謝謝各位，，特別是親奈可奈滴五天MM，，，，，，俺決定，第一，先要把他喂得肥肥滴；第二，多誇誇他（不過這家夥跟俺差不多，沒誇的時候尾巴已經在天上了，一誇就不像個人了）。這個making him do pushups and situps sounds great, i'll try this...nothing else is working now,,,,啥啥123,outline punishment,,,這個健體強身滴辦法聽起來真不錯，再次謝謝5天MM～～～～～～～～～
親愛的四黑，不要理那些沒同情心的筒子們，我在網上給你找了兩個和八黑有類似行為的孩子他媽的答案給你叁考，我覺得是可行的，還有我不太讚成過度誇獎小孩子，隻在八黑表現好才誇他，不要因為你誇了別的小孩就要順便誇八黑。要八黑從小懂得媽媽的誇獎是物有所值的。
我有個教鋼琴的朋友說教中國父母的preschool小孩鋼琴最大的問題是不能對他們太嚴格要求，因為他們的父母很怕小孩子吃那些練鋼琴基本功的苦，明明彈得很差和一聽就一個星期沒練琴也要誇他們Wonderful。結果呢就是考不上級，她同時教的另外三個韓國preschool小孩就全考上了，這六個小孩都是同一級別都是4 to 6 歲左右。問題就出在中國父母盲目的誇小孩，並和我朋友說:"You are too intense!" 我朋友解釋給他們聽練基本功的重要性，但那幾個中國媽媽就把我朋友給炒掉了。我說這麽多就是想要四黑了解對小孩子要三合一，嚴格，表揚，關心。沒有小孩子喜歡被紀律規管的，但小時不教大了就很難學會律己律人了。好了下麵是我幫四黑網上找的答案，叁考一下下吧，大家不同意我觀點的用點麵包啥的砸我就算了吧，我還沒吃早餐呢，嘎嘎嘎~~~~~~~~~~~~
ANSWER 1:
"I know how you feel. my boy is now 6 and I always had a problem with disipline. I'm ex army and my husband is active army. I tried everything. He ended up being adhd and we had to find an outlet for all of his extra energy and be a punishment. I started making him do pushups and situps like you would do in the army when you get in trouble. He was 4 yrs old when we started and he would only have to do 4 of one instead of time out. now hes 6 and does about 10-15 of one or less depending on the "crime". He almost never gets into serious trouble now. Even his now 4 yr old sister who is completly normal (not hyperactive) does theese punishments. It works great as long as you dont go over board. Also I use the techniques in the parenting book called 1-2-3 magic. I would tell every parent to read and use this book as the ultimate parenting help book ever. When I count from 1 to 3 my kids know they need to get up and straighten up if the dont want to loose tv,game or friend time. Youll do fine "
ANSWER 2:
Gosh, I can completely sympathise with you. I'm is more or less the same boat,but this has worked for me.1. giving him a choice of either doing what is asked of him or facing a punishment. 2. if he still doesn't listen then i repeat what i have said but outline what the punishment will be, wheich changes depending on the situation (loosing privalages, time out etc). 3. If i still don't get the response i want then i let him know that i will count to 10 and then implement the punishment. i tell him that he has till 10 to consider the punishment that is coming to him.... i've seen that counting slowly normally does the trick and makes him listen. but the key to this is the consistency...initially the first 3-4 time when i did this, he didn't respond so i had to go thru with the punishment. when he realised that it would happen every time, he started responding. the other thing i have learnt is to keep very calm thru this whole process and not raise my voice,easier said than done..i know!
