integration counts:depth and width

In Germany is same. Chinese are really a bit kept from the sociaty.

For example, me

1) i am not sure what i shall chat and what i shall not chat, and how long

2) i do not know how to chat with a guy which businessly not that close to me--> i am a bit fraid of rumor

3) and more trouble for me: i do not know how to get me mixed in a girls group. shall i be that gossip? they are too younger or too older for me.

For younger, i do not know how to talk about pops, bars, and guys or boyfriends...

For older, i am not that old.

I just find too less people with same background as me....