回複BeautyinAutumn的評論:
You totally missed my point.
As I read your article, I thought about my friend who has an autistic child. Because of that, she rarely has time to do make up and looks much older than her peer. What would she feel if she reads “再不是年華二八，怎麽樣都好看水靈，素麵朝天，你，已沒有那個資格了！稍微打扮一下吧？免得讓你的男同窗驚歎，女同窗竊喜！”?
As I read your article, I thought about my church sister, who has been taking care of a Down Syndrome son for 20 years. Yes, she looks like “水桶腰身的大媽穿著主婦進廚房的衣服大庭廣眾之下大聲吆喝著孩子吃喝拉撒”, but she is beautiful to me and I am not going to faint because of her looking.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy reading many of your articles and I love to dress up and sport on makeups since I am aging. I, myself, dress nicely everyday to work. My point is: when you write article to public, you’d better apply some sensitivity.
If I were you, I would reword the above sentences by changing “you”to “I” .For instance, 麵對鏡子，我不覺驚歎歲月的痕跡。我已不再是年華二八，素麵朝天都好看的年齡已經過去了。還是稍微打扮一下吧，免得我的男同窗驚歎，女同窗竊喜。
It is important to love yourself, it is also important to think about those who read your articles, especially those who are less fortunate than you…At least don’t use your words to hurt them. By the way, you are a Christian, right?
God Bless!
回複cyou的評論:
I managed to translate two paragraphs from 海雲's original article to English.I know it is not perfect but it reflects the original message.
“首先，中年女人應該懂得著裝打扮！再不是年華二八，怎麽樣都好看水靈，素麵朝天，你，已沒有那個資格了！稍微打扮一下吧？免得讓你的男同窗驚歎，女同窗竊喜！”
"First, middle-aged woman should know how to dress up and makeup. When you are 16, you can look beautiful without makeup and dress-up. Now, you are no longer qualified! Please dress up and do some make up, so that your male classmates won’t be surprised (about your aging) and your female classmates won’t secretly feel happy (because you look older than her.)."
“都生活在國外，像樣點兒的衣服並不算太貴，又都是專業人士，找一件能夠藏得住腰間的贅肉，稍微體現一下還是職業女性的風貌不為過吧，對得起別人更對得起自己！ 看到水桶腰身的大媽穿著主婦進廚房的衣服大庭廣眾之下大聲吆喝著孩子吃喝拉撒，我真的要暈倒！”
"We are all living in overseas; it is not too expensive to buy some decent clothes. We are all professionals, to find clothes to hide your fat waist and to show that you are a professional female, am I asking for too much? When I see women having fat waist and dressing kitchen clothes in public and talking loudly to their kids in public, I really want to faint!"
If you still don't feel that the message is lack of sensitivity, please use the above comments to your co-workers. If you go to chuch every Sunday, say it to your sisters. However, before you do so, please make sure you have enough money to counter law suits.
Please don't reply before you do this expeiemnt with your American co-workers :-)
America is a melting pot, make-up or not, it is a personal choice. It has nothing to do with you and you have no right to demand others to have make up.
Conversation topic is also a personal choice. If you and your friend feel comfortable talking about family and kids, it only means you belong to that group. If you don't like it, just walk away and join another group where you feel comfortable about.
Having makeups and dressing nicely are not going to make you superior than others. Wearing baggy clothes and taking care of youngsters do not mean you are inferior as well.
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By the way, I am a professional who happened to have a few years experience as a house wife. I have empathy to both groups and have no prejudice against any.
回複風娉的評論:
if a woman has even skin tone and has no age spots, she can go by without any makeup. But once a woman has dark age spots or liver spots, she should use make up to improve the looks.
so age is not a determine fact but relatively speaking, more women develop age spots when they get older. so yes, midage women should use more make ups
