If Only
“If Only” is a romantic love story happening in London, UK, between an American girl Samantha and a British boy Ian. Interestingly, the movie demonstrates two scenarios which touches and teaches people what love is.
In scenario 1, Ian seemed not in love with Samantha though he claimed he did. For example, he forgot her graduate concert, bought her flowers after being reminded, behaved impatiently in front of her favorite student. He refused to get on the cab Samantha was taking after a huge fight with her. In the end, he witnessed the death of Samantha in the car accident.
Scenario 1 turned out to be Ian’s dream. He realized he has been taking for granted for her love. So Ian intended to show his affection to Samantha in a tangible way in scenario 2. He took Samantha to his hometown and told her his family and childhood. He helped Samantha to get rid of the fear of riding the big roller coaster above the Thames River. He encouraged Samantha to play their song in her graduate concert. In the end, when a coming car hit the cab they were taking, he sacrificed himself to save the life of his beloved. Although Ian died, his love supported Samantha to live her life with confidence and courage.
I haven’t watched romantic movies for a long while for I am becoming losing the interest in this kind while I am aging. Though I saw it for fun on weekend, still it taught me something. People usually can do a better job when being given the second opportunity for we are constantly in a process of making decisions which we can’t predict the consequences. For example, I could have held an American degree now rather than just getting into a program. I could be more confident if I had have trained my oral English a little earlier, and as a result, I could have stronger interpersonal/communication skills now. However, we can’t live our lives as described in the movie. Life doesn’t give us the second chance. So wasting time to cry for the spilled milk is useless. Why don’t simply move forward. Admittedly, wisdom comes with experience. And the experience is highly dependent on how much, when and what people have been through. Back to the movie, if Ian never had the nightmare, he could have not been aware his ignorance/carelessness. This is the process of learning, in a hard way though. We all do.
I am so out of date. :-)
席慕蓉《中年的心情》 :))
Who is that very romantic poet?
I feel I am aging everyday:-))
---ZT
今夜，在我的燈下，我終於感覺到一種中年的心情了。
這是 - 種既複雜卻又單純，既悲傷卻又歡喜，既無奈卻又無怨的心情。
這是一種我一直不會完全知道的心情。
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十幾年的生活，使我有了不同，我已經知道，世間的美是無限的，而終我一生，我所能得到的卻隻是有限中的有限，就隻有那麽一點點而已。因此，既然是這樣，為什麽不能好好地來享受我眼前所能見到的這 - 點有限的美呢？
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在人生的長路上，總會遇到分歧的一點，無論我選擇了那一個方向，總是會有一個方向與我相背，使我後悔。
此刻，在我置身的這條路上，和風麗日，滿眼蒼翠，而我相信，我當初若是選擇了另外一個方向，也必然會有同樣的陽光，同樣的鳥語花香。隻是，就因為在那一個分歧點上，我隻能選擇一條被安排好的路，所以，越走越遠以後，每次回顧，就都會有一種其名的悵惆。在我心裏，那條我沒能走上的小徑就每次都在那裏，在模糊的顏色裏，向我展露著一種模糊的憂傷。
然而，中年的心情，是由不得我來隨意後悔的啊！
於是，我不斷地充實自己，鍛煉自己，告訴自己：要了解世間美麗與珍奇的無限，要安靜，要知足，要從容，要不後悔我所有的抉擇，所有的分離和割舍。
因此，對現在的時刻就越發地珍惜起來。我想，所有被我匆忙地拋在後麵的日子，對於它們，我是再也無能為力了。可是，對那些即將要來臨的，對眼前的這一個時刻，我還來得及把握，還可以用我的全心與全力來等待、企盼與經營。
我想，無論如何，在往後的日子裏，對所有被我珍惜的那裏事物，我都要以一種從容與認真的態度去對待。
我原來以為，隻要認真地琢磨，我可以把中年的時光琢磨成一塊晶瑩剔透的玉，隻要我肯努力，生活就可以變得極為光潔、純淨、沒有絲毫的瑕疵。
可是，我卻不知道，生命裏到處都鋪展著如迷般的軌道，就算是到了中年，有些事情仍然是我無法探索也無法明白更無法控製的了。
因此，我愕然發現，人類的努力原來也是有限的。理想依舊存在，隻是在每一個畫夜的反複裏，會發生很多細小瑣碎的錯誤，將我與我的理想慢慢隔開。回頭望過去，生命裏所有的記憶都隻能變成一幅褪色的畫，而隻有我自己才知道，在我心裏，曾經是那樣鮮明的顏色啊！
麵對著這樣的一種結果，我在悲傷之中又隱隱有著歡喜，喜歡臣服於自己的命運，喜歡時光與浪潮對生命的衝洗。
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Never too later to learn or change. thanks for being so supportive.