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Fall school season will start in one week, the first day of going back to school will be a big thing for both the students and the parents, me and my son are not exception.
But talking about going back to school, we hold a different feeling. I am 100% happy about it. He is not. “Contradiction” should be the right word to express his feeling. On one hand, he doesn’t want school re-opening, since he wants to play video games with his game friends located in different areas in the nation, even in other countries. On the other hand, he wants to, since he knows he needs to learn academy in school. Comparing playing game at home with studying academy in school, he knows the later is way more important.
Since he could spend hours a day in front of screen, I have been worrying about if he has an addiction to video game. We had conversations about this for a few times, the first one should be two years ago, then last year, till to this year, to yesterday.
Besides the topic about playing game, we have other conversations on different topics. Sometimes I feel I was playing a role as a counselor to him. I saw how peaceful his facial expression and how calm his voice is, how smoothly the conversion goes, a wave of pride would rise from my heart.
Through these conversations, I helped him adjust some concepts he hold in his mind which he thinks them reasonable, or logical. I told him I understand what he thinks, but the society is composed with people, you have to think the feeling of the person you are interacting with. With this in your mind, you will show your politeness by using the better words, adapting better manners, then they will be willing to help. I want to tell you some basic rules people agree and appreciate as part of the culture. In the conversation, he can strengthen his correct cognition by speaking them out and get support from me.
As a result, I benefited from these conversations too , they diminished my worries and made me have confidence about him and reassure my way in raising him, thinking he will be fine in the future. I believe he has self-recognition and has a good sense of balancing. Since in yesterday’s conversation, he told me” mom, I like playing game, I stayed late now since there is no school, but I will not do it in school season, I will only stay late on Friday and Saturday nights since I need enough sleep for next day in school.”
he knows knowledge will bring him a middle-class life, a life not have to struggle if he should spend money on stuffs he likes or his family likes, if he should have dinners with his families or friends in nice restaurants ; if he can afford the expense on vacation...
這段時間，兒子參加了一個無人機飛行俱樂部。俱樂部的組織者是JACK---一位七八十歲的退休電子工程師。這是個興趣組織，同小孩以前參加過的FIRST LEGO機器人俱樂部不同，這個俱樂部沒有規律的活動時間，也沒有教授人員。俱樂部可以說是免費的，成員所付的費用隻是用於支付付給鎮上的場地使用費。聽說40來名成員，年齡從15歲到90歲。
兒子在網上買了自建無人機所需的配件，擺弄了兩三天後，告訴我他需要幫助。於是我聯係了JACK, 老先生說可以來家給他指導了一次。來之前，我說我打了兩針疫苗，小孩打過一個疫苗，到時候可以坐在陽台上。他回說沒問題。等他來時，我戴了口罩，他站在門外，沒戴口罩。他說如果我介意，他就戴口罩，不然的話，他就不戴。我說沒關係。進來後，問了他疫苗情況，他說他不但打了疫苗，而且得過新冠，是雙重保護。大部份時間，他們都在陽台，後來進屋進行電腦上的操作時，兒子沒戴口罩。我想讓他戴，被他拒絕了，大概是他覺得那樣感覺有些怪。其實我也有怪的感覺，所以在室內和JACK談話時也沒戴口罩，不過保持著一米多的距離。過後，我確實有些擔心。不過這幾天都沒覺有事，小孩也沒事。
最後大部份都弄好了，就是遙控器無法與飛機建立連接。JACK走時，給小孩布置了自學的作業，讓他在網上自學相關知識。說”這東西很複雜，你要自己把理論先學清楚，想辦法把搖控器與飛機連起來。“ 三天過後，孩子還是沒弄成。最後我打電話告訴JACK，JACK讓孩子把他所買的無人機，及電池的機型告訴他，他好做些研究。最後他來信說，他找到原因，是因為小孩買的電池功率不夠大。他說他有一個大功率的電池，可以先拿來借給兒子用，但最終若要能加比賽，需要買自己的電池。
我讓兒子給JACK回複，對人家表示感謝，並且禮貌地請他在最方便的時候過來，他這方麵什麽時間都可以。就此，我和小孩展開了一場對話。對話一結束，我怕他一玩起來沒及時回複，又怕他的用語不夠禮貌，就代他回了兩句，並在下麵署了他的名。沒想到，昨晚兒子發現後把我指責了一番：“你這寫的都是啥呀，還用感歎號。你要這樣寫，不要寫我的名字。看著像是客戶服務寫的”
我聽了惶恐，因為冒用他的名字給他人寫信，實在是我的錯。“以後我不這樣做了”我忙道歉。
今天問他原因，他說了“感歎號在他們年輕人看來顯得很傻，很裝。每當我和朋友間相互搞笑時，就會在文字後加感歎號。。。" 原來是這樣，十幾歲還是純真的年代。”不過，很多時候人們就是喜歡那種感歎號帶來的感覺，不管它是否真實。"青春期的孩子真是特別，怎麽不記得我經曆過了這樣的青春期呢？
