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Months ago, on the way to find a new trail, I overheard over the car radio the latter half of an inspiring story, which I relayed to my daughter when she was home.
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A black mom, in raising her black girl, has been telling her to always keep her head up but her mouth shut.
Sitting in the classroom one normal school day, she was facing the questions from her teacher.
“What does your mom do?”
Remembering her mom’s word, the little girl answered timidly that she did not know.
Then the topic somehow switched to the shoes the girl was going to wear to school. The girl told the teacher that she had ten pairs of shoes, describing each in details the colors and styles.
One day, the girl wore a pair of shoes that was not in her list. The teacher saw it, looked into the girl’s eyes, and said coldly: “You didn’t tell me that you have this.”
The girl was intimidated and lowered her head, as if she was doing something wrong.
Back at home, she told her mom what happened that day at school. The mom was enraged. "That’s ridiculous!”burst out the mom. The girl looked at her mom, not sure if it was her that her mom was mad at.
“It’s none of her business!” Holding her little girl’s hand by one side, and with a handbag in another, the mom stormed out the door. Not knowing where her mom was taking her, or if it’s the school they were going to, the girl followed her mom fearfully. They came to the bustling main street, and stopped in front of Saks 5th Avenue. The mom went straight into the shoe department and picked a pair of yellow-colored shoes that cost almost $100.
The next morning, the mom asked the little girl to put on the new shoes, and told her:
“You go and tell the teacher that you actually have a dozen pairs of shoes.”
The girl did accordingly. She walked up to the teacher and showed her her 12th pair of shoes. The teacher, stone-faced, looked at the shiny bright new shoes, said nothing but: "Go and sit down.”
Of course, the mom knew that soon the little girl's feet would outgrow all the shoes she had, but this $100 is a silent defiance, fighting for her little girl’s dignity in face of an authority. Many years later, the little girl, now grown up to be a self-esteemed lady, was telling her story over the radio, reminiscent of her proud mom and her 12 pairs of shoes.
祝感恩節愉快！
問候親愛的暖冬，預祝感恩節快樂！
同祝康康感恩節快樂!
跟我們小時的教育不同啊，那時隻要學習好就行了，家長認為孩子太注重穿著和打扮，會影響學習。記得班裏的學渣才會被歧視，而且有些學習不錯的孩子會公開歧視學渣，甚至老師也是這樣。還有，有些老師對家庭條件好或是有背景的孩子的態度是不一樣的，這是人性，我們有時會過分解讀，就會用到種族上。
最近瞎忙，多日不見，惦念，問好暖冬，人在外，預祝暖冬感恩節快樂！：））
剛剛文學城好像crashed了，後來手機又信號不好。
另外我是在門洞裏認出你那雙眼睛的:)))
其實那天在車上聽這個故事時，我感慨的是這個母親的做法，一般中國人可能就息事寧人了。這種從小培養孩子不怕權威，敢於藐視挑戰，我自己做的很不夠。告訴女兒這個故事時，告訴了她我的感受，還有就是，不是別人說你不行你就不行了。這個驕傲的母親值得我學習的。
謝謝你還特意問他的感受，錢如果能買回自尊，給人無聲的一擊，就值了。有錢就是好:))
謝謝Oncemm的感悟和認真，周二快樂!