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能稱量論價非愛中情而是買賣: to weigh and discuss price is not love but business; nor to rationalize; nor to earn, but given.
The statement "Being able to weigh and discuss price is not love but business. Love is unconditional" reflects a fundamental distinction between two aspects of human relationships: love and business. Let's elaborate on this idea:
Weighing and Discussing Price - The Business Aspect:
In business transactions, individuals often negotiate and discuss prices to arrive at a fair and mutually beneficial arrangement. This negotiation process is driven by self-interest and practical considerations.
In this context, people evaluate the worth or value of a product or service in relation to what they are willing to pay. It's a rational, calculated decision that takes into account factors like cost, quality, and competition.
Business deals are typically not based on emotions or unconditional commitment. They are contractual agreements with specific terms and conditions.
Love - The Unconditional Aspect:
Love, on the other hand, is a complex and multi-faceted emotion that encompasses a wide range of feelings, from affection and care to selflessness and compassion.
Unconditional love means loving someone regardless of their flaws, mistakes, or circumstances. It's a deep and enduring emotional connection that transcends material considerations.
True love is not contingent on what someone can offer in terms of money, possessions, or status. It's about accepting and cherishing a person for who they are, faults and all.
So, when the statement suggests that "Being able to weigh and discuss price is not love but business," it is highlighting the idea that treating a loving relationship like a business transaction, where you assess its value in terms of tangible benefits or costs, can undermine the authenticity of love.
Here are a few implications of this concept:
Authenticity of Love: Love is most genuine when it is not driven by material gains or selfish motives. When love is unconditional, it means you love someone for who they are, not for what they can provide or what you can gain from them.
Healthy Boundaries: While love is unconditional, it's important to have boundaries and discussions about practical matters in a relationship. These discussions are necessary to ensure both parties are on the same page regarding shared responsibilities, financial decisions, and future plans. However, these discussions should not overshadow or replace the emotional connection that defines love.
Balancing Love and Practicality: In many long-term relationships, there is a need to strike a balance between the emotional aspects of love and the practical considerations of life. This balance involves addressing financial concerns and other practical matters without losing sight of the love and emotional connection that brought the individuals together in the first place.
In summary, the statement underscores the idea that love is distinct from business in its nature and should be characterized by unconditional affection and commitment, rather than being reduced to a transactional or calculative dynamic.
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? 覺得男女朋友應該是大學的經曆之一 -yangyang08- 給 yangyang08 發送悄悄話 yangyang08 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (11 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:11:24
? 感情的事情不合適用“應該”吧，真不是去市場上買東西，應該買啥就買啥 -兩女寶媽- 給 兩女寶媽 發送悄悄話 兩女寶媽 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:23
? 我覺得熊娃即將被學長追走了 -Croissant_22- 給 Croissant_22 發送悄悄話 (84 bytes) (345 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:12:31
? 哇，恭喜！ -ashouluo2012- 給 ashouluo2012 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:13:41
? 我都愁死了，還啥都不能說 -Croissant_22- 給 Croissant_22 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (18 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:33
? 西人？如果人又好又帥，西人也挺好的啊。 -ashouluo2012- 給 ashouluo2012 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (4 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:37
? 我就是擔心韓國男孩子會有些大男子主義 -Croissant_22- 給 Croissant_22 發送悄悄話 (96 bytes) (72 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:49:13
? 優點呢？ -紫牡丹- 給 紫牡丹 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:55:00
? 學霸？ -Croissant_22- 給 Croissant_22 發送悄悄話 (42 bytes) (44 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:58:15
? 亞洲人啊，挺好的啊。是不是大男子主意，交往看看再說 -ashouluo2012- 給 ashouluo2012 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:00:03
? 哪個顏色的都會有大男子主義的 LOL -Numero- 給 Numero 發送悄悄話 Numero 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:04:07
? 娃還小，大男子主義也過不了小美女這關，交往看看 -紫牡丹- 給 紫牡丹 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:03:01
? 我看到的很多韓國男生五官不如ABC，你娃能看上的應該是很帥的。紫檀有 -Numero- 給 Numero 發送悄悄話 Numero 的博客首頁 (129 bytes) (40 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:02:28
? 影視劇看多了吧，大男子主義都是以前的事吧？ABK受的是美國熏陶吧 -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:05:22
? 哈哈。-：） -有言- 給 有言 發送悄悄話 有言 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:13:24
? 愁啥？準丈母娘哪裏不滿意？ -紫牡丹- 給 紫牡丹 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:27:20
? 恭喜恭喜！ -phoenix05- 給 phoenix05 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:20
? 沒事，下一個可能就是華二代 -兩女寶媽- 給 兩女寶媽 發送悄悄話 兩女寶媽 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:31
? 你家大美女不是有男朋友了嗎？ -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:46
