閑聊翁孫配之違和與幸福

翁孫配或曰老少配存在違和是不言而喻的，嬌娘看翁郎，照樣是滿眼的雞皮褶褶、老年斑斑，以及再濃的香水也掩不住的歲月舊賬。隔代人的差距擺在那兒， 越看越有吃蒼蠅的感覺是人之常情。故老少配婚姻中最不重要的就是“性”， 其幸福獲得感的妙處隻在於“補償” ，要看翁郎別的籌碼是不是趕趟。

一是地位——多老多醜的皇帝都有大把美女圍著轉就是例子，且這些美女爭寵吃醋的情意大多還都來真的，所以， 隻要有足夠的權勢，則翁郎頭上的光環就足夠讓嬌娘活出公主的飄然感；

二是財富——  翁郎金山銀山堆滿身，則頭上的光環也能相當輝煌， 僅次於皇帝，鄧文迪之追愛默多克就是例子：賠上點青春，獲得三輩子的花天酒地錦衣玉食；

三是智商與閱曆上的碾壓——翁郎若能把嬌娘忽悠得似墜雲端，那麽他老人家每一道皺紋在嬌娘眼中就成了智慧的折痕，每一記老年斑也成了宇宙中引人入勝的故事——這是能讓嬌娘對翁郎真實生出情緒快感的最高級的補償。

這絕非調侃，  美醜的概念是非常主觀而富於相對性的，  關鍵就在於對方能否激發出讓你產生美感的荷爾蒙，而一個人一旦遭受了智力碾壓， 被碾壓的一方一定對對方升起崇拜之情， 這時候他（她）腦子中的荷爾蒙就一定會視對方為絕美，崇拜產生美與  情人眼裏出西施是每天都在發生著千真萬確的事實。

我有一位朋友就對我說過， 他上小學時就崇拜過整天給他們上課喊起立的女班長， 覺得那女孩長得美極了， 令他有自卑感，完全不敢直視。 但等後來上了初中那女孩學習成績開始滑坡之後，他卻又發現那女孩的長相實在是平平無奇。（賭咒發誓， 這是真實的故事）

世界冠軍彭帥被張高麗副總理迷得神魂顛倒， 寧願當小三也不願撒手，除了權位這劑春藥之外，  也是因為智力的碾壓，因為那天晚餐時張高麗向彭帥說過一句話：“宇宙很大很大，地球就是宇宙的一粒沙，我們人類連一粒沙都沒有” ，（彭帥公開信中自述）這句話讓隻會打網球、缺乏文化符號的彭帥豁然陷入了無窮的宇宙奧秘而再也不能自拔 ，於是相應的我們張高麗副總理的那張老臉也就成了世上的絕美。

這也是我論證楊振寧教授與翁帆婚姻生活質量應該還不錯的一個立足點。詳見拙文《人生大贏家*幸福的翁孫戀*家國情懷——也說楊振寧先生》

可以大致肯定， 世界上所有的力量， 再沒有比那些被崇拜的聰明人忽悠的力量更大，人所愛者無過與生命， 而 希特勒卻能讓納粹軍隊死而無憾， 就是因為他善於忽悠的超能力， 那些人一聽到希特勒的聲音就會荷爾蒙爆棚得欲仙欲死，  覺得為老希戰死就是為世界上絕美的事業而死。  —— 而愚昧之最突出標誌就是這個人基因裏有隨時可以讓他蠢血沸騰的崇拜情緒。

隻有上帝是值得無條件崇拜的， 因為他與人類的智能不在一個維度。 

視頻：毛澤東寧都走狼狽，任弼時驍勇勝周公//康生最怕的兩個人——解析周恩來的不歸之路18

 

[誠信]

The absence of 習近平 and his proteges from the funeral of 楊振寧先生 reflects the fact that 楊振寧先生 had never fawned on nor bowed to the communist regime. This in turn implies that he went to China for the purpose of serving the country, instead of the regime or his own interests. He must have expressed some important opinions that alienated or even antagonized the current leadership who are quite ignorant and arrogant. After all, arrogance always originates from ignorance.

[誠信]

Many Chinese people deride or decry his second marriage merely because of the vast age gap. Most people judge others based on their own experience, instead of the relevant facts. People usually deem that a young girl marrying a grandpa is equivalent to leaping into the hell fire. In retrospect, what we can be certain today is that the young wife has been cherishing and relishing their unpopular marriage. In addition, all her and his family members sincerely supported their marriage ever since. Hence we can deduce that there must be an unusual reason for the marriage. One likely reason is that the young lady had been obsessed with the aspiration to consort with him. One clue is that his two wives bear staggering resemblance in appearance at their young ages. It appears he was destined to have the second marriage.

Despite boisterous suspicions, their marriage lasted for two decades congenially. It turns out that the fidelity and intimacy within their marriage have been dwelling far from any venomous speculations. Today, it is unfair and contemptible to malign or ridicule their enduring marriage, which was apparently founded on genuine sentiments.

[誠信]

Insane, indeed.