common law 誠意

我今年39歲, 未婚. 博士學位. 與某男士交往5年. 在此之前沒有戀愛經曆.

父母高知, 家教甚嚴.

我與該男士在一起, 波折很多. 曾經墮過三次胎. 個中故事不堪回首.

現在我沒有工作, 去向待定. 我們不在一個城市, 但我大多數時間都待在他所在的城市照顧他的生活. 我的所有生活費用全部由自己負擔. 聖誕節, 新年, 春節也沒有收到他的禮物. 感覺很受傷. 以前我會提前給他買好禮物, 今年等了等, 和往年一樣, 我還是什麽禮物也沒有. 所以今年我也就徹底省了. 省錢, 省心, 省期待.

和父母講好今年夏天接他們來這裏玩, 之前從未透露過該男士和我之間的關係. 不想讓他們擔心.

他離過婚. 現在他想和我生個孩子. 我提出想結婚, 因為前麵三次經曆, 我不想孩子是未婚先孕. 他不同意和我結婚, 先是說水到渠成, 後來又說隻願意 “就這樣過日子, 這裏的人都是common law.

he only wants common law. He said lots of people in North America live like this. Eventually he would marry me. I told him I didn't want to disappoint my family so much. He insisted that he divorced once and didn't want to get into another marriage too soon. He needed a break. I told him I have waited him for five years to get ready.

At the beginning of our relationship, he told we're not going to have a wedding, neither any fancy pictures. I accepted these conditions, and now he went further.

I do not have a job now. Staying with him in one city means "less opportunity" I have to say. He already told me that he wouldn't leave this city if I found job somewhere else.

So, my question here, do you think I should go further with him?

所有跟帖： 

• leave him... -一根陽線- ♂ (16 bytes) () 02/02/2009 postreply 22:06:48

• 我總是擔心離開他, 他會孤獨. -誰願意- ♀ (50 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:54:34

• no.他應該“非誠勿擾”。 -那一朵紫花- ♀ (123 bytes) () 02/02/2009 postreply 22:20:43

• 男人有那麽複雜嗎? -貧農:- ♂ (158 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 04:56:53

• 不是針對男人，男人女人都有這樣的。 -那一朵紫花- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 09:39:22

• 你早該離開他了 -lavendar~- ♀ (124 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 05:27:42

• OMG, -好看？- ♀ (85 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:35:07

• 對不起，是跟LZ的。 -好看？- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:35:56

• 補充一個生活片段 -誰願意- ♀ (608 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:11:05

• 那我還是勸你離開吧... -貧農:- ♂ (23 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:16:51

• 不過我知道你很可能離不開他 -貧農:- ♂ (81 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:43:20

• 狗咬狗，一嘴毛！ -小小迷糊蟲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 18:08:35

• ask yourself, -好看？- ♀ (131 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:39:36

• I recommend a book to you: -1990- ♀ (122 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:58:13

• 回複：common law 誠意 -誰願意- ♀ (278 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:38:08

• 你心裏應該很明白的，但是你在deny自己的判斷。 -好看？- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:47:00

• 我真是不想說： 誰願意？ 除了你願意.. -無銀- ♀ (216 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:56:43

• true -誰願意- ♀ (567 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 10:23:01

• 有三個觀點。 -僅一位- ♂ (233 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 08:05:34

• 是啊, 旁觀者覺得不合情理. 自輕, 人才以為賤. -誰願意- ♀ (101 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 10:33:19

• 看到第三行就不想再往下看了。 -aqua_kid- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 11:12:44

• 我的感覺是：１。 你先找份工作。不知你哪裏來那麽多錢不工作 -fpxjz- ♀ (391 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 12:06:27