? 恭喜！小白？小韓？ -Numero- 給 Numero 發送悄悄話 Numero 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:40
? 恭喜恭喜 -成功的小羊- 給 成功的小羊 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:40
? 恭喜恭喜啊 -紫牡丹- 給 紫牡丹 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:16
? gxgx -tennisluv- 給 tennisluv 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:33
? 問題是現在ABC男生都不主動 -JT20871- 給 JT20871 發送悄悄話 (392 bytes) (118 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:27:06
? 跟我們學，主動吧? -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (33 bytes) (68 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:36:20
? 你家是遇到自己動心的了，而且對方也有意。我們這些，沒遇到啊，想主動都不知道往哪裏主動 -ashouluo2012- 給 ashouluo2012 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:38:56
? 我現在都神經啦，也許真有緣分等著? -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (75 bytes) (49 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:41:16
? 才多大就老大難了？ -randomness- 給 randomness 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:58:06
? 我也建議了 -JT20871- 給 JT20871 發送悄悄話 (107 bytes) (70 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:39:44
? 告他說，現在大學裏女孩子主動都不是個事啦 -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (99 bytes) (49 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:42:29
? 他要改變思路 -JT20871- 給 JT20871 發送悄悄話 (176 bytes) (43 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:44:12
? 恭喜！ -加州陽光123- 給 加州陽光123 發送悄悄話 加州陽光123 的博客首頁 (258 bytes) (39 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:39:02
? 恭喜恭喜，要是個小中就更好了。 -其樂無窮- 給 其樂無窮 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:22:58
? 男娃吧？ -katies- 給 katies 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:13:22
? 能談就談，說實話不是成熟的孩子，基本都是失敗為主，當練手了 -yzhl888- 給 yzhl888 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (4 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:22
? 哈哈，不小心看成更想交男朋友了 -兩女寶媽- 給 兩女寶媽 發送悄悄話 兩女寶媽 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:40
? 哈哈哈。 -成功的小羊- 給 成功的小羊 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:22:24
? 其實我也順著樓主意思，差點兒二五眼了 -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:25:06
? 哈哈哈哈！寶媽太幽默了 -嘉荷- 給 嘉荷 發送悄悄話 嘉荷 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:35:48
? 這種事，在美國，是欲望強烈不強烈的問題。如果不交過女友，事業很難成功 -mjnew- 給 mjnew 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (10 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:50
? 不矛盾啊。看緣分，不能強求，有喜歡的就去追，沒喜歡的不強找 -Numero- 給 Numero 發送悄悄話 Numero 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:24
? 這種問題還用問嗎，俺都是祈使句，”go get a girlfriend.”，嘿嘿 -skyport- 給 skyport 發送悄悄話 skyport 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:19:30
? “Or two”. -pct- 給 pct 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:24:19
? 我們都是反疑問句，你以為我不想嗎? -保膘- 給 保膘 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:01
? 二娃聽話不？ -嘉荷- 給 嘉荷 發送悄悄話 嘉荷 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:29:55
? 他聽完一樂，然後該幹啥幹啥：） -skyport- 給 skyport 發送悄悄話 skyport 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:31:50
? 這是把機會留給別人啊，無意中為他人著想 -zxcv- 給 zxcv 發送悄悄話 zxcv 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:30:46
? 無論男女，優秀的娃，一旦有了這個想法，分分鍾可以自己搞定 -成功的小羊- 給 成功的小羊 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:53:00我問過娃，在大學裏，打算交女朋友嗎
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娃說，不想，因為更喜歡交很多朋友。問題是現在ABC男生都不主動
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回答: 我覺得熊娃即將被學長追走了 由 Croissant_22 於 2023-09-20 18:12:31
我家都是白人男生約，我說怎麽沒有ABC男生，你們不是在一起玩的挺多的，我家的蹭我一句，沒ABC男生約我，你不是說女孩不能主動。我看現在要改變策略，否則真的要外嫁了暈 告他說，現在大學裏女孩子主動都不是個事啦
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回答: 我也建議了 由 JT20871 於 2023-09-20 18:39:44
我們家孩子周圍５，６個小中女小韓女都是先主動告白的，全都成了
? Love is blind-;))...... - 青鬆站 - 給 青鬆站 發送悄悄話 青鬆站 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/19/2023 14:06:12
? Yes. blind leads blind, After Ever Happy R 2022 ? 1h 59m - TJKCB - 給 TJKCB 發送悄悄話 TJKCB 的博客首頁 (54278 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:29:02
? Setting clear boundaries is essential for maintaining - 盈盈一笑間 - 給 盈盈一笑間 發送悄悄話 盈盈一笑間 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/19/2023 17:12:41 (2)
? healthy relationship... - 盈盈一笑間 - 給 盈盈一笑間 發送悄悄話 盈盈一笑間 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/19/2023 17:13:09
? Where for boundaries? How clear is clear? Hard to do but eas - TJKCB - 給 TJKCB 發送悄悄話 TJKCB 的博客首頁 (78 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 09:24:10 (1)
? Thank you for sharing. Love is not business :) - CBA7 - 給 CBA7 發送悄悄話 CBA7 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/19/2023 20:57:07 (1)
? +100086！！！ - 盈盈一笑間 - 給 盈盈一笑間 發送悄悄話 盈盈一笑間 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 05:16:25
? Thank you, 盈盈。 - CBA7 - 給 CBA7 發送悄悄話 CBA7 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 07:39:00
? How about this one: Love is our business, but not business. - CBA7 - 給 CBA7 發送悄悄話 CBA7 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/20/2023 07:39:35 (1)
? Clever! you draw the boundary! - TJKCB - 給 TJKCB 發送悄悄話 TJKCB 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:24:59
? 非常好！大讚！：）） - 盈盈一笑間 - 給 盈盈一笑間 發送悄悄話 盈盈一笑間 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 10:28:31
? Thanks for sharing - 方外居士 - 給 方外居士 發送悄悄話 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/19/2023 21:32:19 (2)
? thanks for your feedback - TJKCB - 給 TJKCB 發送悄悄話 TJKCB 的博客首頁 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:26:19