\'Marriage Bed\', Sleep Quality and Co-sleep with a Child

Since I moved Bobo out of my bed and singled from a "marriage bed", I found I wake up in the mornings fresh and ready to sing or in reality get dressed even when I went to bed the night before at 1:00am.  The quality of sleep I get now is so much better.  I wondered how I was not aware of how much it actually disturbed my quality of life.

I am a decent sleeper, not overly sensitive but capable of hearing and waking up quickly.  Unlike a lot of new Moms, I was always very sure of myself not hurting my baby when she slept next to me.  I'm a quiet sleeper where I can stay in one position and not move the whole night.   Ex was a roudy sleeper who can never sleep in a bed with flat sheet because they would be turned around or fall off before you know it.  I didn't realize how his roudiness at night has disturbed my sleep till the absence of it allowed me to see how well I sleep.

Here is what I think couples of different sleep pattern should do.  Get a sleep number mattress, so you have his and her side.  Use two comforters on most days in a King bed except weekends or someother chosen days.

Bobo consider sleeping with me a treat, so she still sleep in my bed on Saturday nights, and sometimes even Friday night.  On those days, I could always sense when she kicked her bedding off and it's time to rearrange the comforter for her so her tummy is covered but her legs are free to move.

Staring at her so close, I can't help but kissing her delicate nose and forehead, so peaceful, so tender, and so perfect.  There is something about your own kid that just make any work you have to do for them something you enjoy and look forward doing.  I love you, my child.  I want to enjoy these sweet moments.  Please bless me, God -- with wisdom to raise her a happy, capable and responsible person and bless her with a heart to enjoy her child some day like how much I do now!

Since Bobo was born, I never wondered why humans live.  I believe we live to enjoy our children and raise them to enjoy theirs -- not for the purpose of  continueing your legacy per say, but to enjoy them above all.  A legacy is a bonus but not purpose.