follow-up: big fight with group lead

I am stunned that there were so many replies. WEll, I did not put things clearly the first time. Group lead is GM. My superviser is a director reporting to him. I complained about some issues regarding another sr. director, under GM as well. My superviser used this as a good excuse to beat that sr director and gained a re-org to strengthen his power here. GM learned about my issues from my superviser and wanted to talk about it. A good chance to enhance my relationship with him Yes it is. But I blew it by being too candid about the issues. And my way of communication apparently pushed him to the other side. I think he realized there were some serious issues there. but he is more on their side now. It was very stupid on my side to be way too honest. Also, a lesson learned is that all bosses want to hear good news, not bad ones. If you compare his team to others and tell him the other team is better, the conversation will not have a good ending.
My superviser urged me to talk with GM again saying his door is open for me to have another conversation. I simply cannot talk with him now. I am scared that sth else will come up we will end up fighting again.

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• 回複：你英語溝通能力是沒你中國話來的明白...我懂,我把自己拍昏先! -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (26 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:27:18

• 你操太多心了，不在其位不謀其政，否則名不正則言不順 -龍少爺- ♂ (38 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:23:27

• 順便說一句，這是我們很多中國同胞的通病，喜人很反感這個 -龍少爺- ♂ (0 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:24:47

• 回複：你操太多心了，不在其位不謀其政，否則名不正則言不順 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (87 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:26:03

• 你總認為自己是對的，這是另一個問題，所以你才吵架 -龍少爺- ♂ (377 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:34:57

• 回複：你總認為自己是對的，這是另一個問題，所以你才吵架 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (86 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:44:12

• 工作的事情永遠都是第二位的，處好關係是第一位的 -龍少爺- ♂ (181 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:50:40

• 回複：工作的事情永遠都是第二位的，處好關係是第一位的 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (20 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:53:48

• 我知道你這種性格的人我根本說服不了你，你比較適合當領導 -龍少爺- ♂ (42 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:52:56

• 回複：盡早和老板談吧,這事越久越難往回圓 -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (110 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 17:30:09

• 回複：這個比喻太棒了。老美就能做到這點，“臉皮太後” -百萬富翁- ♂ (14 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 19:44:25

• 回複：做一個真實的你不是很好嗎？為什麽要躲躲閃閃的？ -百萬富翁- ♂ (0 bytes) () 01/30/2009 postreply 19:41:10

• The truthful self would not want to have another conversation -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (109 bytes) () 01/31/2009 postreply 15:52:05