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回答: 煩人的印度女同事，請各位給出出主意 由 tx老菜鳥 於 2007-09-01 14:17:08
-- 公司裏毒蛇和雜草很多,保護自己的第一道放線就是要自強!
-- 如果你不自信和自強, 你就是別人案上的肉.
"上班才三個星期，就被印度女同事搞的心煩。
我們是在同一天麵試（事後聊天知道），她之前有三年工作經驗，我是entry level.
可是我拿到的是permanent 職位，而她是contract to hire.我們在同一個組，report給同一個manager（和我們不在同一個州）. 她比我早一個星期上班（我因為家庭原因推遲了一星期）。
自從我上班第一天起，她就以一個老資格雇員的身份不停的教育我要這樣那樣（都是她主動來找我說話），不時到我的辦公桌跟前來查看我在幹什麽。還經常打聽老板都給我布置了些什麽任務。"
-- 她有她的千條計, 你要有你的老主意: 自強!
-- Focus on your work;
-- Onloy report to your manager;
-- Ignore all others;
"我在學新東西（老板要求的），被她看到，就和我說，Daniel（manager的名字）說了讓你看這個嗎？"
-- Answer: Do I have to report to you? Is this your business? Why you care?
" 隻要我和老板通了電話別她察覺就會來問：“剛才你再和Daniel說話嗎？ 都說了些什麽”等等，諸如此類的。"
-- Do I have to report all my phone calls to you?
-- I have no comment to your question.
-- Period, that's it. Otherwise she will continue coming to bother you.
-- You have to let her know you are NOT that kind of dumm to answer all her questions.
至於她自己沒事就和老板打電話匯報工作等等我就不說了，畢竟這是她的權利。 可是有兩件事實在是很過分。
1）一日中午，她約我到外麵去吃飯，吃飯時問我很多麵試的細節，比如何時遞的簡曆？麵試時都問了些什麽問題？pay多少等等。除了工資我沒告訴之外其他我都如實相告。
-- Why you report to her all the truth?
-- You have to set up a protection line in front of yourself, never ever answer all the questions the other party is trying to spy from you.
-- You will not gain respect from her even you tell her all the truth.
-- For many of her question, don't tell is the best way to answer. Period. "I have no comment for this question".
"我想她可能怎麽也想不明白為什麽她隻是個contractor，和我相比她又太多優勢：經驗，語言等等"
-- She doesn't need to understood all the things.
-- The fact is She is a CONTRACTOR;
-- The fact is a CONTRACTOR shouldn't bother a employee for all the above questions.
-- You do not need to answer her every question.
-- AND YOU NEED HIGHLKY ALERT FOR THIS KIND OF PERSON AND THIS KIND OF QUESTION.
-- STAY AWAY WITH HER, DON'T ANSWER HER QUESTION.
-- SHOW NO INTEREST TO HER, AND NO INTERESTING TO HER QUESTION.
-- SHE ASKES YOU THE INTERVIEW QUESTION, YOU ANSWER HER " TODAY'S WETHER IS SO NICE."
2）上周我們的manager Daniel從加州過來培訓我們，她每天盛裝上班（我們公司要求穿business casual,她平常都穿的邋遢隨便）---也無可非議，畢竟大家都想給老板留下好印象。可是他還是一如既往的盯著我，隻要老板和我單獨說了會話，她就會趁老板走開時過來打聽。一天老板把我單獨叫到一個會議室討論今年的目標，因為公司規定每個員工都得定下goal,以便倒是考核performance. 第二天一上班她就假裝和我聊天然後問我“你昨天和老板單獨出去幹嘛了”，當我告訴她我們去討論年度目標之後，她就追問那老板給擬定的目標是什麽？有哪些具體的數字？
我當時非常非常反感，於是就說還沒有最後定，等定下來回發email告訴我。
當然她也告訴我作為contractor,她沒有這個process,可是問這麽具體也太過分了吧？ 我想她下星期上班肯定還會找機會問，但我實在不想告訴她，我該怎麽辦呢？"
-- I think I already answerred your question above.
-- Ignore her question and do NOT give any answer. Period.
-- Let her knonw you are not dumm, and you are not suppose to report to her.
我這個人沒什麽太大的野心，隻想把工作做好，把家庭照顧好，但也不想隨便被別人欺負和騷擾。直覺告訴我她很有野心，我現在盡量和他保持距離，可她總是不停的近乎騷擾我，這在才上班三個星期，今後難免會有更多的事情，我該怎麽辦呢？大家能不能幫我處處主意怎麽對付這個煩人的同事？ 謝謝了！
-- You need to be strong and learn how to protect yourself.
Thanks!
