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人的感情生活，除去與生俱來的親情外，愛情和友情就像鳥兒的雙翅，使人的情感能夠得以飛翔和豐富多采。在這個喧囂、浮躁的社會，站在情感的邊緣地帶，我深思著該以怎樣的身份出現在你身邊。
“無論你將來是成功還是失敗，我永遠都會為你捧場。”不知誰說過，在這個世界上，男人最需要的除了一個老婆之外，還有一個紅顏知己。就讓我做你永遠的紅顏知己。我能懂你，你的一個眼神，一個動作，甚至一聲歎息；你也懂我，我的一句輕語，一縷柔情，甚至一份心事。我們彼此欣賞，彼此渴慕，我們彼此的關注滲入心靈深處。
盡管如此，我不會放縱我的感情，我會用情感的溫度計把握著我們之間的“度”，因為，我隻願做你永遠的紅顏知己。
我不做你的妻子，不必承擔相夫教子的重任，也不會象與你朝夕相伴，同床共枕的人那樣在你麵前絮絮叨叨說個沒完。我不會讓你感到我愛上你的威脅和擔憂，也不會給予你愛上我的誤解和激情，在這個“情人”風靡全球的時期，我也不做你的情人, 不會在你麵前頓足撒嬌無理取鬧。隻想與你無拘無束，推心置腹的訴說彼此的故事，暢談彼此的理想和對人生的追求。
是誰曾感歎“人生得一知己足矣”？又是誰在高唱“士為知己者死”？“山青青，水碧碧，高山流水……人生難得一知音，……”在情感世界裏，我願做你永遠的紅顏知己。如果你是藍天，太陽是妻子，月亮是情人，星星是知已，我願做點綴你生活的星星，雖然平凡，但是燦爛而又長久。也許我不是你的天空中最亮的那顆星星，但是，我會守著一份永恒，給你夜夜清輝，我會以我的蘭心蕙質，溫婉可人，穿過生活的喧囂，走進你的心靈。
我願做你忠實的傾聽者，在你悲傷難過時，在你遭遇逆境時，陪你把盞共飲，用我纖巧的手輕撫你眼中的潮汐，用我的溫柔給你最大的撫慰；我會在你取得成功時，悄悄微笑著從你身邊走開，心裏默默祝福你再接再厲。
有人說，紅顏知己是成年人的童話。就讓歲月為我們的從容作證，為我們磊落的笑聲作證，為我們寧靜的心境作證，讓我們將這份纖塵不染的情感延續，共同完成一個現實生活中成年人的童話。
在這個喧囂、浮躁的社會，縱然步履匆匆，能讓我帶著你的笑容，走過生命的每一個日子，是我最大的快樂和滿足。所以，此生，讓我做你永遠的紅顏知己。
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雙方都有襟胸，才能做成紅顏藍顏知己。
“無論你將來是成功還是失敗，我永遠都會為你捧場。”不知誰說過，在這個世界上，男人最需要的除了一個老婆之外，還有一個紅顏知己。就讓我做你永遠的紅顏知己。我能懂你，你的一個眼神，一個動作，甚至一聲歎息；你也懂我，我的一句輕語，一縷柔情，甚至一份心事。我們彼此欣賞，彼此渴慕，我們彼此的關注滲入心靈深處。
盡管如此，我不會放縱我的感情，我會用情感的溫度計把握著我們之間的“度”，因為，我隻願做你永遠的紅顏知己。
我不做你的妻子，不必承擔相夫教子的重任，也不會象與你朝夕相伴，同床共枕的人那樣在你麵前絮絮叨叨說個沒完。我不會讓你感到我愛上你的威脅和擔憂，也不會給予你愛上我的誤解和激情，在這個“情人”風靡全球的時期，我也不做你的情人, 不會在你麵前頓足撒嬌無理取鬧。隻想與你無拘無束，推心置腹的訴說彼此的故事，暢談彼此的理想和對人生的追求。
是誰曾感歎“人生得一知己足矣”？又是誰在高唱“士為知己者死”？“山青青，水碧碧，高山流水……人生難得一知音，……”在情感世界裏，我願做你永遠的紅顏知己。如果你是藍天，太陽是妻子，月亮是情人，星星是知已，我願做點綴你生活的星星，雖然平凡，但是燦爛而又長久。也許我不是你的天空中最亮的那顆星星，但是，我會守著一份永恒，給你夜夜清輝，我會以我的蘭心蕙質，溫婉可人，穿過生活的喧囂，走進你的心靈。
我願做你忠實的傾聽者，在你悲傷難過時，在你遭遇逆境時，陪你把盞共飲，用我纖巧的手輕撫你眼中的潮汐，用我的溫柔給你最大的撫慰；我會在你取得成功時，悄悄微笑著從你身邊走開，心裏默默祝福你再接再厲。
有人說，紅顏知己是成年人的童話。就讓歲月為我們的從容作證，為我們磊落的笑聲作證，為我們寧靜的心境作證，讓我們將這份纖塵不染的情感延續，共同完成一個現實生活中成年人的童話。
在這個喧囂、浮躁的社會，縱然步履匆匆，能讓我帶著你的笑容，走過生命的每一個日子，是我最大的快樂和滿足。所以，此生，讓我做你永遠的紅顏知己。
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雙方都有襟胸，才能做成紅顏藍顏知己。
我相信男女之間有很好的友誼，但是做成紅顏藍顏的絕對是鳳毛麟角。文章中也說了，是成年人的夢，是童話，並不真實。現實生活中更多的是異性好朋友。但是我不認為紅顏知己的存在構成了一個三人世界，夫妻之間不是100% 重合的兩個圓，而是大部分重合的兩個圓，各自應該有各自的空間。人無完人，誰也阻擋不了人們去欣賞婚姻以外的人。如果老公的女性朋友甚至紅顏知己可以幫助他認識女性，認識婚姻，那也未必不是一件好事。重要的是有和做紅顏知己的目的是什麽，程度如何。所以說要有胸襟，有智慧，有距離，多付出，少索取。 ：）我也隻是紙上談兵，還沒有修練到什麽人想要我做紅顏知己的程度。 ：）但是被美文感動一把，做做夢也不錯。
天寺姑娘的博客是我每天必看的幾個之一，非常美。
如果你的老公或者愛人也這樣有個紅顏知己，你能接受嗎？你願意做你老公的太陽，而她是你老公的星星，她和你分享你們的精神世界。如果你可以，你的胸襟讓我佩服！
我一直覺得男女之間是沒有紅顏存在的，有也是處於月亮那個位置。
我也胡說八道，歡迎指正，文筆很娟秀，我很喜歡！
Both marriage and soul mate are basically the same. When dating, one wants to get married. After getting married, one needs a soul mate. Soul mate does not need to match everything. Only a piece of soul is enough. It may last very long or forever. Regardless they meet or not. They can be online, pen pal or real life friends. Online is just one of the forms. Unfortunately, most people happen to have empty spots in their hearts. That's reality. One needs something to fill up the vacancy's in their hearts. People like adventures. It satisfies them. This is a constant struggle deep in one's heart.
