回複：怎麽玩，才是win-win呢?

首先，你就不能把他定義為bully。這樣的 prejudice 一形成，就沒有win-win game 可以玩了。win-win game，雙方要站在戰線的同一端。這個話題說起來長，暫且不提。

具體到你這個case，我覺得至少可以采用中策：不樹敵。樹敵何益？寫拒絕的email，也沒有必要公開地羞辱一個人。

換個思路：

Joe, congrats to your promotion, well deserved. Your newly proposed projects are very exciting, I am sure they would boost the performance of our world-famous product, which is the best thing human beings ever have, and I am honored that I am picked as the executor. However, my hands are pretty tight for the time being, as you may know I am working on several important projects like reducing green gas emission, fighting against global warming and children starvation in the developing countries etc etc. I have to discuss my priorities and availability with my boss, mean while, I'd suggest you to get more resources from the top management. Any-hoo, I'd love to help in different ways before everything is sorted out, like sharing my experience and ideas...

這兒來個免責條款：隻是思路，不是語錄。上回某個帖子就被實心老鷹拍了磚。

發email，尤其是群發的時候，措辭一定要講究, being positive and cooperative. Two wrongs can't make a right.

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