睿媽睿爸的教育手記
【RAISING BOYS FIT TO CHANGE THE WORLD】
每天坐BUS Commute於New Jersey和NYC，不可避免地和很多司機打過交道。時間久了，發現一個有趣的現象，就是那些羅羅嗦嗦，邊開車邊說話（要麽自言自語，要麽和旁邊的乘客侃大山），或者因為別人Cut line 不時按喇叭的司機，看似工作很認真，其實是最糟糕的司機。有一個指標可以衡量，就是坐這些司機開的車，一般到家都比較晚。相反，那些很少說話，即使打招呼也是一個簡單的Hi的司機，其實效率最高，而且可以說非常Smart，知道在那種情況下應該走那條路。想想看，高峰時候往返與紐約城，能夠在車林Van雨中穿梭自如，這本身就是一種高超的技藝。是我一個人有這樣的感覺嗎？No。按道理說，冬天寒風凜冽，在露天等車的滋味應該不好受吧，可很多人就是願意多等一會兒，也不想做那些羅嗦司機的車，因為就算坐了，到家還比別人晚。
再想想，Tough Guy確實不說話。看看古今中外銀幕上的英雄，有羅嗦的嗎？如果有的話，大概就是《大話西遊》裏的唐僧了，嗬嗬。特別要說的是《終結者》裏麵的施瓦辛格和《中南海保鏢》裏的李連傑。前者那唯一的一句I will be back成了經典，而後者整部影片裏寥寥無幾的對白，使人驚奇於中國也有這樣的鐵漢。說起李連傑，上次回國的時候整好中央台播出對他的一個采訪，看了以後，說實話，聽失望的，話那個多啊，與銀幕英雄的想象相去甚遠，看來還是不要上電視嗬。
說起孩子，我發現現在的孩子都挺能說的，我老大就這樣，害得我有時不得不出麵製止，你說得太多了。說得太多好啊，至少比三棍子打不出一個屁的好吧？而且現在的社會不是講究Presentation，學校不是一直要大家展示自我，一直在說You are Special嗎？因此，有一個就要說１０個。你看那些天天在台麵上口若懸河的人物，不能說人家讓你上台嗎？
我要說的隻有４個字：本末倒置。
附錄：現在的網絡上真實無奇不有。前兩天我一search "Tough Guy Talk"，居然發現了還真有一個教人Tough的手冊，簡單列舉如下。再一搜索，更神奇了，居然有教人怎麽Smile和怎麽be Nice的…
Being a tough guy is perceived as being strong, fearless, and sometimes egotistical and macho.
1. Work out. Nothing says tough like massive arms. Get in the gym, hit the bench press and squats, and hit them hard. Don't tell anyone you've been working out either, come summertime the girls will be surprised at the pool.
2. Make sure you wear clothes to reflect your toughness. Once you're in shape, don't be afraid to wear something a little tighter. Just because you look good in clothes doesn't mean you're gay.
3. Do scary things. Scary things include twirling knives at the dinner table, being able to tell the exact dimensions of cartridges (Starters : 5.56x45mm NATO, 9x19mm Parabellum, 7.62x51mm NATO, 7.62x39mm Soviet, 12.7x99mm BMG, etc).
4. Don't talk much. Don't ask for help. Never let anyone see you upset. Don't talk about trivial things, mostly stick to what needs to be said.
5. Be mysterious. Allude to past events that caused you to be the way you are. Under no circumstances make anything up.
6. Nothing hurts. Pain is imaginary.
7. Be gruff, get that stubble look.
8. Be unpredictable. If you are unpredictable, people will not know what to expect from you, and this will discourage other "wannabe" tough-guys.
9. Earn the respect of other people. Why be a tough-guy if nobody respects you? Earn respect by helping people with hard tasks that nobody else will take, but make sure you aren't a 'push-over' or 'slave-boy', or enforce your respect (Depending on what side you are - good or bad). The choice is up to you!
