我欣賞的男人和女人

城中出現了一道命題作文“我欣賞的男人”，忍不住也來玩玩， also per my friend Helen’s request.

我欣賞的男人：

自信豁達：和這樣的男人交往如沐春風，如浴陽光。女人不用擔心哪一句話說得不對會惹得對方不高興；不用擔心由於自己失誤造成的困窘會被對方恥笑。這種特質往往還會感染身邊的女人，使她們也逐漸自信豁達起來。男人給女人的踏實安全和被尊重的感覺來源於他的自信豁達。

責任心和事業心：在我的理念中，一個沒有事業整天顧家的男人比有事業而不太顧家的男人更可怕，男人沒有事業就像是鳥兒沒有翅膀。事業可大可小，重要的是做得開心做的投入。沒有責任心的男人就像是沒有靈魂，失去誠信的人，很難想象一個女人敢把她的一生交給一個沒有誠信的男人。

樂觀和幽默：幽默不是滑稽，不是耍貧嘴，是自信豁達和睿智樂觀的體現。人生不如意十有八九，真正能做到常想一二的，非樂觀的人莫屬。樂觀幽默的人善於從日常生活中發現美，欣賞美，善於把hardship轉變為enjoy，非生活的曆練所不能及。

興趣愛好：都說修身齊家治國平天下，沒有興趣愛好，怎麽修身養性，怎麽博學多才？打球，遊泳，讀書，寫作，繪畫，集郵。。。都可以，隻要五毒不包括在內。

我欣賞的女人：

自信寬容：是的，女人也要自信豁達。Remember as a woman, one is supposed to stand side by side with the man, to support the man. That is the task assigned by the super nature. 寬容是溫柔的內涵之一。這種寬容是有原則的，不是把自己當成受虐狂。溫柔不是發嗲，也不全是小鳥依人。溫柔是一種外柔內剛。不能總要求男人在生活中扮演父兄的角色，哄著寵著女人，有時候要反過來。人嘛，總希望被關注，被寵愛，被體貼，in terms of these, men are little different from women, personal opinion.

率真善良：女人的可愛在於，即使到了耄耋之年，仍保持著一顆少女般年輕的心（太誇張了），心年輕人就年輕。善良是女人的本質，女人一切的美好源於她善良的本性。我欣賞率直的女人，不矯揉造作。

內外兼修：女人不是花瓶，well-rounded 的女人比單純的漂亮女人更有魅力和生命力。女人的美應該不隻在於她的臉旦和外表，更主要的在於她的頭腦和精神。As a woman, one doesn't need to be pretty but neat and decent.

其實，我欣賞的男人和女人的標準很相似。是不是要求太高了，太理想化了？生活中這樣的男人和女人很多，隻是每個人在每個方麵的表現程度不同罷了。所以說好男人好女人就在你我身邊。

 

 

 

 

[melly]

回複BWW的評論:

Thanks for dropping lines. I know that you are clear about the answer but try to tease a bit.

Yes, women do love handsome men though everybody had her own criteria. As men prefer charming girls over pretty ones, women are more interested in genteel guys than those physical attractive ones. I do not think a narrow-minded, arrogant or self-abased man has any chance to be popular even if he is physically attractive. On the other hand, the inside culture will be manifested by ourside temperament, which will last longer. So to both men and women, there is no shortcut to be charming but self-training physically and spiritually.

My two cents for talking.

[BWW]

為什麽不把英俊， 偉岸， 瀟灑放在裏麵？ 您是故意忘了， 還是覺得不言而喻?


俺覺得女人應該喜歡英俊的男人。 您要不同意， 我跟您急！！！

[melly]

回複flysnow68的評論:

you are definitely one of those whom I admire.

[flysnow68]

好樣的！我欣賞你的欣賞。。。~_~。。。

[melly]

回複snake_sky的評論:

Thank you, I love it too, especailly the way she looked at.

[snake_sky]

I like that painting so much! "girl with a pearl earring".

[melly]

回複林貝卡的評論:

Thank you Rebecca.

[林貝卡]

寫得好。

[melly]

回複yunyan的評論:

There is no right or wrong ansers. Different people have different idea about men and women. Those are only my personal oppinion, somehow unrealistic. Yes, you are right about matching. Only people who match each other spititually are happy and comfortable with each other.

Thanks for supporting.

[melly]

回複Flamenco_Girl的評論:

I agree with you. I do not care much about his/her physical appearance though he/she should be neat and decent. What I care is his/her temperament which has to be cultivated little by little.

[yunyan]

男人和女人都有優缺點，相互欣賞才是最重要的，相互欣賞也要相互匹配。標準不重要， 對嗎？說錯了請海涵

[Flamenco_Girl]

I've been looking at this topic for a while, and ask myself, what's really 我欣賞的男人和女人.

同樣，我想我欣賞的男人和女人有相同之處。那多是一種氣質，與生俱來，再加上後天的發揚光大。

[melly]

回複fangyuanzhi的評論:

also difficult and ideal standard. hehe..

[fangyuanzhi]

好標準。

[melly]

回複wenjuyuan的評論:

I think one has to learn how to appreciate others, especialy in simple daily life.

[melly]

回複彩雲滿天飛的評論:

Thank you so very much. I take it as a compliment. What I wrote was based on several images in my mind.

[wenjuyuan]

应该再加上一条∶你所欣赏的 这種“男人/女人”有慧眼並能欣赏你所欣赏的这種“女人/男人.”Unfortunately, life often is not fair for these mem and women in terms of the kinds of spouses they have (based on my limited observations).

[彩雲滿天飛]

有品味~~~

[melly]

回複漩鞘的評論:

Thank you 漩鞘 for support. People are happy to be with those who have the matching personalities, either compatible or similar.In addition, self-training to fit in each other also counts.

[melly]

回複blhw72的評論:

Doesn't the woman I described here sound familiar?

I really do not think those are unreachable traits. I also believe what we need is to sensitize our sensors to sense the excellent characters. We all are wonderful, aren't we?

[漩鞘]

越琢磨越覺得你總結的非常好。

[blhw72]

A+, happy with the credit?

Whoops, excuse me, just notice you said"per friend Helen's request", not "assignment". Guess I could never have the previlege to be a teacher's teacher. Sigh...;-)

I echo your thoughts. It's actually easy to appreciate other human beings once you see a shining spot on him/her. You know why, because we stand away to watch.

When getting closer, you might think differently. It's just like you are looking at a work of an art. Different angles bring you different views.

[melly]

回複sweetie遐思的評論:

Thank you for comments.

I thought I was daydreaming again. hehe...Now I am sure I am not alone. Just kidding.

These are guidelines to evaluate a man or a woman.People have differnet criteria, which also reflect what kind of person one wants to become. The most important thing is to take action. Am I right?

[sweetie遐思]

讚同.

說出了我心中的欣賞特征.其實,無論男女,為人的標準確實是大同小異的.