Go with your wife, because
1) she is your LD
2) she makes sense in the following:
you still have 25+ years of career to struggle before you reach 65(or 67) if our social security still works; too early for your career confort zone.
life style -- the city life can offer your kids a variety of life styles and develop social skills,
A's salary is higher, penny counts:)
no moving hassle.
