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跨族裔婚姻在美國

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跨族裔婚姻在美國

1)在美國這個多族裔社會裏,跨族裔婚姻扮演了促進融合的正麵角色:
--- 少數族裔通過跨族裔婚姻表明自己融入了主流社會
--- 多數族裔通過跨族裔婚姻表明拋棄種族主義
--- 在美國長大的人比起新移民跨族裔婚姻比例更高,且有加速的趨勢,說明美國社會的確具有熔爐的作用
--- 日益增多的混血一代展現了反種族主義的成果,在各種舞台上展現了自己的優勢

2)跨族裔婚姻也包含著一些爭議問題,主要是:
--- 移民目的 新移民為了綠卡而結婚很普遍,有純粹的錢或性交易,也有夾雜交易和感情的“弄假成真”,但原動力都是為了留在美國
--- 經濟目的 對比新移民和少數族裔,美國本土出生、歐洲裔白人無疑占有社會和經濟優越性,這種優越性不光體現在婚姻的形成之時,也延伸到婚姻之中
--- 性動力 當代人追求物質享受,性在婚姻中的重要性提高了。跨族裔對部分人來講更能滿足性需求,跨族裔同居比例便大大高於跨族裔婚姻
--- 文化衝突 存在於族群之間的文化差異進入了家庭,處置不當便易於成為衝突

3)統計數據的解釋:
--- 非洲裔男子跨族裔婚姻比例大大高於非洲裔女子(2.5:1),原因可能是
. 其它族裔對非洲裔女子的膚色比對男子更在意
. 非洲裔男子的性能力被認為較強
--- 亞裔女子跨族裔婚姻比例大大高於亞裔男子(3.1:1),原因可能是
. 其它族裔對亞裔男子的身材比對女子更在意
. 亞裔女子的性格被認為較柔順
--- 拉美裔男女跨族裔婚姻比例相當,原因可能是
. 拉美裔從種族上和歐洲裔接近
--- 跨族裔婚姻幾乎一邊倒地存在於少數族裔和多數族裔之間(93%),原因可能是
. 社會經濟因素使得跨族裔婚姻中有一方應屬於比較強勢的群體
. 多數族裔具有文化習俗的強勢地位,容易讓他們的少數族裔配偶而不是他們自己調整習俗,而同為少數族裔的跨族裔夫婦之間更難向對方的文化習俗妥協
--- 白人跨族裔婚姻比例2%,非洲裔6%,最多是亞裔13%,原因可能是
. 歐洲裔白人種族優越感最強
. 除了本族裔,白人男子較喜歡亞裔女子
. 部分亞裔更加欣賞美式文明,相對來說拉丁裔西亞裔南亞裔對自己族裔的依附性較強
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nightrose 回複 悄悄話 看到這裏對身高的討論,覺得很有意思。其實統計學能夠指出概率,卻不能決定每個人的具體數據。就像武勝所說,身高隻是很小一部分因素,成功與否和自我努力是很有關係的。拿破侖和鄧小平都很矮(法國總統薩克奇也不高),但他們比很多高個子出色得多。他們事業上的成功也很可能有助於愛情的成功(薩克奇就娶了名模妻子)。
武勝 回複 悄悄話 回複tony933的評論:
有道理,中間是標準.但美國這地方"品種"太多,還真不好找這個標準.
武勝 回複 悄悄話 Thanks for every comment.

回複laojie的評論: Different groups do have different expectation on marriage, but "want everything" is overstating. It is saying that American girl are diversified with various requests, some may be even bizarre, while other groups have more foreseeable behavior. Diversification can be good if not accompanied with unstable.

When picking your another half, it should take into account both you can get and give to the marriage. You are not choosing a commodity but designing your life. Tall or short is just one feature that is overvalued. It's only 5% difference from 170cm to 180cm while other differences influence your future more.
tony933 回複 悄悄話 Well, tall or short, we always algin in the middle...

記得我插對那年代,老農總是說男女之間或高或矮,不是最重要的。我們總是中間找齊兒!
laojie 回複 悄悄話 回複武勝的評論:
But I always thought it's Asian men who are picky on women -- American women are less "wify". Am I wrong? Sometime ago, an American boy told me about a song, it goes roughly like "French girls want this, Chinese girls want that......." Guess what, "American girls want everything you can possibly imagine" Are they too demanding? Educate me please.
laojie 回複 悄悄話 回複smeagolrocks的評論:
Let me also add one thing: In America, tall people do havesome advantages. Your husband is 6'3'' which puts him in a good position -- he probably is confident about his height throughout his life. Short men in America are more likely wanting tall women. This is something I observed.
武勝 回複 悄悄話 回複smeagolrocks的評論:
Yes, agree. A lot of men like petite lady, but few like small men. See, it's unfair for us :)
smeagolrocks 回複 悄悄話 亞裔女子跨族裔婚姻比例大大高於亞裔男子(3.1:1),原因可能是. 其它族裔對亞裔男子的身材比對女子更在意
--Let's see. I am 5 foot 3(160cm) and I like tall men - call me shallow. When I lived in China, I liked a guy who was 180cm. He liked me all that but he thought I was a little too short for him. After I moved to America I met my current husband who is 6 foot 3. He told me he likes Asian women because we are petite. He does not like tall women - he just does not find them sexy.
So - they do care about 亞裔女子身材 but they have different opinions on what beauty is.
---Lunch break gossip.
武勝 回複 悄悄話 不好意思,老舊文章不知如何又上榜了.

淵博實在談不上,隻是看到幾個數字試圖去解釋,缺乏論證,汗顏.
diusiren 回複 悄悄話 井底之蛙也沒關係,最關鍵就是還頭頭是道,以為自己很淵博
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