What would you do if you had no fear? I came across this question when I was reading the Oprah magazine the other day. I saw all kinds of answers: I would quit my job as an accountant and take some photography courses. I’d like to see if I could make a career out of doing something that inspires me, instead of just working to make a living; I would open a coffee shop in our little town. I work part-time, and on the side I do a lot of baking and cooking for friend. I’d create a place that’s eclectic, warm, and inviting, where I could add a little sunshine to someone’s life; I would spend a year exploring the back roads of this country with my daughters. We’d go see the moving rocks in Death Valley, California, and the willows on the banks of the Mississippi. With nothing stopping us, we’d leave tomorrow……
Sheryl Sandberg asked the same question in her book “Lean in”. When she was giving a commencement address at an all-woman’s liberal arts school in New York City, she said, “…I hope you navigate the difficult times and come out with greater strength and resolve. I hope you find whatever balance you seek with your eyes wide open. And I hope that you – yes, you – have the ambition to lean in to your career and run the world. Because the world needs you to change it. Women all around the world are counting on you. So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? And then go do it.”
Sandberg was trying to encourage women to have the leadership ambition, and to overcome the internal barriers to gaining power. She also acknowledged that not all women want career, not all women want children, and not all the women want both. I really appreciate that. It would be really ideal if people can just do what they enjoy and they’re good at as if there were no fear. But most times the thought of changing career paths and losing ground is scary, even though when you are currently doing something you totally hate.
So what would I do if I had no fear? I know it sounds like a dream – I would sell my property, buy some rental homes, and spend a year in southern France and Italy….. Maybe open a little café or an antique store. Who knows? Maybe someday I will…
33, 在你想做的事情裏，至少有兩樣也是我想做的：開飛機和即興遠足。有沒有聽過人的一生要有兩次肆意的衝動：一場奮不顧身的愛情和一次說走就走的旅行。嗬嗬。。my brother-in-law is a pilot so that makes me think that it is not hard to fly an aircraft...
九月獨處 發表評論於
Again, Sheryl Sandberg is one of the kind!~~
If I have no fear...hmm, I actually had no fear through my life,I actually did lots of things I have never could dreamed about... but I've to admit that all of these, I must thank to my beloved husband, because of he has been always able to give me a sky to dream, give me a strong shoulder to lean on... cheered for me when I succeed,cheered me up when I was down...
So, if I have no fear, my wish is very simple, is to grow older with him, and lived the fullest to our lives everyday...and, one day, when we both have gray hairs, loose teeth,hazy eyesight... we still will be each other's dream lover ...:-) :-)
梅蘭鬆竹 發表評論於
What an inspiring post~~It really made me stare into my inner core.....This is waht I found----
If I had no fear, I would set up my own medical practice in southern California，take care of women the way I prefered, with a team of physician, psycologist, nutritionist and beautician, to make them regain confidence inside out, to empower women both physically and mentally ~~~
Meanwile，I will continue to write about the journey of life, join medical missionary to help others, enjoy traveling to places such as France, Peru, Africa with my loved ones.
Hope these days will be here oneday :)))
Wish all my friends---夢醫生，素錦，雪影和珊珊's dreams come true !!!
雪影雲痕 發表評論於
{漫步在陌生的城市體味一種漂泊}-----喜歡這句。
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我喜歡新奇和變化，所以我幻想每年給我一個月的時間，讓我有一段不同的生活：一個人在陌生又有情調的地方，用朦朧迷茫的目光看陌生人；和陌生人起舞；打著傘在小雨裏獨自漫步；一個人在小巧的酒吧學飲酒 (because I could not drink)；一個人坐在公園裏聽鳥唱；但是每天都和他通個電話，讓他知道我在惦記著他：))
哈素錦，你就讓我們胡思亂想吧：))
ShanShan33 發表評論於
我喜歡這個“IF”，因為它給了我思維的空間，我可以不受任何限製地去“做”我心底渴望做的事。昨天晚上就看到了這個貼子。當時我的腦海裏浮現的是我的To do list。然後一想，不對，以為我的To do list上麵的事很多是我不得不去做的，有很多是我的責任，並不是我真心想去做，並且享受做的事情。今天早上上班的路上，又想起了這個貼，就讓自己的思緒放飛，理一理我的願望。如果我沒有恐懼（其實和恐懼無關），我最想做這些事情：我想做“大型活動策劃”，我想看著自己策劃的晚會在如夢如幻中開場，在餘味無窮中落幕；我想去學開飛機，從一個不同的角度以更廣闊的視野去俯視世界；我想即興地遠足旅行，放任自己的瘋狂：我想漫步在陌生的城市體味一種漂泊，給我自己獨處的時空；我想在雨天和相愛的人坐在窗前聽雨，讓點點滴滴的浪漫朦朧的回憶再現。。。
可是我又不喜歡這個“IF”，因為是個“虛擬”，隻是想想而已。。。
看了大家的“IF”，好象我的最縹緲，哈哈 問好各位！
素錦流年 發表評論於
回複雪影雲痕的評論:
雪影, you dream will come true... :)
素錦流年 發表評論於
回複decentdreamer的評論:
和喜歡的人在一起，做自己喜歡的事 - who doesn't want this? hehe....
If I had no fear, I wanted to be an interior designer, had a residency in Manhattan where I would wonder on Fifth Avenue at night; a residence in Paris where I could sit in a small quite coffee shop looking outside, listening
the rain-drops knock on the ground; and a residence in Florence where I could stay in a small garden making love stories:))
What would you do if you had no fear? I came across this question when I was reading the Oprah magazine the other day. I saw all kinds of answers: I would quit my job as an accountant and take some photography courses. I’d like to see if I could make a career out of doing something that inspires me, instead of just working to make a living; I would open a coffee shop in our little town. I work part-time, and on the side I do a lot of baking and cooking for friend. I’d create a place that’s eclectic, warm, and inviting, where I could add a little sunshine to someone’s life; I would spend a year exploring the back roads of this country with my daughters. We’d go see the moving rocks in Death Valley, California, and the willows on the banks of the Mississippi. With nothing stopping us, we’d leave tomorrow……
Sheryl Sandberg asked the same question in her book “Lean in”. When she was giving a commencement address at an all-woman’s liberal arts school in New York City, she said, “…I hope you navigate the difficult times and come out with greater strength and resolve. I hope you find whatever balance you seek with your eyes wide open. And I hope that you – yes, you – have the ambition to lean in to your career and run the world. Because the world needs you to change it. Women all around the world are counting on you. So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? And then go do it.”
Sandberg was trying to encourage women to have the leadership ambition, and to overcome the internal barriers to gaining power. She also acknowledged that not all women want career, not all women want children, and not all the women want both. I really appreciate that. It would be really ideal if people can just do what they enjoy and they’re good at as if there were no fear. But most times the thought of changing career paths and losing ground is scary, even though when you are currently doing something you totally hate.
So what would I do if I had no fear? I know it sounds like a dream – I would sell my property, buy some rental homes, and spend a year in southern France and Italy….. Maybe open a little café or an antique store. Who knows? Maybe someday I will…
