新手媳婦 vs 新手婆婆

既然我是新手媳婦,婆婆當然也是新手.不得不說,俺婆婆是個能吃苦,能忍耐,高情商的女人.

在婆婆那個年代,女人不婚是要被人看不起的.所以當她快30而沒有對象的時候,就非常著急了.覺得非得抓一個人結婚,後來就挑了公公.可憐的婆婆連結婚戒指都是自己買的,讓我驚訝不已.在我看來,聰明能幹的女人不應該委曲求全.要結婚,必須嫁給愛情,而且是男方心心念念把你當掌中寶那種.結婚後婆婆更是家裏家外一肩挑,忙個不停. 幸運的是她有個好兒子,從小到大沒有讓她操心的時候.

而我可能看了太多關於惡婆婆的電視劇,總覺得婆婆不是好相處的. 加上她每周還要跟我們住2天,真讓我心裏發毛. 後來我發現自己多慮了. 婆婆由於自己婚姻的問題,一直是既不催婚,又不催生,讓我完全沒有壓力. 在飲食方麵,她也很好伺候.基本上我煮啥,她吃啥.就我這一手沒油沒鹽的菜,還經常得到她的誇獎,特別健康.婚後短短1個月,婆婆的血糖降到了曆史最低點,而我也成了最大的功臣. 後來我才知道,原來他們一直吃外賣.雖然明知道不健康,但老公不會下廚房,婆婆年級大,精力不濟,隻能這麽將就. 另外婆婆也是人情世故的高手,結婚時老公的紅包就薄薄的一張,而我的是厚厚的一疊.

當然,任何人際關係都需要技巧,和家人相處也不例外.我們做婚姻輔導的時候,我特地選了老公從小長大教會的牧師.就是為了多了解婆婆的喜好. 買婚房的時候,也帶著她一起看.還特意選了能說三語的經紀,陪她聊天.總之,讓婆婆有參與感. 每周末,隻要有時間,都會陪她看她喜歡的恩雨之聲. 更是很有興趣的閱讀了老公的家譜,而老公由於不會中文,這些事情都不可能幹.最近婆婆說,還是你父母有福氣,生了個女兒. 這邊我父母聽說還有點不快,在娘家的時候也不做飯呀.我說,那是你們看不上我的手藝,所以本小姐不伺候.

總而言之,盡管婚姻生活有不少意外,但是俺和婆婆還是合合美美的.

[原婡]

一手沒油沒鹽的菜，讓婆婆血糖降到曆史最低點……喜劇電影既視感，可愛~~~

[心已遠]

回複 'elfie' 的評論 : Somehow what you said is true. However, my husband doesn't want to date anyone likes his mum. His mum is too tolerant, which is not a good thing. He wants someone confident enough to know who she is and to hold it strong.

[心已遠]

回複 '清漪園' 的評論 : 我們不打算要孩子,雙方父母也都同意

[elfie]

I have two sons and they are both mama's boys. I bet their future wives gonna have a hard time matching with me, haha. My sons, especially the younger one, like to hold me tight to go to sleep. I wonder who can beat his mother in closeness. A boy's best friend is his mother, until he gets married. Then it's whoever that can be compared with his mother! And mom is always the best model, consciously or subconsciously. Men can't help but want to live with women that resemble their mothers the most. And they get disappointed inevitably.Because no one loves them more deeply than their own mothers. A mother's love for her sons is not being matched by any others. It's an adoration mixed with lots of fond memories, a very unique relationship.

[北國之春花]

祝福你，我也有個好婆婆，我永遠懷念她。

[清漪園]

懂事的孩子！祝你生女兒，永生不當婆婆。不是每個婆婆都有福遇到懂事兒媳婦的。