樓上兔子說的很清楚了，我來添幾隻足。

這件事的被動之處在於你沒和頭兒反映過張三有多笨, 結果讓他惡人先告了狀。和頭兒談話時，注意力集中在你如何對， 而不是他如何錯。證明自己對是正能量，證明別人錯是負能量。即使你證明了他錯，對頭兒沒好處。但證明了你對，事情做得好，頭兒也省心。
 

(1) I feel sorry to call him lier in the meeting, but I turely think he is and it just came out from my month.

略過，談話的目的是商量如何把事情做好，個人之間的事不用提。

 

(2) I feel very frustrate to work with him.  During the past several months, I feel that his action is not for the good of the project, but for showing his authority to me. He made the project cannot going smoothly, that is why I even took risk not following procedure to check in my code, which I think it is best for the project.

如果說你frustrated, 等於承認你不知如何與他相處，他對你的控告就有了可信之處。職場上誰談感覺誰先輸。對事不對人的說明你的做法是對的。

 

(3) I never broke any existed feature. We can check the code in source control, or revert my code to test again. It is not hard to verify whether I broke the feature or not.

既然證明你沒有出錯很容易，那就證明給頭兒看。

 

I have always tolerant him, but up to this point, I cannot keep this to myself any more. I dont mind he attack me, but he needs to be honest。

前後有點自相矛盾，既然你不在乎他攻擊你，他撒不撒謊也就無所謂了。可以對他的攻擊不動氣，但不能不在乎，否則成了受氣包了。

 

題外的話：溝通是職場順利的基礎。上行溝通尤其重要。遇到問題多和頭兒商量著怎麽處理，別等到小事拖成大事，爆發之後讓頭兒收拾殘局。

 

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• 你不是廢話多多， 說的是真經 -隻會做飯- ♀ (204 bytes) () 03/15/2016 postreply 07:46:25

• 讚這貼。確實不能personal，要professional. 不要講個人感受，要講對project的質量，進度的影響 -結婚十年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/15/2016 postreply 16:28:07