My daughter Jane, who is four years plus 6 months, spent more than ten minutes on processing one piece of hand-made job that is very simple I think. However she became more and more impatient with every step of unfinished task. I tried to help her without her agreeing. She was very angry and shouted at me: “please don’t take me like baby”. I totally shook.
“Can I help you, my dear?” I tried gently to discuss her.
“No, I can do it”, said Jane.
“But you have already focused on it so long, still fail. Maybe we work together to finish it?” I wanted to persuade her to accept my help.
Finally Jane can’t help crying.
I went to ketch for drinking one cup of ice water, namely I proposed both of us needed to calm down to think something or can come to a conclusion after cooling down. I understood that daughter prefer to enjoy the high self-esteem, and hope she can be leader in every field so that one spot of trouble or small piece of frustration would be beyond her, as her teacher always access that she is a talent girl with mature idea. However sometimes I don’t observe the whole procedure and care her feeling; and hope finish every job according to my thought and life rhythm. Maybe roughly interfere with something in her field, and don’t respect her. She did think.
However, how I wonder should, follow her needs and respect her? In the light of education book, firstly we should encourage children, rather than scold or smack and removal privilege while children make mistake. This is why I go away while child is the condition of angry most of time. Generally my daughter needs almost twenty minutes for angry including cry or laydown her bed to recover happy mood, by then I decide to ask why she was angry and share my viewpoint. Finally I prefer to negotiate the privilege and punishment with her in the next familiar case and bring a conclusion. Unfortunately the same case occurred month in and month out. I don’t know if I am short of wisdom to educate her?
