【母愛似水父愛如山】The last words he said to me

When my mother was diagnosed with hernia she thought she could live with it for the rest of her life. At late seventies she tended to be more conservative and always tried to avoid any surgery even something like a bad tooth extraction. Only the reality doesn’t allow her to sit back , heria grew quickly and hindered her motion, and she is the one that kept the family going. My father got stroke a few years before. He kept fading in front of my helpless eyes and already lost self care ability. My mother has never been strong but doesn’t have any chronical disease, a small hernia surgery shouldn’t be a problem, our family need her and she could have better life quality after. The decision was made in the family meeting. One conflict gotta be coped with. The surgery required my mother to stay in hospital for 3 days and 3 more days at home recovery and my father fully occupied the in house caregiver. Need one direct family member to run between my home and the hospital and make decisions and I would be the one. It was November 2018 and I already went back home earlier and used all my vacation for the year. So I borrowed 2 weeks’ vacation from 2019.  
Everything went as planned. But I never had a single light-hearted moment, refused to accept my father’s going downhill. Remembered the evening I went home to pick up something and go back to the hospital. It was dark the caregiver was cooking in the kitchen, my father sat in a chair alone and watched me indifferently. Is this the man teaching me everything at the beginning of my life? Does he know what I am doing? Does he know his always indecisive life partner and everything depending on him to make decision’s wife now is in the hospital alone to face the surgery? I shook it off and left. Another evening I had to wrestle with him from dinner time till bed time to convince him that he was at his own home. Like other Alzheimer's disease patients he gradually lost all the abilities. I noticed that he almost never talked this time and he did a lot more six months ago. Now he was losing speaking.
Time jumped to the last night for me at home. My mother recovered very well. The caregiver went her own home two days ago for some urgent matters, no temporary replacement. I woke up every two hours during the night to take care of my father. This last night my mother let me go to sleep and she took care my father although she was not allowed any drastic motion.”你明天需要去趕飛機,今晚我照顧你爸爸”. I was bending low beside my father helping him washing his feet at the moment.
“沒關係,還是我來吧, 熬一晚沒問題,明天我上飛機再睡覺”. All of a sudden, I felt a warm hand touched my head, still warm as he used to be,”你去睡覺吧,今晚讓你媽照顧我,你明天要去趕飛機” my lost-speaking father said every word clearly through basic instinct. The last conscious in him is father’s love. This is the last words he said to me.
Since then I never heard him speaking, never saw him in the family web meeting. In 2020, I went back home one more time, he never got up from his medical bed, never spoke. Last year he gave up on fighting. His funeral is pending for my sister and me to get back.
Now he has left us for over a year. The last words he said to me almost like a miracle to me. He had not said that clear for a year. It must be the power of parental love.     
Mother's love deep as ocean, father's love high as mountain.

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• 看得眼淚嘩嘩，It is so touching， no matter how many times I read it -妖妖靈- ♀ (38 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 11:04:23

• 一邊上班一邊寫, 發出去後再proof reading -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 11:12:14

• 看紫美人寫你的傳記，你爸爸連保送清華都不去，那得多厲害。有其父必有其子啊 -妖妖靈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 11:06:06

• Tears,so touching, I’d be in similar situations in a few yrs -7997- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 13:43:08

• 有感放了顆催淚彈，我聽到我爹說了那句話，我愣有10多分鍾沒敢抬頭，我怕我媽看見，早就不習慣在父母麵前流淚了。 -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 15:06:14

• Big hug! -何仙姑- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 13:50:56

• 現在的焦慮就是想回國，其它到沒太多遺憾，我當時在場我爹也認不出我來 -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 15:07:24

• 我也是有點回國焦慮症了：）） -何仙姑- ♀ (641 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 15:22:03

• 子欲養而親不在，痛！ -rockcurrent- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 19:09:27

• circle of life. -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/21/2022 postreply 11:08:09

• Touching. 真是愛的奇跡。祝你父親在天之靈安息，祝你母親完全康複。 -天邊一片白雲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 19:27:05

• 長期的疾病，對本人，家人真是嚴峻的考驗 -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/21/2022 postreply 11:06:03

• 恭喜花董。首頁進來，謝謝網管，母愛父愛 The last words he said to me 推薦成功 -梅雨潭- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/20/2022 postreply 22:09:59

• Can’t hold back tears... May all parents be healthy ! -CLary- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/21/2022 postreply 08:21:01

• 同祝願 -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/21/2022 postreply 11:09:25

• A very touching story, stroke is the number 1 cause in China. -AP33912- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/21/2022 postreply 14:39:00

• I suspect hypertension is the culprit -移花接木- ♂ (776 bytes) () 05/22/2022 postreply 20:54:59

• Hug Hua shuai. Love is powerful and immortal -忒忒綠- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/22/2022 postreply 12:56:00

• 這次一定參加活動哈 -妖妖靈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/22/2022 postreply 13:09:26

• I concur -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/22/2022 postreply 21:03:29