[交了作業去上班]--朋友升成俺的官-俺有點小火咋涼拌？

When you get to know that your best friend gets promoted to be your manager, admit or not, part of you will feel jealous as the first response. Why him, not me? What has he done that I haven’t done? Is he a super apple polisher in disguise or what? Does he really deserve it?

Can’t blame you for all these groundless speculations and sour grapes. People always compete with each other. This is part of our daily life, part of our nature. The competition is more intense among people you know, most intense among good friends. You two started at the same position in the company and suddenly one has this new title, better pay, a nice office with door, while you are still slaving in the same routine work in the small cubicle and what’s more you have to report to him as a subordinate. Hard not to be grumpy.

But everything has its bright side. It is also a good time to think why your friend gets promoted, not you. Did he work overtime to finish some important projects before deadlines while you were slacking off or busy hitting on the newcomer hottie? Did he come up with some original strategies to help the company hold gains despite the competitive market? Or how did he communicate so successfully with your boss (or in your words – how did he suck up so well?). You can look to him as a positive example you may want to follow for your own career advancement. Learn from him, apply what you’ve learned to your day-to-day work life, and pay your dues and one day you will also be paid off big time. Stuck with a bunch of loser friends, you may never feel this kind of jealousy because you are just one of them.

Besides, there is another good thing about your best friend being your boss. As least he knows you and you know him. You two like each other and admire each otherwise you can’t become best friends in the first place. It is always good to have a friend in the top management. You may be not on the top of the layoff list when the company goes down. You may get more understanding and support when your family matters conflict with your work. You should also feel lucky after thinking about how often one can end up with a boss who doesn’t see eye to eye on most things with you, a boss who always make it hot for you or a boss who plays favoritism against you.

Of course, after the initial emotional jolt settles down, and you finally accept the fact that your best friend is now your new boss, second question pops up – how am I going to approach him now? It must be awkward, at least a bit. One thing you must be clear headed about is that he is no longer your best friend he was before. Some boundaries must be drawn. Show your respect and show some distance. You two used to hole up in your small cubicle in some idle afternoons, holding down voice carefully, b-i-t-c-h-ing about your boss together excitedly. Can this be done again? NO, NO. You two used to exchange and relish the water cooler gossips during the coffee breaks. Can this be done again? NO, NO. You two used to make those juicy comments at the back about this co-worker’s boobs, that co-worker’s butts. Can this be done again? NO, NO, sorry, no more such fun. To be frank, all those fun stuff above is the magic piece of a great friendship. Without that, you and your newly promoted friend are no longer best friends.

But you can still somehow manage a friendship with him by hanging out after walk with no work talk. What you can do at workplace is to be professional, business is business, don’t make business with pleasure, be open-minded and prepare for the worst. If your new boss gets this promotion thing to his head, start to look down on you or something? He is not a good friend or a respectful boss worth keeping, dust off your resume, dump him and move on.

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• 俺硬是自個找出那個禁閉字了，PF自己一把. Sis，俺作業交了 -lilac09- ♀ (2974 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 10:49:04

• 謝謝Sis讀了When Your Best Friend Becomes Your Boss後的即興隨筆。 -婉蕠- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 10:57:30

• 碗m，對不住了，下會俺跟你貼，這次太折騰了~ -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 11:05:53

• 你的跟貼就是一篇好文，單獨發帖更好，這樣更多的網友可以讀到。 -婉蕠- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 11:10:40

• 寫得好，思維敏捷，條理清晰，美語地道，這文章的標題還押韻呢。 -婉蕠- ♀ (92 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 10:54:41

• 謝碗老師表揚，俺今不用站牆角了~~ -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 11:08:49

• 禮節美語: When Your Best Friend Becomes Your Boss (美語聽力) -婉蕠- ♀ (170 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 11:07:43

• this prob never bugs me :) -小千...千與千尋- ♀ (239 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 11:11:26

• 千m是那種讓人如沐春風的溫婉女孩，俺是呼呼叫的小西北風~~:) -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 12:14:21

• 有一種勝利叫撤退，有一種失敗叫占領 －《潛伏》經典台詞 -小千...千與千尋- ♀ (169 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 17:08:49

• 千m你誤會了，俺是臭名昭著的標題黨呀 -lilac09- ♀ (268 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 17:34:27

• 嗬嗬～對不起～是我看貼不仔細～～ -小千...千與千尋- ♀ (41 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 18:10:37

• 回複：[交了作業去上班]--朋友升成俺的官-俺有點小火咋涼拌？ -梅石瑩玉- ♀ (191 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 12:41:02

• 俺的梅表妹呀，俺下麵給您回帖了 -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 13:17:06

• i am not good at polishing apples, can i shine your shoes? ha -tigersclaws- ♂ (13 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 13:01:17

• 讓沙是比亞給俺擦皮鞋不太委屈您了~~ -lilac09- ♀ (99 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 13:18:55

• :p meanwhile u can't rule out the possibility that -小媛- ♀ (308 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 14:01:38

• 回複：:p meanwhile u can't rule out the possibility that -lilac09- ♀ (146 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 16:31:54

• A very good article, Thanks mm~ -天澤園- ♀ (72 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 22:10:08

• Thanks 天mm~. I wrote it but it isn't about me.:) -lilac09- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 13:42:12