You are such a sweet girl! No, you didn’t offend me at all. I wish you could see me smiling while writing. I was kidding by stating I am a bad woman. Actually, I hope I am a little bit bad somehow. You know what? Bad women, like bad men, are much popular nowadays. Lol
Alright, no more kidding. I love your concept of hold faith in marriage. Marriage is a life-long business. One can not enjoy the marriage without strong faith. Marriage, like everything else, goes up and down now and then, except 7-year itch. I despise those who rashly divorces once the marriage goes down. Healthy friendship will help to build up good marriage.
Neither being friend with married males nor single males are safe. With married males, one could worry about marriage. With single males, don’t you worry if the guy would love you to death while you are married? :) No matter being with whom, married or single, clear head and big heart are needed. No wonder few male or female could really be soul mates for each other. Once we find what we like, the first response is to possess it. We are all human beings, greedy. Sigh.
Life is so interesting because of these paradoxes, conflicts such as marriage and friendship between man and woman. Let’s deal with them wisely.:)
Marriage relationship certainly wouldn't be able to meet all our satisfaction in spirituality. Thus we have friends, parents, siblings, children...... I would accept sexual relationship with a good friend with a condition that both of us are neither married nor involve in any serious relationship. As of one-night stand, it's personal choice, so long as people are aware of STDs.
I do believe there are true feelings occured between two married people or one married while the other not. I fully understand how they feel. I may sound negtive due to my previous personal experience in relationship. I don't appreciate and encourage being a married man's soulmate if he doesn't wanna get out of the marriage. Simply I still would like to hold my faith in marriage.
However, a woman and a man could really be good friends. Like what you said, they are always aware of not crossing the line improperly.
A thought, before a man and a woman get married, they should try to be friends first.
Don’t I think it is a game? Well, I think it depends on if the man and the woman cross the line. Love affair and one night-stand sometimes happening between friends are usually disguised with friendship. They may end either the friendship or the marriage. Keeping distance and being yourself are always basic rules in every relationship, especially friendship between a man and a woman.
Do I believe in pure Plato friendship? I used to, not now. Physical, even sexual attraction is everywhere. (In this case, you are extremely vulnerable.:)) Personally, I do believe having male friends will benefit us based on my experiences. Undoubtedly, a husband matches most of a woman’s need, but not all. Friends will meet the others. Soulmate, to me, is a tricky word. It is hard to define. I may not have any soulmate so far. In fact, simple friendship is good enough for me. Speaking of being a married male’s friend, well, I guess it is much easier because married people share similar topics.
I may be stupid and impossible, not because I am trying to find a married man as my soulmate but because I can’t stop believing beautiful things and being touched at the same time even if they are not realistic. However, keeping in mind the line and the limitation would be a good way to avoid trouble.
Hey, online friends may be safer as long as never trying to be offline. :)
Seems I am a bad woman. :)
Don't you think it is a game? It might bring some spice into life with a good friendship title. As well as subtly pushes both the man and the woman to the edge.
Do you believe a pure plato friendship between a woman and a man? I do believe any relationship is unable to develop with skipping physical attraction, which doesn't have to be sexual.
My best friend is an American male. While my hubby has a very good female friend -- an attractive American woman, his personal trainer. I am not indicating that both hubby and I are trying to jeopardize the marriage. However, I do admit it is a sensitive spot. That's why we both are carefully handling the friendship with open minds.
I would say, a married man wants an intimate female soulmate rather than his wife, that's selfishness. A woman is dreaming of being a married man's soulmate, that's stupidness. I am sorry to say that I don't see any beauty but pain and trouble.
They do not know "let it go" and "move on". As I said: "the door closed, another opened."
You brought on good points.
Human nature is multifaceted. So is emotion. I wish our spouses are our soulmates too. But most of the time, this is only our beautiful dream. One of the reason is the distance. It is easy for us to see something much more beautiful from a distance. Again, this is human nature, whatever we like it or not.
Actually, being an intimate female friend, like in this essay, is an excuse when her love could not be accepted. It is not practical, only like a fairtale indeed. It would not last long,because love is intimate.
Love is multifaceted too. Smart women will enjoy love from both family and friendship in simple, plain life.
Melly
Admittedly, we are all human beings. Feelings are something beyound our ration. Then I start to have a question, why we need marriage. It seems like marriage is not the destination of our love path.
Helen
胡說八道，請涼鑒。