個人視角（3）

遺失在慕尼黑的珍珠

愛與恨的交織，去與留的抉擇，舍與棄的無奈，這就是人生。

看來予心還真是小孩子氣，缺少一些 patience with life ，可愛啊 （哈哈）。不過誰又不是在經驗和教訓中成長的呢？特別是在感情方麵，人們容易一條道走到黑，不撞南牆不回頭（更有甚者，撞了南牆也不回頭）。這就是為什麽愛中往往包含著潛在的傷害的原因。人們往往會在愛的名義下，自覺不自覺地去要求對方，愛變成了一種負擔。有時甚至說不清楚是愛對方還是自己。遺憾的是，很多時候，人們的確把愛自己淩駕於愛別人之上了。最簡單的例子，人們經常會聽到做母親的抱怨，我如何如何忍受十月懷胎的辛苦，如何含辛茹苦的把孩子養大，孩子不好好學習，不按照母親的意願就是一種罪過，完全是一種愛的強暴。母親的邏輯是，因為我愛你，我付出了，你就應該用我的方式去回報。不幸的是，愛是讓人成長不是給人桎酷。（說遠了，嗬嗬）

其實不是得不到的才是最好的最可貴的，看看穀瑾，也有很多優點。很多時候，人們隻是眼光高，喜歡向前看（特別是自戀的人），忽略了生活中和你最接近的人。想想看，穀瑾又何嚐沒有給予心一片天呢？！予心還沒能體會婚姻中至親至疏夫妻的味道。

愛是一輩子的課題，學會了愛也就學會了生活。無論如何不要忘記生活中有很多寶貴的東西：感激和珍惜。有一個人可想可念，總比從此無心愛良夜，任它明月下西樓要好多了。

予心應該在去慕尼黑的路上讀一讀論語和莊子，或許會有幫助。

哈哈

[金重陽]

體會婚姻中至親至疏夫妻的味道是難體會的。

[melly]

I'd love to meet you. I visited your blog. Wow, pictures. You look gorgeous! Seriuosly. You remind me of my dancing experiences, well, not professional. hehe... I hope I could dance again someday and write something about it.

Thanks for coming and dropping lines.

[Flamenco_Girl]

while, "asking for change" is a feedback process, a necessary step in the two-way street, don't you think so?

I go to Ohio Star Ball almost every year (in November). If possible, we can meet there. It's the best and the biggest Dance Sport competition in North America.

[melly]

Thanks for your support.

I don't think asking for change is gonna work. The only way is self-adjustment. Most importantly, it is a two-way street.

Hey,I really want to learn dance with you. My favorite is Waltz.

[Flamenco_Girl]

Each one is a individual, it's chanlenge to fit two people together. If two people have to be realy close, they have to fit well to be comfortable. Asking another for change and self adjustment are necessary processes. I guess it's not really about love, but more about "fit", in multi-dimentions.