了湖的寧靜

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