回答: 煩人的印度女同事，請各位給出出主意 由 tx老菜鳥 於 2007-09-01 14:17:08
-- 公司裏毒蛇和雜草很多,保護自己的第一道放線就是要自強!
-- 如果你不自信和自強, 你就是別人案上的肉.
"上班才三個星期，就被印度女同事搞的心煩。
我們是在同一天麵試（事後聊天知道），她之前有三年工作經驗，我是entry level.
可是我拿到的是permanent 職位，而她是contract to hire.我們在同一個組，report給同一個manager（和我們不在同一個州）. 她比我早一個星期上班（我因為家庭原因推遲了一星期）。
自從我上班第一天起，她就以一個老資格雇員的身份不停的教育我要這樣那樣（都是她主動來找我說話），不時到我的辦公桌跟前來查看我在幹什麽。還經常打聽老板都給我布置了些什麽任務。"
-- 她有她的千條計, 你要有你的老主意: 自強!
-- Focus on your work;
-- Onloy report to your manager;
-- Ignore all others;
"我在學新東西（老板要求的），被她看到，就和我說，Daniel（manager的名字）說了讓你看這個嗎？"
-- Answer: Do I have to report to you? Is this your business? Why you care?
" 隻要我和老板通了電話別她察覺就會來問：“剛才你再和Daniel說話嗎？ 都說了些什麽”等等，諸如此類的。"
-- Do I have to report all my phone calls to you?
-- I have no comment to your question.
-- Period, that's it. Otherwise she will continue coming to bother you.
-- You have to let her know you are NOT that kind of dumm to answer all her questions.
至於她自己沒事就和老板打電話匯報工作等等我就不說了，畢竟這是她的權利。 可是有兩件事實在是很過分。
1）一日中午，她約我到外麵去吃飯，吃飯時問我很多麵試的細節，比如何時遞的簡曆？麵試時都問了些什麽問題？pay多少等等。除了工資我沒告訴之外其他我都如實相告。
-- Why you report to her all the truth?
-- You have to set up a protection line in front of yourself, never ever answer all the questions the other party is trying to spy from you.
-- You will not gain respect from her even you tell her all the truth.
-- For many of her question, don't tell is the best way to answer. Period. "I have no comment for this question".
"我想她可能怎麽也想不明白為什麽她隻是個contractor，和我相比她又太多優勢：經驗，語言等等"
-- She doesn't need to understood all the things.
-- The fact is She is a CONTRACTOR;
-- The fact is a CONTRACTOR shouldn't bother a employee for all the above questions.
-- You do not need to answer her every question.
-- AND YOU NEED HIGHLKY ALERT FOR THIS KIND OF PERSON AND THIS KIND OF QUESTION.
-- STAY AWAY WITH HER, DON'T ANSWER HER QUESTION.
-- SHOW NO INTEREST TO HER, AND NO INTERESTING TO HER QUESTION.
-- SHE ASKES YOU THE INTERVIEW QUESTION, YOU ANSWER HER " TODAY'S WETHER IS SO NICE."
2）上周我們的manager Daniel從加州過來培訓我們，她每天盛裝上班（我們公司要求穿business casual,她平常都穿的邋遢隨便）---也無可非議，畢竟大家都想給老板留下好印象。可是他還是一如既往的盯著我，隻要老板和我單獨說了會話，她就會趁老板走開時過來打聽。一天老板把我單獨叫到一個會議室討論今年的目標，因為公司規定每個員工都得定下goal,以便倒是考核performance. 第二天一上班她就假裝和我聊天然後問我“你昨天和老板單獨出去幹嘛了”，當我告訴她我們去討論年度目標之後，她就追問那老板給擬定的目標是什麽？有哪些具體的數字？
我當時非常非常反感，於是就說還沒有最後定，等定下來回發email告訴我。
當然她也告訴我作為contractor,她沒有這個process,可是問這麽具體也太過分了吧？ 我想她下星期上班肯定還會找機會問，但我實在不想告訴她，我該怎麽辦呢？"
-- I think I already answerred your question above.
-- Ignore her question and do NOT give any answer. Period.
-- Let her knonw you are not dumm, and you are not suppose to report to her.
我這個人沒什麽太大的野心，隻想把工作做好，把家庭照顧好，但也不想隨便被別人欺負和騷擾。直覺告訴我她很有野心，我現在盡量和他保持距離，可她總是不停的近乎騷擾我，這在才上班三個星期，今後難免會有更多的事情，我該怎麽辦呢？大家能不能幫我處處主意怎麽對付這個煩人的同事？ 謝謝了！
-- You need to be strong and learn how to protect yourself.
Thanks!
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