relax

"因為工作量太大，公司HIRE了一個和我平級的新人。此人一來第一天，就對這裏的環境大發議論，指指點點，很多都是不ACCURATE 或者不是重點。"

他這是急於在新地方確立自己的地位，不好但不少人這樣做。新人到一新地方通常通過兩種途徑確立自己的地位：第一種是展現別人好他更好；第二種是別人都不好就他好。大多數人是第二種因為它比第一種容易。這麽做反映了他的不安心理。

"會上經常問一些概念性錯的問題，老板還說是GOOD POINT. 且經常在會上說VENDOR SUPPORT 不行，需要他來教他們。"

他是你老板挑出來的，你老板也渴望他的選擇能得到別人的認可，表現出來就是這樣偏袒維護之類無非是不想一下子就被認定選錯了人。

"不僅如此，經常打斷我和另外一個同事和別人的談話，發表一同或者別人知道的，或者無厘頭的話。"

還是前麵說的一樣道理他想確立自己的地位。經常打斷別人的談話 is a bad manner. 這時候你需要做的是觀察分析一下自己，也是更好的了解一下自己的心理吧。For example, why發表一同或者別人知道的，或者無厘頭的話 bothers you so much? Maybe it is because you are worried that your own position in the company is being challenged – this reflects your own insecurity.

"和他辯論，也常常沒有結果，因為沒有人懂你們兩到底誰對誰錯。"

Try to avoid arguing in front of people who do not understand. It only makes you look as bad as he does.

"他有很多東西不懂，就是通過這種辦法來學東西，了解狀況。一開始提出很多無厘頭想法，然後和你爭論，然後就從中學東西。

以上這是不是我個人的看法，組裏另一個同事也和我相同的感受。

問題是老板聽之任之，且有意無意的站在他這邊。老板一是不懂，無法做判斷，二我估計是為了平衡我，因為我最了解這裏的情況。照理，我工作很好，且幫助公司很多，一個新來的，沒有什麽CREDIT，老板應該相信我多一點，這是人之常情，但是老板好像對我的態度視乎是和他一樣，他一有想法，哪怕我覺得不make sense 的，老板都要拿出來討論。討論下來，老板也不下結論。"

Your boss only does something that bosses would normally do to their direct reports, i.e. (seemingly) impartial. It is perhaps your misconception that我工作很好，且幫助公司很多，一個新來的，沒有什麽CREDIT，老板應該相信我多一點. He is hired at the same position as yours, that means in your boss’mind he is as good and as credible as you are. And you need to accept it first. He is here to stay (at least for a while).

"請指教，策略上我應該如何辦？不是想問誰對誰錯，而是應該如何技巧的應付這類情況。"

My 2 cents:

First, you need to relax. It is he who needs to work hard to establish himself, not you. You don’t need to change your way of working if it has served you well in the past. Focus on yourself, improve yourself all the time, don’t let him distract you, and stop being obsessed by what he says or does.

Second, helping your boss is helping yourself, chat with your boss from time to time and find out what his worries are. Be reminded that your boss hired him. It may take time for your boss to realise and accept whether he’s made a good choice or not.  

Be polite, be graceful and good mannered, give him opportunity to show what kind of person/worker he is. If he is a decent chap, he will become less aggressive once he feels he is accepted by his new colleagues. In the meantime, keep good terms with your boss, not to bad mouth him to your boss, spend some time and effort explaining technical details to your boss with a hint here and there that the ideas from the new hire may not be that great.

 

謝謝！

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• 有道理！ -多哥- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/09/2016 postreply 07:51:16

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• 你老板的不作為應該是你老板的老板的問題,你操心太多,越界了.你隻不過是想要你老板關注而已. -魚兒離不開水- ♀ (80 bytes) () 02/12/2018 postreply 12:29:17