That I Am
Passion to life is like wings to the airplanes. Only when the arms of passion open up, the flight of life take off.
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Ex is visiting from China. Out of consideration for Bobo, I offered to let him stay in the house. I will be crashing with a friend nearby.
The thought was simple, but I find myself encountering a lot of decisions.
Shall I see him once, more or none at all? Just for my personal preference, I would rather not to see him. Rationally, I told myself to see as often as need to be for Bobo's sake.
Shall I take all the cloths and not visiting home at all during the whole 9 day visit? Because what if I came in at a time that's he is sleeping etc? Shall I tell him in advance that I'm coming so he can be out or at least not surprised?
Shall I trust him with the whole house, or lock that one room where I have all my financials etc?
Do I let him sleep in my bed because Bobo and I share the same huge bedroom, and Bobo is used to have the adult sleeping nearby or should I insist him staying in the guest bedroom?
Shall I keep some of Bobo's food around in the house and tell him what to do with them for Bobo? Will he be inderent to the work it takes to do it and just let them go bad?
Bobo has an important test on Friday. It is crucial for her to get to bed on time Would he honor my request?
How do I approach these requests so not to irritate him? He is so easily irritated by requests that he perceives them as control.
He may have jet leg. Will he be up to the task to take care Bobo on the first two days? Shall I offer to take care of her if he is not feeling up to it?
The list goes on and on.... The friend I'm staying with has cats and I'm allergic to cats. Is this the right decision for me? Is it worth my sacrafice?
After 11 years of marriage, one would think I have more answers than questions on our collaboration. Well, that's why it is the right decision to seperate. My answer to the questions is to treat the house as his in terms of what food to keep, and what to do. It's up to him to waste or use. I will keep some around for Bobo's sake. Ask him before I stop by so there is no surprise encounter, but only go back if I have to, and minimize the trips. Write him an email as to what to do for Bobo's activities and school routine. It's up to him to honor it or be irritated by it. The way he has not responded to my emails about Bobo's soccer game schedule and Birthday party invitation makes me think his likelyhood of honoring them is very low. But such is life for this one week and two days.
I signed up to volunteer at Bobo's classroom on Friday morning, so I can ease her concern of not seeing me for long. I can tell she is very excited to see Daddy after five months of absence. On the other hand, she is also concerned and with mixed feelings.
Hope all goes well, and I know God bless us all!
The thought was simple, but I find myself encountering a lot of decisions.
Shall I see him once, more or none at all? Just for my personal preference, I would rather not to see him. Rationally, I told myself to see as often as need to be for Bobo's sake.
Shall I take all the cloths and not visiting home at all during the whole 9 day visit? Because what if I came in at a time that's he is sleeping etc? Shall I tell him in advance that I'm coming so he can be out or at least not surprised?
Shall I trust him with the whole house, or lock that one room where I have all my financials etc?
Do I let him sleep in my bed because Bobo and I share the same huge bedroom, and Bobo is used to have the adult sleeping nearby or should I insist him staying in the guest bedroom?
Shall I keep some of Bobo's food around in the house and tell him what to do with them for Bobo? Will he be inderent to the work it takes to do it and just let them go bad?
Bobo has an important test on Friday. It is crucial for her to get to bed on time Would he honor my request?
How do I approach these requests so not to irritate him? He is so easily irritated by requests that he perceives them as control.
He may have jet leg. Will he be up to the task to take care Bobo on the first two days? Shall I offer to take care of her if he is not feeling up to it?
The list goes on and on.... The friend I'm staying with has cats and I'm allergic to cats. Is this the right decision for me? Is it worth my sacrafice?
After 11 years of marriage, one would think I have more answers than questions on our collaboration. Well, that's why it is the right decision to seperate. My answer to the questions is to treat the house as his in terms of what food to keep, and what to do. It's up to him to waste or use. I will keep some around for Bobo's sake. Ask him before I stop by so there is no surprise encounter, but only go back if I have to, and minimize the trips. Write him an email as to what to do for Bobo's activities and school routine. It's up to him to honor it or be irritated by it. The way he has not responded to my emails about Bobo's soccer game schedule and Birthday party invitation makes me think his likelyhood of honoring them is very low. But such is life for this one week and two days.
I signed up to volunteer at Bobo's classroom on Friday morning, so I can ease her concern of not seeing me for long. I can tell she is very excited to see Daddy after five months of absence. On the other hand, she is also concerned and with mixed feelings.
Hope all goes well, and I know God bless us all!
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