老土, what should I do now?

About myself: Got layoff 1 year ago. Stay home and take care of family. Due to 1 year unemployeement benefit almost end, I am planning to go out to find a job.

Recently a recuriter found me and sent my resume to his client. He asked for my reference since the beginning. As I saw he had detail job description, I believe there is a position available. So I only gave out the reference list with name, no contact phone number. I also marked in the email that I would provide the reference people phone number when they decided to hire me. But that recuriter check my ex-boss right away(by calling company front-desk), even before my phone interview! :(

Then he said my ex-boss gave him a good reference, and arranged a phone interview for me.

At the phone interview, although I was able to answer all tech questions correctly, but I don't think I pass the behavior questions. That "director of software development" woman appears to be very aggressive. I can see that woman expect very passionable people work for her, maybe 24*7. I don't like that company now.

I feel very upset because it appears that the recuriter abused ( or say, I gave him the chance to abused ) my reference. It happened before. The recuriter got my reference just to help themselves, they check reference at the beginning instead of check reference after client decide to hire me.

I really hate myself. If this keep going, no one wants to be my reference anymore. So much trouble.

So upset....

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• 回複：老土, what should I do now? -平安是福mtl- ♀ (346 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 16:48:22

• That's correct! Reference不是手紙，隻能用一次 -胡說之- ♂ (99 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 16:53:31

• Thank you for 平安是福 and 胡說之 reply. -未知未覺- ♀ (514 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 18:17:19

• 回複：Thank you for 平安是福 and 胡說之 reply. -胡說之- ♂ (504 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 18:53:31

• Thank your reply. I just sent a Thank you letter to my ex-boss. -未知未覺- ♀ (149 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 19:45:37

• 回複：老土, what should I do now? -美國老土- ♂ (924 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 19:03:57

• Thank for Proffessor Tu's reply. -未知未覺- ♀ (752 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 19:46:42

• 俺也幾次栽倒在BahaviorQ上，你的89個Q/A在哪裏？ -iCall- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 19:49:33

• Is this the link? -未知未覺- ♀ (120 bytes) () 10/17/2010 postreply 19:58:35

• 不知道你在哪裏,TORONTO有的AGENCY是這樣的, 可以不給的,或隻給名字!!! -如洋- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/18/2010 postreply 06:35:40

• it is common now that there ae so many people seeking jobs. -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (167 bytes) () 10/18/2010 postreply 08:08:22

• 謝謝 如洋 and Cathy -未知未覺- ♀ (108 bytes) () 10/18/2010 postreply 09:58:16