Please help me with the situation

My boss(Chinese) asked me several times to lunch out with him, I said no each time.  But he still kept asking me the same thing every time I had meeting with him alone during 10 months. He showed angry every time I said no. Then he asked me that don't you want to be a manager? I said I want to get promotion, but I won't go out with you for lunch. he said you will someday.

He let a co-worker take over part of my leadership which I was not happy about. He criticised me in break area in front of people from other department.A lady was there told me that she heard my boss is very harsh to Chinese women. He asked me lunch out again 2 weeks ago, I said no again. He just promoted the co-worker as a manager a few days ago. I feel it's very unfair, I did all the new and complex projects, the co-worker doesn't have much experience, just does all the paperwork.He gave me a good raise though, which I think I deserve it. I was thinking he won't ask me again since he already favered the American co-worker, but I am not sure if he'll ask me again. If that happens, what  should I do?

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• 不必患得患失憤慨不滿。你失去了提升提薪，但保持了尊嚴。 -message- ♂ (227 bytes) () 09/01/2012 postreply 18:50:10

• what's wrong with going out to lunch? It's normal. Am i missing -kamioka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2012 postreply 19:51:01

• Am i missing sth here? -kamioka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2012 postreply 19:51:27

• 回複：Am i missing sth here? -024- ♀ (810 bytes) () 09/02/2012 postreply 11:10:04

• 哎, 工作女性的難啊, -阿牛- ♀ (71 bytes) () 09/01/2012 postreply 23:08:11

• 回複：哎, 工作女性的難啊, -024- ♀ (70 bytes) () 09/02/2012 postreply 07:16:45

• 態度要端正，立場要堅定，做事要有策略 -東西方不敗- ♂ (882 bytes) () 09/02/2012 postreply 08:39:01

• 回複：態度要端正，立場要堅定，做事要有策略 -024- ♀ (245 bytes) () 09/02/2012 postreply 11:17:17

• 我覺得正常的工作交往，樓主多慮了。作為經理層的應該經常有些人際交往同時你沒有表現出 -giss- ♀ (168 bytes) () 09/02/2012 postreply 18:06:06

• 你是不是想多了,跟老板和同事一起吃午飯沒什麽了不起的. -虎寶寶- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2012 postreply 10:52:59