i have seen a lot case like this.
tell you an old joke:
a guy is not good with talking to people, he asked for help from a friend prior to a party. His friend told him just to ask people how are their kids, and are they married.
so, in the party, the guy asked a woman:
How many kids you have? woman said, "3." then he asked, "are you married?" The woman was angry. then the guy's friend told him he should as the second question first.
Next time, the guy asked another woman, "are you married?" the woman said "not yet." then he asked "how many kids you have?"
