but since the office is in downtown, I need to take public transit every day. So at least 2 hours on commute everyday. It is a federal government position but not a typical government job, has revenue goals. I had an interview with the GM, a pretty tough lady. My manager is another city."
If you think you can handle the things you listed above for the second job, e.g. 2 hours commute, then go ahead take it. Otherwise, 1 is better. Less stress is better. Happy mom, happy daughter. especially, you are a single mom.