How can I reject unwanted HELP?

Last two weeks, my company has gone through many layoffs which caused only 2 people left in my team - my boss and I. Worst part is, my boss has schedueled 4 weeks vacation before the layoff. Now I am the only person who is working on all the projects. Someone from west coast was brought in to help me go through this difficult time. Yes, he is trying to help - not helping with the parts I need the most, he kept requesting me to send him my coding which I did mulitple times (he never read emails) even converted some code he was not able to read (he does not know the language) into plain text. 

Then he totally ignored my real need for help, kept asking me to explain why we need do business certain way, questioning business owners why they made the strategy the way it is and the validity, questioning my efficiency with mulitple coding languages which he obviously does not understand. 

He kept telling me to stop doing what we've been doing.

I had enough of this kind of help and had to talk to the project manager who is managing all the projetcs for us. I shared my frustration and expressed the concern of the high risk his behavior brought in to our projects. 

He got extremely mad and not just hung me up in the meeting when I told him what's our priorities are, also he emailed the whole group that IT IS A NEED to go over thousands lines of my coding now. 

We tried to tell him under current scenario, changing process or revisit the programs which have been proved successful is not the top priority, we need get all projects on plate delivered on time with good quality then go back to see what we can do to improve later when we have time. 

He refused to listen. What should I do? I will ignore him but it did not work. I wrote emails about what priorities we have and what needs to be done, he ignored. During daily meetings, we talked about priorities, he ignored. I appreciate all his good intention, but really need him to leave me alone so I can complete what needs to be done. 

How can I make him stop? Should I talk to higher up? His behavior is jeopardizing my productivity and put projects on high risk.  Sorry my Chinese version does not work.

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My approach - will tell him directly and firmly that I appreciat -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (534 bytes) () 06/19/2019 postreply 17:27:43

不知為什麽說NO怎麽如此困難。禮貌再輕鬆地帶著微笑類似歉意似的說出真實的理由,難嗎?自己在那裏糾結任情緒壓抑,別人會覺得很奇怪。 -世上事本無- 給 世上事本無 發送悄悄話 (328 bytes) () 06/19/2019 postreply 19:34:13

I am Bao Zi, and too nice to say NO. But I am learning. Thanks -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:25:31

人從西部給派來,不是來help你的,是來lead的,你還是得弄明白他給派來的目的 -Anjiff- 給 Anjiff 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/22/2019 postreply 08:03:21

在公司重組時休四周的假,你肯定你老板不是找工作去了?如果你老板不是和上麵有關係,他是下一個走的人,你有沒有可能取代他? -廢話多多- 給 廢話多多 發送悄悄話 廢話多多 的博客首頁 (1257 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 02:01:54

Every single time read your post, I love it. Right on spot. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:26:17

我覺得你是想多了,特別是在大裁員的環境下 -天寺- 給 天寺 發送悄悄話 天寺 的博客首頁 (562 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 07:23:12

Took your advice. And working with PM. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:26:51

他不聽,你就不理。就這麽簡單。等你老板回來再說。你不如省出時間來另找工作有備無患 -Timshel- 給 Timshel 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 09:14:24

Have to be ready for any changes - resume ready. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:27:57

Always being this way - Risk team was taken over, Technology was -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:27:31

Why did you think he was trying to help you? -One1618- 給 One1618 發送悄悄話 (568 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 11:28:59

You are right. Can be both. Thanks. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:25:03

Updates: He backed off. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (616 bytes) () 06/20/2019 postreply 13:33:16

New update 1: what happened today -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (1510 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 12:59:15

重複一次廢過的話:他不會停止現在的作為,你也改不了他的為人處事。說句招人不待見的話: -廢話多多- 給 廢話多多 發送悄悄話 廢話多多 的博客首頁 (1904 bytes) () 06/22/2019 postreply 03:18:39

我感覺是他是被派來指導和監督你的,不管你願不願意。弄清楚你和他的工作關係後再下結論。如果你是被領導的,即使再不合理也有你的錯。 -世上事本無- 給 世上事本無 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 13:54:52

He is trying to lead while my boss is on long vacation. This is -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (202 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 14:01:10

如果老板走之前,沒有對你交代過你是他走後的聯係人(email上的auto reply),那就建議你要服從領導,有的任命不都是官方 -世上事本無- 給 世上事本無 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 14:55:55

Actually I am assigned for all our product related projects due -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (248 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 17:03:38

唉,第一個跟貼白說了,重複一次廢過的話:有人來問題,能回答就回答,不想回答的,讓他等你的頭兒回來問你的頭兒。 -廢話多多- 給 廢話多多 發送悄悄話 廢話多多 的博客首頁 (1517 bytes) () 06/22/2019 postreply 03:17:01

When he raised his voice, -One1618- 給 One1618 發送悄悄話 (1057 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 15:42:02

Thank you. Great advice. -placidworld- 給 placidworld 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) () 06/21/2019 postreply 16:59:50

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