Professional copy editor can’t stop editing people’s grammar

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Carolyn Hax: Professional copy editor can’t stop editing people’s grammar

Columnist for The Washington Post

Dear Carolyn: As a professional copy editor, I am very aware of how people use words, which has led me into a habit I hate. When I talk with people, I often find myself editing their grammar and correcting their mistakes in my head. (I never actually tell them — I know how obnoxious that would be!) People who pepper their conversation with garbage words — “like,” “you know,” “I mean,” “do you know what I’m saying?” — drive me crazy, and sometimes I am so braced for the next one I lose track of what they’re saying. These are people I work with, live with, love; I want to stop! How?

Carolyn: You cut off the emotional reward for judging, and amplify the reward for accepting.

It's habit now, so use a (mental) manual override: You are not inherently better for your word use, you are merely better trained.

What you have is expertise — the way a mechanic has expertise, or a chef, or a surgeon, or a wide receiver.

I suppose an NFL wide receiver might scoff at me if I laid out for a pass, but unless my life takes a strange turn, he won’t get the opportunity. A trained writer, meanwhile, marinates in speech from people who weren’t taught the nuances of lay vs. lie, or pedagogically hassled out of extraneous likes. Yet prevalence doesn’t make one kind of judging more appropriate, just less absurd.

If you don’t think they’re analogous, lean in for a closer look. Just because (almost) everyone uses language and not everyone plays football doesn’t mean the role of training and expertise are any less germane. It takes only exposure to learn a language but years of training to master one. Not everyone has access to that training, and some who do will either decline to put in the work or have other battles to fight.

And where it is a matter of innate ability — well, we all have some strengths and lack others.

So. Every time you flinch at garbage words, link “like” to empathy a la Pavlov: Imagine the speaker dropping passes or singing off-key or staring helplessly under a car’s hood, and offer the same degree of acceptance. They’re good at all kinds of things — just not this. And you even love some of them, which certainly helps.