為什麽老毛說“與人鬥，其樂無窮”？因為與人鬥極具挑戰性！“如果她對我有意見為什麽不根我提呢？”，你為什麽認為我一個陌生人能處在一個比你自己更好的位置回答這個問題呢？你如果沒有琢磨人的天賦和愛好，玩職場政治自然跌跌撞撞。
具體回答你的問題：
情況1: 老板對誰都不提意見
- 原因可能是新當老板沒經驗，臉皮薄，有或是不會處理衝突害怕提意見
- 老板隻喜歡用胡蘿卜不會用棍子，你做的好，就多給胡蘿卜，不好，就餓著，等你自己想明白你怎麽做的不好
情況2: 老板對別人提意見
- 老板比較委婉 1 on 1 時先說八句好話然後提了一句中性的事，最後一句是提意見了，等你回應然後挖出問題呢。你還沉浸在八句好話的飄飄然之中...
- 別人 1 on 1 時主動問“我有什麽能做的更好”，你從不問
- 很久以前老板批評過一次，結果你情緒激動，她遞了半盒紙巾給你，下班回家你闖了紅燈吃了ticket，在公司臉黑了一禮拜。老板 feel bad 請教了西人文學城(Reddit, stackoverflow)，結論是對女性東方人，隻能積極引導(positive reinforcement)，不能批評。
沒有相應的天賦，琢磨人比琢磨 code 難，你琢磨不透老板是幾個意思，就該直接問。給你幾個模版：
- Hi, Clair, there is something bothering me recently, can we talk?
- I felt really bad about the recent outages in our production environment. Crowne Plaza (company C) is really pissed at us. I am losing sleep over this and really worried about it happening again. I did some postmortem on my own and came up with a number of area of improvement. Would like to share with you and also hearing your observation and what I could have done better.
- 你想繼續當 Lead：Clair, I really appreciate you believing in me and the last thing I want is to become a liability for you. I want to deliver on your expectations. I noticed you gave a number of tasks to Jeff. Like the day before yesterday, you asked Jeff to push the new widget code into production. You used to give this kind of assignment to me since I am local and, in your words, I always follow up with Crowne Plaza. I understand trust is earned and I could be wrong, but I have a feeling that you are afraid of me screwing it up. Am I right?
