The message conveyed in passage above, I think, is not to look down upon yourself.
If you don't treasure yourself, nobody will treaure you and you couldn't count on others to find your value.
You should love yourself. Here's an example, "... I got into many relationships, expecting my partner to show me my beauty. I needed to see him showing me my beauty. Because I didn’t feel beautiful. Because when I was growing up, my “sheroes” were Charle’s Angels, Wonder Woman, and though they were wonderful women, none of them looked like me. It wasn’t until I stopped and I fell in love with Lisa, full lips, round hips, mocha skin, afro, that the rest of the world began to fall in love with Lisa. ... "
