'你眼中的別人，才是真正的你'

<悉達多> 裏有一段話：

「別人眼中的你，不是真的你。 你眼中的自己，也不是真的你。 你眼中的別人，才是真正的你。」

 

The passage you quoted is from *Siddhartha* by Hermann Hesse, a novel originally written in German. The original German text from which this passage is derived is from a section where Siddhartha reflects on the nature of self and perception. 

The exact passage you mentioned doesn’t appear verbatim in standard English translations of *Siddhartha*, but it closely resembles a paraphrased or interpreted version of Hesse’s ideas about the self and others, often found in translations or summaries. The closest equivalent in English translations, such as those by Hilda Rosner or Joachim Neugroschel, might be drawn from passages where Siddhartha contemplates the illusory nature of the self and the interconnectedness of beings. For example, a related sentiment appears in reflections like:

> “What is it that you’ve learned, what you’re able to do?”  
> “I can think, I can wait, I can fast.”  
> ...  
> “You have found something that one cannot find by seeking.”

However, the specific phrasing you provided seems to be a modern, concise interpretation or adaptation, possibly from a Chinese translation or a popularized summary. A direct English translation of Hesse’s original German that aligns with this idea might be:

> “The you that others see is not the true you.  
> The you that you see is not the true you.  
> The others you see are the true you.”

This is not a literal quote from the book but a distillation of its philosophical themes, particularly from sections where Siddhartha realizes the self is an illusion and truth lies in unity with others and the world.

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佛教有個關於明心見性的典故，說蘇東坡問佛印，你看我像什麽，佛印說施主像一尊佛，但蘇東坡卻說看佛印大師像一坨屎，佛印禪師笑而不語，東坡沾沾自喜，以為自己勝利了。回家後得意地和蘇小妹談起了這件事。

蘇小妹說：“哥哥，你輸了啊！禪師的心態像佛一樣的境界，所以看你像一尊佛；而你的心態像一堆牛屎一樣，看禪師當然也就像一堆牛屎了。”蘇東坡聽後頓時麵紅耳赤，心中五味雜陳。

佛教有一詞，明心見性，心淨則國土淨，心安則眾生安，心平則天下平。你心即你佛，你心中有佛，你就能看到佛；你心中有屎，看到的自然就是屎。我們看到的他人，正是我們自己的心底。

曾聽說過一個心理學家的研究，說人們總是容易看到別人的缺點，因為這些缺點其實就是自己心中的某種恐懼或不安全感的體現。

而當我們讚揚別人的時候，其實也是在稱讚自己。我們欣賞的，都是自己渴望成為的。

其實每次我們評價別人的時候，不過是在通過一麵鏡子，看到自己的心靈深處。每個人心中都有一麵鏡子，你看到的，都是你自己的倒影或投射。