you are drawing her fire for Bob. So don't expect him to help you eagerly.
Not easy to just "control yourself." Even if you can, it'll take a toll on you in the long run.
Think you're dealing with a robot, it might help you set your expectations right. A robot has no conscience.
To brighten your day, here's a quote by Leonardo da Vinci:
"You will never have a greater dominion than that over yourself... the height of a man's success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment... He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others."
Disclaimer: Not a professional advice
