ChenYN Piano Tuner 陳師傅調音---家訓

生日前夜與八十老母談《家訓》

“夜覺曉非，今悔昨失”是《顏氏家訓》南北朝文人顏之推寫給子孫後代著作中的一段話……

最近一段時間是乎總覺得時間過得很快，在我生日前夜與老母一席家訓話題頗有深意特習以劄記；

 

早年就讀於杭州女子私塾學堂的老母如今八十多歲了，耳聰且思捷、彈琴論及我這個鋼琴調音師之“一技之長”……意蘊綿長。談及海內外之華裔對於兒女的教育引導之古訓首推《顏氏家訓》，這本書被世人認為是中國古代家訓的始祖，給後人很多的資訊和參考。

 

“積財千萬，不如薄技在身”這個“技”不是那樣容易習得地，更不是讀書或者積累上千萬的錢財換來的……一技之長傍身的最佳解釋應該是告誡家人多讀書、多思考的頭腦與身體部位的最佳組合才是一技之長。其中最值得崇尚的，還是讀書。“觀天下書未遍，不得妄下雌黃”還沒有看遍全天下各種類型的書，不要輕易對不懂的事物妄下評論。每個人都有自己的知識盲區，麵對不懂的事物，輕易去評價，恐怕會有失偏頗。

 

“見人讀數十卷書，便自高大，淩忽長者，輕慢同列。人疾之如仇敵，惡之如鴟梟（chī xiāo）。如此以學自損，不如無學也”老母說看遍海內外無數讀書人特別是讀了多年的高學曆者，發現他們好像覺得自己高人一等，看不慣別人也包括身邊的人！“怒懟長輩”……老母說看見這樣的人，就好像看到仇敵一般，覺得像鴟鴞一樣很可惡。如此讀書之學習態度，相當於自我毀滅，還不如不學習呢。老母借此告誡後人，讀書學習要有謙虛的態度，如果讀了幾本書就覺得高人一等，未免也太過於淺薄。

 

“世人多蔽，貴耳賤目，重遙輕近”當今這世界上，大多數人都會被一些現象蒙蔽，就是寧願相信道聽途說得來的消息，而不願意相信自己的眼睛；寧願相信外人的才能，而不相信身邊有能人異士。此句告誡後人，要有正確的判斷力，不要忽視身邊人的才能和作用。多年來老母不斷地教誨兒女們如何做人做事，維係家人（包括護理）和同行之間的關係且身體力行、口碑卓越。

 

“天下事以難而廢者十之一，以惰而廢者十之九”談及天下所有的事情中，因為覺得困難而導致半途而廢的，十件事情隻有一件；可是因為懶惰而半途而廢的，十件事情中就有九件。此句告誡後人，做事情不要因為困難而放棄，也不要因為懶惰而自暴自棄。隻要堅持和努力，一定擁有成就。老母視家珍般如數我二十多年前就學習掌握鋼琴調音技術且擁有今天的成績……貴在恒心也。

 

留存在今的很多教育理念如《顏氏家訓》《朱子家訓》都頗有其經典之處，然可貴的點滴老母“家訓”更是我們兒女心目中的指路明燈。……從琴廠學徒到施坦威工廠的訪問學習之路，老母的陪伴和叮囑讓我這個紐約的鋼琴調音師終身受益。感謝她老人家長壽安康！

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Last night before my birthday, I had a conversation with my eighty-year-old mother about the \"Family Rules\".\"It is too late to regret the mistakes of the past\" is a sentence from the \"Yan Family Rules\" written by the literati of the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Yan Zhi, to his descendants... Recently, I feel that time is passing quickly. On the eve of my birthday, I had a meaningful conversation with my mother about family rules and I took notes.My mother, who studied at Hangzhou Girls\' Private School in her early years, is now over eighty years old. She is sharp-minded and plays the piano. My \"specialty\" as a piano tuner... The ancient family rules of Chinese overseas Chinese for the guidance of their children are led by \"Yan Family Rules\". This book is regarded as the ancestor of ancient Chinese family rules, giving later generations a lot of information and references.\"It is better to be talented than to accumulate wealth\" is not something that can be easily acquired, nor is it exchanged for reading or accumulating millions of money... The best interpretation of having a specialty should be to remind the family to read more and think more, and the best combination of mind and body is the specialty. The most admirable thing is to read. \"If you have not seen all the books in the world, do not rashly criticize them\" before seeing all kinds of books in the world, do not rashly comment on things you don\'t understand. Everyone has their own knowledge blind spot. In the face of things you don\'t understand, it is easy to make biased judgments.\"When people see someone read dozens of books, they become arrogant and despise the elderly and treat their peers lightly. People hate them as if they were enemies, and despise them as if they were owls. Such learning attitude will damage themselves, so it is better not to learn\" My mother said, after seeing countless readers, especially those with a high education level, they seem to think that they are superior, and they can\'t stand others, including their own people! \"Angry elders\"... My mother said that when she saw such people, it was like seeing an enemy, and felt that it was as hateful as an owl. Such a learning attitude is equivalent to self-destruction, and it is better not to learn. My mother admonished later generations that they should have a humble attitude when they read and learn. If they feel superior after reading a few books, it may be too shallow.\"Most people in the world are blinded, they value their ears and despise their eyes, they value distant people and despise close people\" In today\'s world, most people are blinded by some phenomena, that is, they would rather believe in rumors than believe in their own eyes; they would rather believe in others\' talents than believe in the capable people around them. This sentence admonishes later generations to have correct judgment and not to ignore the talents and functions of people around them. For many years, my mother has been teaching her children how to be a person and how to do things, maintain the relationship between family members (including care) and be physically and verbally excellent.\"In all things in the world, one in ten fails because it is difficult, and nine in ten fail because of laziness\" In all things in the world, only one in ten fails because it is difficult, but nine in ten fail because of laziness. This sentence admonishes later generations not to give up because of difficulty, nor to give up because of laziness. As long as we persist and work hard, we will surely achieve success. My mother regarded me as a treasure and taught me to master the piano tuning technology more than twenty years ago and to achieve today\'s results... It is valuable to have perseverance.Many educational concepts preserved today, such as \"Yan Family Rules\" and \"Zhu Zi Family Rules\", are quite classic, but the precious bits and pieces of my mother\'s \"family rules\" are the guiding lights in our hearts. ... From the apprenticeship in the piano factory to the visit and study in the Steinway factory, my mother\'s company and admonition have benefited me, a piano tuner in New York, for life. Thank her for her longevity and health!