女人都是順毛驢

同床異夢仍相守，
幾成恩愛有來由?
塵緣未盡情已去，
攜手餘生到白頭！

 

我不懂女人，而且從來就不懂，這也是為什麽我一直害怕女人的原因之一。我今天寫女人，並不是我有所長進，也不是一夜之間我就突然變得聰明起來了。而其始作俑者，還是女人自己讓我在敬畏中慢慢習慣的下意識堆集起來，變成我的人生詞典裏的一個概念: "女人都是"順毛驢"。

 

以往我總是與"好男不和女鬥"為敵，總喜歡在前人的智慧麵前耍聰明。結果是我被自己的愚蠢搞大了頭，也把一條橫幅牢牢的掛在了心上: "唯女人與小人難養也。"

 

有時我們前進的步伐太大，以至於我們來不及看清自己和現實的真正麵貌，而停下來是最聰明的選擇。毛驢很倔，如果你不順了它的意，它就會不停的撂蹶子。如果你沒忘記"黔驢技窮"的典故，裏麵的老虎開始也對它敬畏三分。但老虎聰明啊，它懂得停下來觀察，摸清狀況後才從容向前。女人都有毛驢的倔性和固執，尤其是結了婚的女人，連過去曾有過的矜持也廉價出售給了昨天。在親人麵前，在他男人麵前，如果不順她的意，哈哈，她比毛驢還要倔。

 

女人對"她的男人"要求很多，起碼在潛意識裏是這樣的。她們總是會在內心深處反複比較，潛移默化的影響她們的思維習慣，又在日常生活中有意無意的表現出來，籠統一些地講，她們希望他們喜歡的男人相貌如潘安，掙錢像蓋茨，體壯似金鋼，身高若姚明。但這不是她們的錯，比較是平常之心。不能一概而論的說因為比較了就減少了幾分先前對你的愛意。愛是個變量，是你們朝夕相處，甘苦與共聚積而成的豐碩成果。當然如果男人那點不符合她們的要求，也會惹得女人無來由的生出許多怨恨來，怨就怨吧，還要嘮嘮叨叨，甚至大發脾氣(雌激素是要運動的啊！)。而最讓男人受不了的也正是這沒來由的怒氣，這邊還丈二摸不著頭腦，那邊已經邪火中燒了。如果回敬幾句必然是一場世界大戰，有的還是一場持久戰。

 

上帝保佑！如果你，一個大男人心裏有敬畏，就在女人打你左臉時，幹脆送上右邊的，這樣絕對會有息事寧人效果。其實男女之間，有多少大是大非? 不過就是生活中的一些雞毛蒜皮的瑣事，床頭打完床尾和(不打豈不是更好)的無聊。你們多年的感情是用磚和泥土混在一起搭起來的一道比長城還結實的城牆，不可能憑一次發驢就能撼動它的基礎。小浪根本就翻不了大船，而你們多年血肉融合經營起來的愛巢就是這樣一條經得起大風大浪的船。所以沉住氣，不要和你的"毛驢"計較，也不要太在意她的某句狠話，因為沒有是非的是非本來就是一本糊塗賬，在這個世界上也隻有家才是沒有是非能說的清楚的地方。男人委屈一下，認個違心的錯，等風平浪靜以後再君子報仇。哈哈，保你事半功倍，再說好漢不吃眼前虧啊！

 

記住女人都是"順毛驢"，懂得說小話的人才能辦"大事"。放下身段的男人更像一個男子漢，善於"服從"的男人才是個真正的好男人！當然這樣的男人要有愛和胸襟。

 

再羅嗦一句: 女人都是用愛做的，結了婚的女人大多還一心一意，隻要你善用順從之道，你的家裏就會常常陽光普照，否則。。。。。。。。

 

哈哈，我就是個瞎白話，別全信我，也別全不信。在此班門弄斧，全是為了這可憐世界上像我一樣可憐的男人 辟一條生活的小路來。

 

不是冤家不聚頭，你可以在外征服一群女人，回家還得被一個女人征服，哈哈哈
 

女人要寵，男人要臉。

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[northamericaCW]

Why you guess the guy is 美國白人? Yes, he is a good person for sure. I just want to say even two good people are still hard to get along very well. Sorry I am lazy to type chinese, or I never figure out how to type chinese, but really enjoy to read it. (Used to write diary everyday in China until leaving the country).

[northamericaCW]

My side story is the man is always calm, gentle, sharp speak and great morals, but really know how to use languages to prove his right. But he doesn't understand woman and I consider him still like a ungrow-up teen who think he knows everthing. If he prove any conflicts are always because women is 小毛驢 and wrong, this consider stubborn and low EQ. This drives woman crazy as well.

[平凡往事]

回複盈袖2006的評論:
女人要寵，男人要臉。

[平凡往事]

回複zt88的評論:
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[盈袖2006]

我們都想做快樂的小毛驢:)

[zt88]

好文。都是經驗和智慧啊！

[eaglewings]

平凡太不容易了. 讀完下麵的, 您可能心情會好一些因為 you are not alone. 對天下男同誌們深表同情啊.


The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
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Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished.
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A little boy asked his father, "Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?"
The father replied, "I don't know son, I'm still paying."
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Young Son: Is it true, Dad, that in some parts of Africa a man doesn't know his wife until he marries her?
Dad: That happens in every country, son.
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Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; then it was too late.
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A man placed an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted."
The next day he received a hundred letters.
They all said the same : "You can have mine."
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I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.
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Just think, if it weren't for marriage, men would go through life thinking they had no faults at all.
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First guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive.
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The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once.

[小艾媽媽]

你這高度的覺悟，估計你家的毛驢兒再不會撂蹶子了吧！哈哈，有趣。我這就給我家男人下絆子七。